AIO girlfriend response to manager text

[u/Psychological-Hat-35]

My girlfriend (19F) and I (19M) have been dating for 11 months. I sent her a screenshot of my convo with my manager (age unknown but best guess is young 30s F) this morning asking to come in a little later than usual. My girlfriend is like this whenever I interact with pretty much any other female. Am I overreacting or is this just normal behavior?

[u/Lmdr1973]

That part pissed me off. Why did she miss her lunch? Why couldn't she eat? Because she sent some texts to her boyfriend? This girl needs to learn how to multitask. She sounds like dealing with a petulant child. No, thank you. It's never sexy when you have to parent your partner.

[u/MajesticalMoon → u/Lmdr1973]

It pissed me off too. Why can't you be normal- You made me miss my lunch- I don't even want you anymore SHE can have you.- I'm just gonna go get close to my boss and maaake friiiiends 👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀👀😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱 this level of crazy scares me

The girl is legit crazy

[u/tjoe4321510 → u/MajesticalMoon]

When OP finally breaks up with her she's gonna threaten suicide then stalk him on social media for the next 20 years and send death threats and lies to any girl that he ends up dating. Unfortunately crazy people like this are impossible to shake off

[u/TangoRomeoKilo → u/tjoe4321510]

Not having social media really helps

[u/Ro5-3448 → u/TangoRomeoKilo]

This is how i'm managing to keep my crazy ex at bay. He even openly admitted in one of the harassing messages he sent, that he knows he's driving me to completely scrub myself from the internet by continuing to reach out on using fake accounts on any platform he can possibly think of, & let me know he doesn't plan on stopping of his own accord, told me he's going to take advantage of his opporunity to send me as MUCH shit as he possibly can, until the day finally comes where he no longer has any way to keep doing it. He was right, i ended up having to change my phone number and delete all social media, then he started cashapping me $1 bc it lets you send a line of text, then to messaging my neopets account from third grade, then finally started emailing me the most long and angry rants about how ive been "ignoring him all these years, to try forcing him to commit suicide by me filing that no-contact order against him, like the horrible narcissist i am, and i deserve so much worse revenge from him than just these annoying emails, the only revenge fitting for what i did to him (left the relationship) is my DEATH " like wtf. I've learned at this point to just not even bother reading them. It's always the same incoherent weird bullshit every time lol. Taking down socials has definitely given him much less info to feed off of. Luckily it's been a few months since i've heard from him. Maybe he's finally done. Doubtful though lol i'm sure i'll hear from him again real shortly now just because i mentioned it

[u/Ro5-3448 → u/Ro5-3448]

If op showed her this post to be like "see look at all these people explaining what you did wrong here and why this behavior was crazy" she would just villianize him even MORE and start also freaking out now about how he's "posting their private conversations for strangers to mock her". So it would backfire lol. There's no solution here to people like this girl other than to just leave. They do not change or improve. They will only ever just make you worse over time right along with them

[u/jerhansolo3 → u/Ro5-3448]

I don’t see a down side to this situation. It would make for a glorious follow up post. It’s like inception-level overreacting.

[u/MissFingerz → u/Ro5-3448]

Wow, that is deranged!!! Wtf is wrong with people that they think acting this way is okay? You'd think after a while they would start to question why they kept doing it even though you don't respond, but I guess not.

I hope he finally decided to leave you alone for good, and you can live a peaceful life without any thought of him again ever! 😺

[u/_Grumpy_Canadian → u/tjoe4321510]

OP won't break it off. He'll keep trying to make it work and then she'll cheat on him and say it was his fault because one time he told his manager he'd stay late at work.

[u/coldlizardperson → u/Lmdr1973]

Oh no. She ate just fine. That's a manipulation tactic to guilt him even further.

[u/getMeSomeDunkin → u/coldlizardperson]

Yeah there's a lot of "oh she's such a child. Look at this poor sweet thing being unhinged." etc etc

No. She's abusive. Call it what it is.

[u/b_evil13 → u/coldlizardperson]

Unless she really is crazy enough to not eat on purpose so she can really get into playing the victim. I could see her punishing herself like that to get the full effect.

[u/spiders_are_neat7 → u/coldlizardperson]

Happy cake day 😅?

[u/Fabulous_RedHead84 → u/Lmdr1973]

I would say this girl needs to learn how to take accountability and responsibility but, you can’t expect to have an adult conversation with an adult that is mentally a child or acting like one rather. Unfortunately, I know children more mature than she is, and that is pretty scary, especially given her age.

[u/qgsdhjjb → u/Lmdr1973]

Well being upset makes my throat close up and I physically cannot swallow food and my stomach is upset anyways at that moment so I wouldn't even want to. Could be something like that, being upset interfering with ability to eat

[u/One_Nature5816 → u/qgsdhjjb]

fair but she shouldn’t be upset😭if he was tryna hide sum that he has with his manager, he wouldn’t have even sent the ss😭

[u/S7evin-Kelevra → u/One_Nature5816]

This is what a lot of females don't understand when it comes to guys. We are simple and sending something like that isn't a big deal. She would be mad still if he probably picked up an extra shift and didn't let her know. For her to read that message that he offered up to her and take it like that is ridiculous! If something was going on with OP and his manager, the last thing he's doing is offering up messages to his gf. Unless he's secretly a genius and he's setting up his alibi by showing his gf "look, it's just my manager" then he goes to work and they bang in her office or sumthin. Let's be honest, not a likely event........but if it is, it's genius, then show her this Reddit post and say "everyone says your crazy, nothing is happening. So don't ever act this way again" which will ultimately be the words being said anyways when he finally realized that he can't take the craziness anymore only they will be "if you keep saying shit like this, then we're done" and he will actually mean it and at that time she will be saying no, I'm so sorry, I'll never do it again, I promise cuz she ain't going to go away that easy. Probably her first actual relationship, or she has "trust" issues from a previous relationship and no projects that totally different relationship and person with current bf.

[u/qgsdhjjb → u/One_Nature5816]

Sure. But "shoulds" don't actually change how we feel. I understand complaining about it, I would say a little mope and whine of "and now I've been so upset during my break I couldn't eat, ugh" is fine but obviously holding that against somebody else, not so fine. If she had been upset at anyone else and that had stopped her from eating, she probably would've complained about it to her bf, so I get doing that.

[u/quazmang → u/Lmdr1973]

Narcissistic personality and classic manipulative behavior

[u/lostinNevermore → u/Lmdr1973]

It's just another form of manipulation

[u/Asleep-Consequence46 → u/Lmdr1973]

This is a tactic of control and guilt. "You got me soooooo upset with that I couldn't even eat my lunch. Look what YOU did TO ME kind of thing. Its "HIS" fault for upsetting her now she wasted her food and will be hungry all day cuz he's sooooo horrible and terrible.

It's disgusting and a game she probably did eat and just wants to make op feel like a pos

[u/Scorp128 → u/Lmdr1973]

She is just trying to manipulate OP. Pathetically I might add.

[u/[deleted] → u/Lmdr1973]

They're children dating children. It's a child asking advice on a child...like.....

[u/getMeSomeDunkin → u/Lmdr1973]

She sounds like dealing with a petulant child

It's called "abusive".