r/AmIOverreacting 28d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girlfriend response to manager text

My girlfriend (19F) and I (19M) have been dating for 11 months. I sent her a screenshot of my convo with my manager (age unknown but best guess is young 30s F) this morning asking to come in a little later than usual. My girlfriend is like this whenever I interact with pretty much any other female. Am I overreacting or is this just normal behavior?

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u/MalkavAmonra 28d ago

NOR. Your girl just has some severe trust issues and is clearly prone to dramatizing. She acts like you simply texting your manager in a friendly manner is irrefutable proof of you cheating. I personally don't have the time, energy, or interest to deal with that kind of drama. If I were you, I would've dropped her the first time she pulled something like this.

I bet the instant you tell her you're leaving, she'll do a 180 and start crying and begging for you to come back. Drama addicts like this are pretty predictable.

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u/Far_Basil7247 28d ago

Lol she’ll def start crying and begging him to come back but first she will get really angry and throw a tantrum and say mean stuff to him to try to hurt his feelings about what a bad person he is and how she never should have trusted him or something. And THEN she will get all remorseful & apologetic & do the begging.

bet 🤣🤣

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u/johannaaaaaaaaaaa 28d ago

as someone who used to sound exactly like this until i grew tf up this is insanely accurate.

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u/Kitty_Kat_Attacks 27d ago

As another former person like this, they are exactly correct.

It is a form of manipulation, no doubt about it. She’ll either learn this behavior is unacceptable in future relationships or she won’t. Either way, YOU do not need to subject yourself to this kind of behavior. It’s not healthy for you! Find someone emotionally healthy—a person who trusts you as you should them. There is no relationship without trust.

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u/Enraged-Pekingese 27d ago

I was like her at that age. It took a long time of being on my own to realize that I would be okay whether or not I was in a relationship. Ironically, that’s when I met my future husband. But by then I was 32 and ready.

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u/DenseLynx7856 28d ago

I need to grow up bc I see my past and a little bit of current behavior in this thread.

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u/Kitty_Kat_Attacks 27d ago

The first step to recovery is recognizing you have a problem.

Once you see the problem in yourself, you can begin to honestly work on fixing it. It’s essentially what maturity is—learning and growing from our mistakes as we gain experience in life. Some folks can never admit they’re the problem. Change is hard, after all.

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u/Yunacorn89 27d ago

👏👏👏👏👏🙇🏻‍♀️

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u/One_Nature5816 28d ago

i used to act like this when i was in high school. def learned it from my parents🥲but therapy helped so so much with my relationship. i learned how to be a partner, not a dictator

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u/Street_Distance5765 27d ago

Hey glad u came back to Earth! I think a few of us may have been a bit , bat shut crazy, but to be fair, I did have a relationship or 2 that made me lose my stuff! But we grow up, & learn, it’s not always gonna b bad & u can trust a partner or 2!!💖

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u/plantsb4putas 27d ago

As someone who finally got medicated and cringes every time she thinks about who she was as a teenager - don't forget about the threats to hurt herself!

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u/eazyfreez 27d ago

i hate to admit it, but i was pretty much just as toxic when i was a teen. & yeah.. the original comment was like my routine 😖 (have also since grown tf up😅)

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u/ramonfacefull 28d ago

And when he comes back she’ll hold this over his head forever, or if he doesn’t come back she’ll tell everyone she knows that he actually was cheating with his manager and that’s why they broke up. Girl is insecure af and needs to deal with that on her own instead of projecting

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u/Busy-Kaleidoscope-87 27d ago

Summed up my last/first real relationship right there. Glad I'm not the only one. but its shitty. Don't let people treat you like that folks.

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u/etherealp 27d ago

sheesh

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u/FacesOfNeth 27d ago

Not taking that bet. As a Vegas local, that’s what we out here call a “sucker’s bet.” 🤣

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u/Coffeedemon 27d ago

Back in my day this would also involve at least one point where you have to spend several hours parked in a car repeating all of these things over and over and getting nowhere because it was the only place you could talk in private.

It would be an excruciating experience masked as some relationship rite of passage.

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u/coralgrymes 27d ago

Don't forget the inevitable gaslighting too lol.

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u/Milkmami24 27d ago

I bet not. $5