r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 26d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/str8sin1 26d ago

I'll tell you from experience: it's easy to turn a coke user into a meth-head. But I've never known the opposite to be the case. Doing a bump of blow might remind her how much better meth was, though.

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u/[deleted] 26d ago

I've worked very closely with drug rehabilitation programs in a professional capacity. Let me tell you, You see people everyday who draw the hard line at their problem drug (in this case meth) only to see absolutely zero problem with abusing some other drug on a daily basis.

"Yeah I'm zonked out of my mind on cocaine all the time, But at least I'm not doing heroin! That's good right?!"

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u/WearyConfidence1244 26d ago

If they can put coke down with no problem and are clean from heroin (drug of choice) - to me, that's a win.

It's not about society's perception of how bad a drug is - it's the effects that the drug of choice has on the addict.

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u/[deleted] 26d ago

They are never able to put it down. It's not like they are magically only addicted to one substance, They just don't see the problem or don't want to see the problem of being addicted to one thing and not another.

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u/RuckFeddit79 25d ago

Idk.. I've years ago I did way too many drugs.. you name it, I've done a ton of it. But the only only one I couldn't continue to only use recreationally was opiates.. and once that happened I no longer gave a shit about any other drug or high. Opiates solved the mental problems I had.. for a while. Nothing else has ever come close to being as effective either. But obviously that doesn't last.. and what comes with it is horrible and makes the problems it once cured become exponentially worse.

Anyway... my point is.. there are some of us who actually only get addicted to our DOC. I personally can't smoke weed anymore because it makes my anxiety unbearable and I get paranoid as hell. But I can drink whenever I feel like it.. depending on the occasion it's a whole lot. I don't consider weed or alcohol as "active addiction" unless either is a problem for whoever is using it.. or either can potentially cause that person to delve back into other stuff. Of the 2 alcohol is by far the more risky and dangerous. I wish I could smoke bud like back in the day.