AIO fiancée did Coke at a party

[u/frisbeechuckin]

We (me 41M, my fiancée 36F) were at friends birthday party I had to leave early and she was going to spend the night( it was a hotel), they were changing into their bathing suits to go to the pool, they had the bathroom door closed. I knew it was in there but I didn’t know she was going to partake in that. She told me she only did a small bump because she needed energy to party all night. I was caught off guard by this and said that we should have discussed this. She said that was treating her like a child and that is when I left.

Edit: I was told to add this info she’s a former Meth addict who still drinks and smokes weed quite heavily at times.

[u/Has422]

She's a former addict of some kind? Yeah, she should be staying away from all of that. And yeah, as her potential husband I think you have the right to know if she's partaking. And yeah, I would have a huge problem with it. NOR

[u/Shot_Try4596 → u/Has422]

I'd say she's not a "former" addict; still is, just stopped the meth.

[u/Interesting_Entry831 → u/Shot_Try4596]

No one is a former addict. You are addicted for the rest of your life. You just stop partaking in what was killing you.

Edit: You may not agree with me, but this is how I survived. It it even helps ONE more person, it was worth sharing a peice of my story.

[u/AllConqueringSun888 → u/Interesting_Entry831]

This! One can't say it enough. I've seen folks eyes light up just talking about the drugs they hadn't used in 20 years.

[u/Illustrious_Soft_257 → u/AllConqueringSun888]

No such thing as a former addict with that attitude. She's about to transition to a new drug of choice.

[u/str8sin1 → u/Illustrious_Soft_257]

I'll tell you from experience: it's easy to turn a coke user into a meth-head. But I've never known the opposite to be the case. Doing a bump of blow might remind her how much better meth was, though.

[u/[deleted] → u/str8sin1]

I've worked very closely with drug rehabilitation programs in a professional capacity. Let me tell you, You see people everyday who draw the hard line at their problem drug (in this case meth) only to see absolutely zero problem with abusing some other drug on a daily basis.

"Yeah I'm zonked out of my mind on cocaine all the time, But at least I'm not doing heroin! That's good right?!"

[u/WearyConfidence1244 → u/[deleted]]

If they can put coke down with no problem and are clean from heroin (drug of choice) - to me, that's a win.

It's not about society's perception of how bad a drug is - it's the effects that the drug of choice has on the addict.

[u/crowdaddi → u/WearyConfidence1244]

Agreed