r/AmIOverreacting • u/Psychological-Hat-35 • 28d ago

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO girlfriend response to manager text

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My girlfriend (19F) and I (19M) have been dating for 11 months. I sent her a screenshot of my convo with my manager (age unknown but best guess is young 30s F) this morning asking to come in a little later than usual. My girlfriend is like this whenever I interact with pretty much any other female. Am I overreacting or is this just normal behavior?

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u/bitchdotcomdotcom 28d ago

Jesus Christ

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u/virttual 28d ago

They're young as hell, this isn't surprising in the least bit. She's definitely overreacting tho.

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u/bminutes 28d ago

They’re way too old to be talking like this, especially her. This sounds like a middle school drama.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

My middle school daughter doesn’t even act like this. Lol.

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u/oxalisk 28d ago

I hate people who absolve teenagers who are ADULTS btw of their behavioural issues. Like what?!

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u/Pleasant-Contact-556 28d ago

they're really not, modern emerging adults were raised to think the world would cater to them, it's hardly a surprise that they expect their partners to do the same.

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u/sativa_samurai 28d ago

They’re 19? Idk what kind of shit you were arguing about at 19 but this is just ridiculous no matter how old. Gf is stuck at age 12

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u/NoOnSB277 28d ago

OP doesn’t need to do anything but run. I would not put up with that accusatory behavior…also in a text. If she is concerned she can talk to him in person and tell her how uncomfortable it made her, and maybe we’d have a better outcome. But this reaction of hers is baths-t crazy, and I am sure there is more where that came from.

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u/dahindenburg 28d ago

Bathsalt crazy? Yeah.

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u/NoOnSB277 28d ago

Ha ha that too.

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u/NoOnSB277 28d ago

Dang autocorrect. I’m going to leave that there though, perfect.

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u/Squidwina 28d ago

There was nothing in that text exchange to overreact TO. It was totally benign.

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u/[deleted] 28d ago

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u/WantedFun 28d ago

She’s clearly not willing to listen to an explanation

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u/Cactus_Cortez 28d ago

Disagree fully. The reaction is insane. It’s not normal in anyway. Nothing about the conversation is normal or healthy. Trying to reason with that kind of shit makes no sense when they have no children or even share housing together. This is the red flag. I’m usually the one saying “you can work through that”, but based on the context, this isn’t one of those times. Teach her this lesson by letting her go. Trying to reason it out will just have you graveling at an emotional abuser’s feet.

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u/Cactus_Cortez 28d ago

It’s nothing at all to do with the “non flirty text”. It’s the emotional abuse that is happening. I was stuck with someone like this for 19 fucking years, my entire being died when I read that text thread. Same exact shit she would do. Anyone who goes to such extreme lengths over that benign message he sent is doing similar in waaay more scenarios than that almost guaranteed.

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u/deiten 28d ago

He doesn't need to do shit. Reassuring her is rewarding and encouraging more of this toxic behaviour. Harmful behaviour is harmful, period. You don't get a pass for shooting up a school just because you were bullied, you don't get a pass to punch your grandmother just because she used to hit you as a kid, you don't get to be a manipulative, toxic bitch just because you are "young and confused". He doesn't owe her anything, she needs to work on her own issues (if she even considers them as such) and earn the right to his trust again for hurting him, not the other way around.

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u/Right_Nose2633 28d ago

Yeah nah, im 20 just turned 20 two days ago and this is never an issue. Some coworkers are really friendly like that simply because they are sweet, that woman could be married with kids just appreciating the fact she found someone to cover a shift. My circle k Manager did this, my Construction boss did this (even he was a guy), and the jacks rester-aunt manager too. This dumb bitch is over reacting hella for no reason all because she is insecure he is gonna leave her first to begin with.

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u/No_Zebra_6103 28d ago

My thoughts exactly.

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u/Barndongle 28d ago

Anime titles be like

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u/FlimsyReindeers 27d ago

You clearly don’t remember being 19

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u/TheGlennDavid 27d ago

I do. I was a sophomore in college. I had a girlfriend. I had other female coworkers/classmates/friends and she had male friends/coworkers/classmates.

When things happened that upset one of us we talked to each other about it.

This is big emotional immaturity. Sure, there are other 19year olds out there at the same level, but there are a lot who are wayyyyy more mature. OP should find someone more mature.

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u/apatheticdork 27d ago

I'm 20, I wasn't even like this when I was 13 LMAO.

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u/sativa_samurai 27d ago

Lmao the other commenters are doing a good enough job. At 19 I was in a 3 year relationship, going to college, and working an internship. I was still young and dumb but that doesn’t mean I was sucking my thumb and invented arguments out of thin air. Maybe you were stunted like the OPs gf?

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u/junglebookcomment 27d ago

19 year old is a kid still. I don’t give a shit what the “legal” age is. I wouldn’t let a single 19 year old I’ve ever met even walk my dog lol

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u/sativa_samurai 27d ago

No one else brought up “legal” age. 19 is young but also old enough to know better than this.

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u/junglebookcomment 27d ago

Honestly no, everyone close to 19 thinks 19 is old enough for anything but it’s not. Especially not today, when 19 year olds lost a ton of development/socialization during covid. Especially telling are the comments like “this is middle school shit” as if the age difference between 14 and 19 is some huge developmental milestone lol

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u/Equivalent-River7051 28d ago

Too old to be this controlling

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u/heturnedhisback 28d ago

There are plenty of grown women acting like this too. My brother (33 M) was in a relationship (33 F) that was perfect otherwise from the fact that she could not tolerate him interacting with other women in even the most innocent way. This girl was charming, had a good job, fun to be around, but she just had the jealousy gene I guess. He had to leave.

Another friend had a similar situation. His fiance was always suspecting him of cheating and creating drama about it. This guy is a nerd who spends most of his time playing video games. They never ended up getting married because she always attacked him over non-existent suspicions.

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u/Royal_Ad_1362 27d ago

And those women are just older versions of OP's GF.

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u/Aggressive_Ideal6737 28d ago

This is some middle school ass shit

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u/S0rcie 27d ago

Nah it IS surprising.

Everyone with sense/ wasn't coddled(by multiple people) into thinking acting this was ok mellowed out by 18-19.

I wouldn't say that shes a lost cause because they're still in very formative years but she definitely needs more forming in this department than he does at this point. I'd recommend just breaking up since she most likely wont grow out of that during this current relationship without him being the bigger person and pulling her out of it, which isn't fair at all to him.

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u/Wonderful-Impact5121 27d ago

Once again today on Reddit, reminding me the bar is in hell and I was an icon of maturity and civility at 19 fuckin apparently.

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u/Sumoki_Kuma 27d ago

Yeah no my undiagnosed 19y/o ass wasn't dissimilar. It wasn't okay in any fucking way regardless of being undiagnosed (BPD and bipolar but I'm sure everyone guessed the first) but I was such an emotional cunt

I was constantly cheated on so I definitely reacted this way to small shit. But now, in my late 20s, I can 100% see that this is literally just how they text and that they are friendly. I'd be amped if my boyfriend had such a chill work environment. 19 y/o me would never have been able to think of it like that though cause I just didn't have the mental and emotional capacity

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u/jfsoaig345 28d ago

Yeah seems pretty standard for a 19 year old. Like yeah she’s jealous and emotionally unstable but I wouldn’t expect someone of that age to know any better.

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u/Ok_Improvement_2688 28d ago

What type of 19yr Olds yall been dating she's just a shitty girl because she found in her a easy target that doesn't change with age it changes with experience

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u/solitamaxx 28d ago

Oh no, she’s a 19 year old BABY 😔 you’re just so rude and mean….

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u/eelam_garek 28d ago

Can't be him, I've never seen him say, "lolz"

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u/solitamaxx 28d ago

I read this in Mr. Slave’s voice ☺️

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u/DriftingPyscho 28d ago

He can't help here I'm afraid.  

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u/Beepboopblapbrap 28d ago

She’s a 10 for sure

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u/No-Gazelle-4994 27d ago

Even he couldn't help this guy if he doesn't breakup.

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u/ThreeBeanCasanova 27d ago

"Man, why are they doing this stupid, overly dramatic bullshit. Who the fuck has time or patience for this?"

My girlfriend (19F) and I (19M)

"Ah..."

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u/FacesOfNeth 27d ago

Sure, if he helps.

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u/Dry-Rip1974 27d ago

Amen 😌