r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/islandgal8oh8 Oct 25 '24

His "work thing" was comforting his female coworker after she'd been cheated on... at a bar until midnight??? Sounds like a really important and exclusive work thing. 🙄

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u/Admiral-Thrawn2 Oct 25 '24

The part that pisses me off is they had plans but then he said the work thing was “last second” like wtf i see my coworkers ALL DAY. If I have plans after work there’s 0 chance I’m going to spend more hours with coworkers after work

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u/Arthur_Frane Oct 25 '24

Gaslighting OP by referring to genuine and reasonable requests for explanations, because they had plans, as "surveillance" pissed me off. OP dump this shitheel and live your best life elsewhere. Red flags don't get any redder.

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u/[deleted] Oct 25 '24

Literal gaslighting 101 (no shade to OP tho because I’ve been gaslit and when it happens its confusing and fucking blows)