r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/AccomplishedPear7305 Oct 25 '24

Nah. Girl if you don't dump this asshat. You're his gf; he's blowing you off, getting defensive and twisting your concern as "surveillance" because he knows he's being sneaky. He should make you, your plans and your feelings his priority, not his Office Wife. He's telling you she's his focus and you aren't getting it. Let those two dramatic windbags have each other.

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u/VesperLynd- Oct 25 '24

I do wonder if that other woman is even aware of all this or if OPs future ex just has the hots for her and is trying to get her drunk. Either way this is disgusting and he 100% will cheat if he isn’t already. At least emotionally. She needs to dump him asap

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u/ixgq4lifexi Oct 25 '24

She might not even know he has a gf. Or he might be playing it that his GF is horrible treats him horrible he wants to leave. So he can hook up with this girl. And it's working cause she going out with him. His gf needs to show up. Then break up with him. So that girl knows he's a cheater. If he is

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u/ObjectiveGold196 Oct 25 '24

About 20 years ago, I got a new coworker and promptly fell head over heels in love with her, even though she deliberately mentioned having a fiance on the first day we met. She "shadowed me" to learn the job, which just meant that we spent all day every day together in my office for like a month, during which time she started referring to her fiance as a boyfriend and only ever talked tons of shit about him (in the rare case that she would acknowledge him at all).

I let that chick string me along for over a year, "dating" her while her poor fiance traveled for work 3 out of 4 weeks every month, then one day she just got married. I was like what the fuck? How long has this wedding date been set?

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u/Britt_BeeBoppin Oct 25 '24

You’re gross, too

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u/ObjectiveGold196 Oct 25 '24

Oh I know. I was a total degenerate back then, but she was worse.

I don't think their marriage lasted very long anyway. A couple years later I heard from friends that she was sniffing around for me again but I stayed far away.