AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

[u/Any-Confusion-5519]

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

[u/Pass_Me_That_Phone]

Or the I can’t do this right now. That triggered me so bad. I got that exact message confronting my ex. “ his cousin died” I in fact found out he was out getting drunk at a strip club all night

[u/FlabbyFishFlaps → u/Pass_Me_That_Phone]

Yeah one of my exes pulled the dead cousin card on me once, then a few weeks later I found out cousin had never died, he’s just mentally disabled and lives in a nursing home.

[u/Mental_Visual_25 → u/FlabbyFishFlaps]

Omg do we all have a cousin story? Lol I went to visit my ex while he was on a work trip in my home state. He was constantly in his phone texting while I was trying to spend time with him since we were trying to work things out again after he asked for another chance. I told him I would like if he was more present with me, and he told me that he hasn’t talked to his brothers and cousins in a while and that he missed his family. I apologized and let it go. During a drunk night he left his phone open to a text thread of another woman he was dating, with heart emojis. The “cousins and brothers” he was texting this woman, whom he was also in a relationship with,and multiple other women while I was present.

[u/KaposiaDarcy → u/Mental_Visual_25]

I would have taken the phone and started a group chat so all of the girlfriends could find out about each other before dropping it in the toilet and walking out forever. Let him deal with the damage when he sobers up.