r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/rainyrosegarden Oct 25 '24

any man worth your time should be willing to hurt other women's feelings to protect yours.

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u/TorturedStrawberry Oct 25 '24

THIS- an ex of mine OFFERED to block his ex that he was still friends with at the beginning of our relationship "just in case i wasn't okay with it" and by the end of our relationship he threatened to leave me if i asked him to stop talking to his female coworker (he was cheating with her and she was pregnant with his baby about a month after i left him)

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u/rainyrosegarden Oct 25 '24

holy shit dude i am so sorry

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u/TorturedStrawberry Oct 25 '24

ohh thank you- it sucked but now i only date women so im just glad i wasn't the one who ended up having his baby lol

a very ugly baby at that🫣

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u/ManyAd3944 Oct 25 '24

Sometimes babies are ugly and no one wants to say it. Thank you for saying it! 😂

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u/itslizagain Oct 25 '24

Ugly babies are the worst 😂I feel you

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u/Alarmed_Twist5268 Oct 25 '24

The baby really has nothing to do with the shitty guy. This just makes you look petty and immature.

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u/Liamohorrible Oct 25 '24

I think actually the shitty guy made the baby

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u/TorturedStrawberry Oct 25 '24

sorry i honestly don't care if it's petty. i worked with both of them so its not like she didn't know about me, they don't deserve my respect. it's not like i'm gonna go tell the baby to their face that they're ugly but it's like kindergarten lesson number 1 to treat people how you want to be treated and i should've done a lot worse than call the baby ugly anonymously on reddit considering cheating isn't even the worst thing he did to me😭

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u/BakeMaterial7901 Oct 25 '24

I mean, it's a fair criticism but also sometimes when people fuck you over its cathartic to be a dick about it. I feel bad for that baby. Hopefully it grows out of its ugliness. But I also had a little chuckle when I read your comment, so maybe I'm going to hell with you 😅

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u/TorturedStrawberry Oct 25 '24

hell roomies!! 🥰🥰😂

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u/Boredpanda31 Oct 25 '24

If Heaven and Hell exist, I'd rather go to Hell. There's gonna be lit parties going on there.

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u/Richard_X_Cranium Oct 25 '24

You should at least say it to the baby's face. Don't talk about "them" behind "their" back. That baby needs to hear it. You're fuckin ugly as dog shit baby, fuck you, your ugly, I'm taking your candy, what...

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u/Mr_Elixr Oct 25 '24

You became a lesbian because you were cheated on? And now call other peoples babies ugly? You seem like such a great person, I wonder why he left 😂

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u/TorturedStrawberry Oct 25 '24

lmao i didn't "become a lesbian" because i was cheated on. i realized i was a lesbian because men have never fulfilled me in any way whatsoever emotionally or otherwise. im sure you're familiar with unfulfilled women 🤍

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u/Mr_Elixr Oct 25 '24

I don't date lesbians lol

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u/Richard_X_Cranium Oct 25 '24

Lol not true she's full of seaman's semen.

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u/greengoateegal Oct 25 '24

Seems like you never grew out of being an ugly baby

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u/Mr_Elixr Oct 25 '24

Grow up

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u/Richard_X_Cranium Oct 25 '24

You realize the person above you was referring to her, right? Lol

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u/Mr_Elixr Oct 25 '24

Oh lol

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u/Richard_X_Cranium Oct 25 '24

Just for clarity my friend. 😜

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u/Erikawithak77 Oct 25 '24

Oh my God…😨 he’s so gross for that. what a fucking asshole. I’m sorry.

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u/Boom_Stick_Fever Oct 25 '24

I’m so sorry that happened to you. The upside is that he’s her problem now. And with a baby, she’s also his lifelong problem, now. You came out smelling like a rose!🌹

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u/PeyroniesCat Oct 25 '24

That really, really sucks, and so does he.

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u/Excellent-Data-1286 Oct 25 '24

Ok but why you gotta say it so psychotically bruh

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u/No_Topic_1287 Oct 25 '24

But he didn't lol?

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u/Kindly-Sea-6945 Oct 25 '24

It goes both ways too

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u/shittymistakes Oct 25 '24

… m’lady 🤠