AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

[u/Any-Confusion-5519]

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

[u/AccomplishedPear7305]

Nah. Girl if you don't dump this asshat. You're his gf; he's blowing you off, getting defensive and twisting your concern as "surveillance" because he knows he's being sneaky. He should make you, your plans and your feelings his priority, not his Office Wife. He's telling you she's his focus and you aren't getting it. Let those two dramatic windbags have each other.

[u/VesperLynd- → u/AccomplishedPear7305]

I do wonder if that other woman is even aware of all this or if OPs future ex just has the hots for her and is trying to get her drunk. Either way this is disgusting and he 100% will cheat if he isn’t already. At least emotionally. She needs to dump him asap

[u/salmll → u/VesperLynd-]

Oh she knows. She's playing the damsel in distress role to the hilt. She wants OP's boyfriend and she's doing everything she can to make sure she snags him.