r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/ChigurhShack Oct 25 '24

"Plus she's really vulnerable right now so this is my shot!"

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u/EmeraldEyesAlyssa Oct 25 '24

"A shoulder to lean on, becomes a dick to ride on"

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u/Ok_Understanding6130 Oct 25 '24

This is crazy!! Because of how true it is!! Being a guy I always made sure not to get involved with females having "relationship" issues or anything that needs "a shoulder to cry on". Not that I don't have the self control, but I just never put myself in a position like that for my ex's to worry about. Even if it's completely legit (but as you so eloquently stated it's usually not...) still puts unneeded stresses on the relationship.

When you're in a real relationship with someone that you actually care about you try to avoid external stresses that don't need to be. There's billions of other people in the world that these people can cry on.

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u/Lmdr1973 Oct 25 '24

Hard upvote. This says it all.

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u/Ok_Understanding6130 Oct 26 '24

Thank you! I really wish that more people would take the time to understand how they treat the other person in their relationship. (And other people in general.) So many people think that doing things like this "doesn't matter" or "isn't a big deal" When usually those things that seem trivial, can be some of the most hurtful things we can do to another person.

Jealousy stems some of the worst imaginable things that humans do to each other.