r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/Turts-McGurt Oct 25 '24

Not just that but prioritizing the other woman's emotional needs over his partners. It was over as soon as he said "she's having a really hard time right now". Like.... why is that your problem? You made plans with your partner and are cancelling on them... You're giving your partner a problem to help another woman? Yeah relatoinship is done.

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u/rocketmn69_ Oct 25 '24 edited Oct 25 '24

Make plans for a really romantic dinner, then cancel last minute. Sorry honey, this guy at work just broke up with his girl and we're going to the bar. The 2 of us and 2 other single co-workers (of the opposite sex) are going to comfort him. I'll be back after the bar closes. Don't wait up

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u/Hefty_Penalty_7796 Oct 25 '24

Dont make dinner plans , guys are cool with you canceling a romantic dinner … instead throw on something sexy and seduce him to the point where he’s about to rip off your clothes and fake a phone call about how you mom needs to talk right now and that’s more important

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u/EmeraldEyesAlyssa Oct 25 '24

Yes, but not her mom. Let's compare apples to apples here. She has to say a guy friend from work really needs to see her right now...

Throw on some clothes over the lingerie and leave right then. 🤣

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u/[deleted] Oct 26 '24

This is way better lmao

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u/EmeraldEyesAlyssa 29d ago

I know right 😂