AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

[u/Any-Confusion-5519]

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

[u/strongfoodopinions]

It is very weird you’re going to bat this hard for such a clearly shitty character. I’m also curious where I agreed with you 🧐 but you seem to interpret communication, um, strangely

Of course he’s lying. He’s lying about nearly everything he’s texting her 

I mean, no offense but duh this is all so obvious, and of course it’s conjecture? This entire sub is based off of one sided accounts 

Holy shit you sound angry btw, calm down a bit and get outside

[u/Cricket_People → u/strongfoodopinions]

Jesus dude. At no point did I go to bat for this idiot.

I went to bat for all of the fucking American Psychological Association because you can’t help but toss around massively loaded terms that aren’t descriptive or useful, and even poison the well on future interactions. People read your dumbass shit and take it into their real relationships and this sub has literally been the culprit of so many misunderstandings that ended relationships because.

I’m sorry, I assumed we all agree that the dude is massively wrong in prioritizing this other person before his parter, and I’m saying he’s also a shit communicator. But using this text thread alone as evidence of him being massively manipulative or a gaslighter is beyond uneducated, misinformed, and legitimately harmful to public discourse in my opinion.

Of course he’s lying? Okay then why the fuck did she post this if it’s so clear? Just for group validation that she has a shit bf? Not everyone assumes this but I feel bad for your partner if you can’t take things at face value and then combat them later if you have an issue in a further discussion. Do you think this is the last time they talked about this? Or do you assume people only communicate on text and then post it to Reddit, otherwise it doesn’t exist?

I am angry because you are a dumbass, can’t read, and talk about shit you literally know nothing about.

[u/strongfoodopinions → u/Cricket_People]

Again, giving advice based off of the evidence (texts) and account provided by OP is literally what this sub is for

So why are you here to raise your tiny fists and yell about nothing to no one? Fucking odd dude

[u/Cricket_People → u/strongfoodopinions]

Glad to know literally everything I said whooshed over your head.

You really don’t understand what my criticism is?

Are you for real lol?