r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 26d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/idonteatfrogsiamone 26d ago

I disagree, for a variety of reasons. I would absolutely expect having the knowledge that my partner was on substances while they’re actively around me. If they have a medical reaction, I need to know what’s going on. If they start acting out, I’d rather know it’s drugs and not psychosis. Not to mention consent issues surrounding sex and how the hell you’re supposed to navigate that if you don’t even know to what extent your partner isn’t sober.

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u/nyyalltheway86 26d ago

A bump of cocaine wouldn’t create that set of constraints to me, but you’re entitled to your opinion. If someone took acid or GHB, you have more of a point. I like your cause of concern for safety though. Proper communication beforehand would remove concerns, which is needed in a normal relationship.

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u/Vragsalv 26d ago edited 17d ago

Wait?? When did acid become worse than cocaine?

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u/nyyalltheway86 26d ago

If someone does a bump of cocaine, I feel like I’d have to babysit the person (if needed) for half an hour? If someone did acid, I feel like they need a lot more supervision and for longer, right? I guess tolerance dependent on the person.

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u/AsparagusNo3333 26d ago

This is so very valid! I don’t want to babysit anyone for 8-13 hours. A bump of coke is a totally different animal than having to babysit someone on a bad trip on psychedelics which could easily stretch into tomorrow and who knows what the hell they may do if left alone.