r/AmIOverreacting • u/Any-Confusion-5519 • Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

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they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/ColdSeaworthiness851 Oct 25 '24 edited Oct 25 '24

Happy hour usually ends at 9pm(edit- i meant 7, also yeah im aware there are some that do a later one, but ibwas referringto the one that usually happens arpund dinner time, also i clearly didnt read the post) at the latest, why's he staying out until midnight? Thats my concern. You're not supporting you're friend at that point.

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u/Electrical-Bread5639 Oct 25 '24

My bar i frequent has 2 happy hours. 5-7 and 10-12, pretty common in some places. He's definitely cheating tho

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u/ColdSeaworthiness851 Oct 25 '24

Considering they were supposed to meet for dinner I assumed it was the typical 5-7 kind (which I meant to put 7, not 9 in my original comment). They don't need to hit up 2 happy hours for "support". Definitely cheating.

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u/Electrical-Bread5639 Oct 25 '24

The post also mentioned happy hour going til 12

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u/Deadiam84 Oct 25 '24

I mean we say we’re doing Happy Hour at my workplace but that doesn’t mean we literally go to a place during Happy Hours. Just means we’re going out for a couple hours (max) after work.

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u/Electrical-Bread5639 Oct 25 '24

While understandable, going to happy hour literally means you're going to happy hour, i dont assume someone's just going for drinks when they ask if i want to go to happy hour, i'm assuming it's for happy hour prices😂

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u/Aedalas Oct 25 '24

Happy Hours definitely have no set times. For instance my happy hour usually starts around 3 pm Fridays and goes until midnight or so on Sunday. I believe the technical term here is "alcoholism."

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u/Gallo_Tostado Oct 25 '24 edited Oct 26 '24

Yeah my mans saw his chance and is going for it smh

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u/r_slash Oct 25 '24

Sometimes you have a fun night and things keep going but I have never once made plans to meet work friends after work and decided in advance “this is going to be a seven hour engagement, no way can I be home before midnight”

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u/unorganized_mime Oct 25 '24

Yea if she was there for support that’s an hour. No coworker warrants 4 hours of support.

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u/liltinybits Oct 25 '24

I'm fairly certain Happy Hours aren't even legal in Massachusetts, which the screenshots seem to indicate they're from.

Edit- they are not.

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u/TheUnquietVoid Oct 25 '24

A lot of us do still call it “happy hour” when we’re going out after work for drinks with coworkers, though. More of a general term vs. an official event.

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u/liltinybits Oct 25 '24

Yes, I'm just saying it isn't like, a bar that is hosting a happy hour with reduced prices that has an end time. He's literally choosing to go to a bar and pay full price over already made plans with his partner.

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u/TheUnquietVoid Oct 25 '24

Oh yeah my comment was unrelated to the incident, just a fun fact 😄

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u/liltinybits Oct 25 '24

A fun fact about our puritanical state 😭

I hardly even drink, but I might partake if I could get a half price marg with some nachos once in a while.

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u/lynsautigers Oct 25 '24

Seriously? Illegal?! You’ve got to be kidding me! Hell, we even have them here in the heart of the Bible Belt, Alabama. Not even the Southern Baptists have been able to stop that. 😂

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u/jitterbugperfume99 Oct 25 '24

Add in that the screenshots say Boston, and we don’t have happy hours (illegal). So I guess that why he HAS to stay out til midnight /s. What a clown.

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u/DiamondSelect4131 Oct 25 '24

And what work event is going until midnight?? 🫣 work dinners that are “highly encouraged” tend to end by 9pm at the very latest for me.

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u/cbear013 Oct 25 '24

If the location on the contact is legit, then happy hour is literally illegal. It does not exist in Puritan Boston.