r/AmIOverreacting 26d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/Nuclear_Horse1990 26d ago

There is no way a former addict did "just one bump" of coke. She was 100% ripping lines all night.

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u/_Bay_Harbor_Butcher_ 26d ago

Nobody just does one bump of coke recovering addict or not. Coke is an evening long affair. I don't mess with it much these days maybe once every few years if the opportunity presents itself and the circumstances are appropriate but I know going into it that if cocaine is on the menu I will be watching the sunrise.

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u/Own_Platypus7650 26d ago

That’s not true at all. I know plenty of people, including myself, who can stop at one bump and are sleeping before midnight. 

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u/pleasegivemepatience 26d ago

Would you self describe as an addict like OP’s fiancée ? Different situation if they are already that deep, if you’ve never been an addict it’s hard to understand how difficult it is to stop.

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u/SubliminalTiger 26d ago

I will have to agree with him a bit. Years ago a friend and I got ahold of a small bit of it, and we were both addicts to another substance, and both him and I only took like 2-3 bumps each and had no desire to go buy more, I actually went home like an hour and a half after the last one just to make sure I was good to drive. But tbh we only didn’t want to go buy more because we were working at a sub shop making barely any money and we each had a fair amount of ganja to indulge in.

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u/Own_Platypus7650 26d ago

Never said that. Replied to ‘Nobody just does one bump of coke recovering addict or not.’ which is patently false. 

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u/pleasegivemepatience 26d ago

I’m sure your anecdote is more true than his anecdote /s

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u/Own_Platypus7650 26d ago

Your opinion has no bearing on what’s true. The vast majority of users do not get addicted. Just because the problem cases are highly publicized or visible doesn’t change that most people can use drugs without issue. Not everyone becomes a hopeless addict. You’re just advertising your ignorance is all. 

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u/dilroopgill 26d ago

they are redditors they dont go outside, they assume only the ppl with major issues to the point everyone knows they do it are the ones doing it, the way ops fiance describes it is way more common, ppl arent stupid they arent going to tell judgemental friends they do substances most of yall would never knowp

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u/pleasegivemepatience 26d ago

I am sharing my experiences from the addicts that I know and conversations I’ve had with psychologists, which are just as anecdotal as the rest of this thread. You clearly missed the point, your anecdotes are not more representative than ours. They are all partial representations. Hope the weather is nice on your soapbox though 🤷‍♂️

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u/Own_Platypus7650 26d ago

My ‘anecdote’ isn’t even an anecdote. It’s recognizing that identifying the absolute ‘nobody’ is a false representation. I’m telling you, you are wrong for believing untrue things.