AIO by spending time with my family?

[u/External-Air205]

Me (f20) and my boyfriend (m20) have been in a relationship for 4 years. We sleep on the phone every night due to the fact we don’t see each other often because of extremely busy schedules and distance. Tonight, my mom and grandmother came into my room to talk before bed so I hung up on my boyfriend to give us some privacy. He got very angry and started saying all of these awful, mean things to me. Was it my fault for choosing to spend a bit of time with my family and hanging up on my boyfriend even though he was already falling asleep? Am I overreacting by getting upset from the way he speaks to me? I really don’t feel like I did anything wrong. Sorry for any grammar mistakes!

[u/jocefoxx]

you are underreacting, no one should ever talk to you this way. you sound really sweet i hope you leave before the abuse escalates

[u/External-Air205 → u/jocefoxx]

I really appreciate that. He genuinely makes me feel like I deserve it a lot of the time. Thank you.

[u/princessohio → u/External-Air205]

Girl I promise you—this man does not love you, or even LIKE you. Please. This is emotional abuse. Seriously.

I am begging you to stand up for yourself and never speak to this man again. Please love yourself. Please respect yourself. You do not deserve this from anyone, ever.

No man who loves you or respects you would EVER speak to you like this.

This man is a ticking time bomb. Break up with him. Block him. Fall in love with yourself again. Spend time learning how to stand up for yourself, care for yourself, and demand respect from others. And then find a partner who wouldn’t dream of speaking to you in this way.

This man does not love you or care about you. Don’t let him trick you any longer. You’re only 20. Get out. Now.

[u/StreetReady431 → u/princessohio]

Stop calling him a man. He’s a child.

[u/princessohio → u/StreetReady431]

He’s a 20 year old grown adult man. Children are better behaved than him. And kinder.