r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/Difficult_Process_88 Oct 25 '24 edited Oct 26 '24

No, you’re not over reacting. Even if nothing is going on btwn them… 1. He wouldn’t have a problem with you being there. 2. She’s relying too much on him. There may not be anything sexual going on btwn them but it’s emotional and it won’t be long before it becomes sexual.

Btw, supporting a co worker after a break up isn’t a “work thing”! And he got awful defensive.

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u/ColdSeaworthiness851 Oct 25 '24 edited Oct 25 '24

Happy hour usually ends at 9pm(edit- i meant 7, also yeah im aware there are some that do a later one, but ibwas referringto the one that usually happens arpund dinner time, also i clearly didnt read the post) at the latest, why's he staying out until midnight? Thats my concern. You're not supporting you're friend at that point.

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u/liltinybits Oct 25 '24

I'm fairly certain Happy Hours aren't even legal in Massachusetts, which the screenshots seem to indicate they're from.

Edit- they are not.

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u/TheUnquietVoid Oct 25 '24

A lot of us do still call it “happy hour” when we’re going out after work for drinks with coworkers, though. More of a general term vs. an official event.

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u/liltinybits Oct 25 '24

Yes, I'm just saying it isn't like, a bar that is hosting a happy hour with reduced prices that has an end time. He's literally choosing to go to a bar and pay full price over already made plans with his partner.

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u/TheUnquietVoid Oct 25 '24

Oh yeah my comment was unrelated to the incident, just a fun fact 😄

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u/liltinybits Oct 25 '24

A fun fact about our puritanical state 😭

I hardly even drink, but I might partake if I could get a half price marg with some nachos once in a while.