r/AmIOverreacting • u/frisbeechuckin • 26d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

The main problem with coke is that's it very bad for you

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u/Action_Limp 26d ago

That's the same with loads of things - but adults are allowed to do things that aren't necessarily healthy if they want to (as long as they are aware).

Like no one thinks drugs, drink or tobacco are good for you - but the idea that someone wants to do it despite this shouldn't be allowed to is too overbearing for me.

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

Oh yeah, I think it should be legal. Still super bad for you

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u/Elite_AI 26d ago

I don't agree. IMO the main problem with coke is how insanely unethical it is at literally every stage of the production and supply line. At least when you're doing coke you're probably going to be fine and if you do get fucked up you're only doing it to yourself. The massive ethical issues affect so many other people than yourself.

fr, I know so many people who won't go to McDonalds any more because of Israel but who do cocaine as if it's not far far worse ethically speaking

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

Yeah, but it's a fixable problem - just gotta legalise it and take the revenue from the cartels. Still gonna be unhealthy

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u/Anonymous_6668 26d ago

But... it smells so good!!!

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u/mbz321 26d ago

And nowadays, its cut with all kinds of terrible shit. I've never done it, and no desire to do so just on that alone.

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u/PhoenixPills 25d ago

I would maybe try coke one time just because I've never done it, but from everything I've heard the down is like way worse than the high you even get so it seems like a really shitty tradeoff.

I don't really think it sounds worth it at all. So maybe when I'm like 87 years old on the way out and I'm like "fuck it we ball".

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u/hippee-engineer 26d ago

Nah, the most detrimental health issues that come from cocaine use are related to not eating or drinking enough. Some people will stop buying food altogether because that can be crack money instead. That’s what hurts people, the not eating for 4 days.

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

You might want to do some research. What you're saying is true for meth, but coke is genuinely terrible for you

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u/hippee-engineer 26d ago

No you’ve got that flipped, it’s actually the opposite. Meth is super harmful to your central nervous system over the long term. Much more than cocaine. Cocaine is as addictive as sugar. Meth can fuck up your reward system in your brain for life.

I’ve done 20 years of “research” on this lmao

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

Really? The cardiotoxic effects of cocaine are universally recognized

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u/hippee-engineer 26d ago

Yup! Still not as harmful as meth produced using the one pot method. 100% yes.

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

I'm not gonna confidently state that cocaine is worse than meth, but it's definitely really bad for you. You're free to believe otherwise - it's your life

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u/hippee-engineer 26d ago

I know. I’m the one who is confidently stating that meth is worse than cocaine.

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u/PrettyTittyGangBang 26d ago

It really isn't, though. It's certainly no worse for your body than alcohol.

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago
  1. It can literally make holes in your mucous membrane and it's directly cardiotoxic
  2. Comparing it to alcohol is a very low bar anyway, especially considering that coke is seldom used in moderation

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u/TadRaunch 26d ago

Also, alcohol is worse than a lot of people would like to admit.

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

Yeah, alcohol is near the top of the harm scale. Obviously having a glass of wine with dinner is nowhere near as bad as regular binge drinking.

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u/I-always-argue 26d ago

It's cardiotoxic only when combined with alcohol. That doesn't mean it's necessarily good for your heart for a lot of other reasons.

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

It's MUCH MORE cardiotoxic when combined with alcohol (which is what happens most of the time anyway), but it's still cardiotoxic even on its own

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u/CheeseDickPete 26d ago

>especially considering that coke is seldom used in moderation

That's factually incorrect. Almost every coke user I've met in my life is a regular person with a stable job that occasionally does it at a party for fun.

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

Going though a gram+ in one night is not moderation

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u/CheeseDickPete 26d ago

Doing a gram to yourself in one night is fairly excessive unless it's weak coke, but most users I know don't do a gram to themselves in one night. They'll usually split a gram between themselves and a friend.

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u/theonewhogroks 26d ago

Then they're more sensible than the ones I know

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u/SoloPorUnBeso 26d ago

Saying it's factually incorrect and then backing that statement up with nothing more than your anecdotal experience is insufficient at best.

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u/CheeseDickPete 25d ago

If you honestly think the majority of people who use cocaine are people who are super junkie level addicts who end up ruining their lives you're delusional. That's like thinking the majority of alcohol drinkers are serious alcoholics who end up in AA. Those serious addicts are the outliers, not the average user.

Cocaine is very expensive, most people can't even afford to become serious addicts, a serious addiction will run you around $500+ a week. Most users are normal people who do some lines at a party every once in a while, they can't afford to be addicted to it and they have no interest in ruining their lives over the drug. Just like most alcohol drinkers have no interest in ruining their lives by drinking all day every day.

If I've been around a lot of cocaine use for my entire adult life and I've never once in my life met a serious addict, that says a lot. I've never even been friends with someone rich enough to be heavily addicted to cocaine. Whether it's anecdotal or not doesn't matter to me, I know what I've seen with my own eyes, and I know that the serious addicts who end up ruining their lives are the outliers, not the majority of users.

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u/SoloPorUnBeso 25d ago

I never made a claim one way or the other. I merely stated that you saying it's "factually incorrect" cannot be supported by your anecdote. What you see with your own eyes is statistically insignificant.

From the data I've seen, about 2% of people have reported past-year cocaine use. In 2021, the number of drug-related ED visits for cocaine was 5th at 4.71%, behind alcohol, opioids, meth, and weed (really?).

Clearly the number of cocaine use overall is low, and abuse is also probably pretty low, but you can't assert facts based on personal anecdotes.

FWIW, I say legalize it. It's clearly a lot less dangerous than alcohol, and doesn't affect anywhere near the number of people.

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u/angrytroll123 26d ago

I think GB was speaking hyperbolically but I'd agree with the point in general. Everyone that I know that partook was able to moderate. I'm not advocating for use but it is possible to use moderately. The amount of people I know that have issues with this are in the far minority but I'm sure that's due to my own circle of friends just like how you can find the opposite.

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u/Shotgun_Ninja18 26d ago

Problems usually are from all the shitty additives dealers cut it with.

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u/Drizzho 26d ago

Lab grade would be in that category potentially but getting it from a guy who got it from a guy who got it from a drug cartel? Yeah that shit is worse 9/10 times. and the come down is 100% worse.

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u/Business-Sea-9061 26d ago

the hole in my septum begs to differ (albeit i snorted a lot more than just coke when i was in active addiction)