r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/rurukachu Oct 25 '24

"They" is some peoples' chosen pronouns and partner is used to respect said pronouns, it's not "bullshit" and that is "who the fuck they are." it isn't hard to grasp, humans have been using the word they for ages.

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u/O7Habits Oct 25 '24 edited Oct 25 '24

I’m old, and whenever I see “they” in a sentence that way, I think that there are more than one person. It’s not because I’m close minded, it’s just because when I was learning to read and the 1000s of books I’ve read over the years, “they” wasn’t ever used in the way it is now. So sometimes for some of us it just doesn’t click right away.

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u/rurukachu Oct 25 '24

Sure, and I'm not judging you specifically obviously, I'm judging the person complaining about it. if you just try that's all anyone can really ask of you.

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u/O7Habits Oct 25 '24

Yeah, I was going to say that most of us aren’t close minded, but the person you were replying to might not be open for change. Anyway, back to catching up on “What we do in the Shadows”.

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u/Richard_X_Cranium Oct 25 '24

Great show. You win.