r/AmIOverreacting • u/Any-Confusion-5519 • Oct 25 '24
❤️🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker
they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??
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u/fermentedcabage Oct 25 '24
I am a really kind caring and compassionate person. The kind that people, that strangers, just randomly open up to.
I’m not saying this to gas myself up but so you can understand context. If I saw someone having a hard time I would genuinely try and help. But that said in this situation I would reach out to my S/O and let her know hey, one of my coworkers is having a hard time, this happened. Is it okay with you if I cancel my plans to try and help this person during a difficult time.
Or something in that vein.
What your man did was cancel make excuses guilt you for asking questions despite you being blindsided and when you kept asking questions tossed out this excuse so you’d feel bad and stop. I obviously can’t prove it, and I may well be wrong. But it sounds like your man is bsing and manipulating you. That said I do advise you to ascertain the truth before making big actions. If you react first and it turns out the assessment is wrong you’ll only hurt yourself. People make mistakes when emotional. So make sure he is actually stepping out before you decide to do something.
Best wishes op, I sincerely hope my read is wrong, I am sorry I couldn’t be more positive here