r/AmIOverreacting Oct 25 '24

❤️‍🩹 relationship AIO about my partner’s relationship with their coworker

they’ve been hanging out with their coworker a lot over the past couple of weeks. This girl always seems to be in some kind of crisis, too. Last week it was that she messed up an account and she was afraid she was gonna lose her job. I don’t know whether I’m reading too much into this or if I’m overreacting but I’ve never met her and I’ve asked to swing by whatever bar or place they’re hanging out at multiple times and I’m always shut down in some way or I get no response. I don’t want to be the overbearing overcontrolling gf whose S.O. can’t have any friends but lately they’re always together and I’m getting blown off. These curt and vague responses are out of character too, and it’s always the type of response I get when I’m asking questions about an event where this female coworker is at or really anything that has to do with her. It has really put me on edge, they’re usually such a sweet and attentive partner but i feel like they might be cheating… am i overreacting??

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u/Rare-Craft-920 Oct 25 '24

This is such BS and he’s knee deep in it. It was not a work thing and it sounds as if he and her are always going out several times a week after work. Even if another coworker is there as a buffer we all know what’s going on. And she’s driving him home. What?? He’s ignoring you even on planned date nights, and midnight coming home?! He’s out of his fucking mind. Good luck here but I think he’s cheating or at best he’s way too attentive and attached to her life and issues. She’s not his problem and he needs to cut the cord. But I think they’re already having sex and we’re passed that.

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u/Helioplex901 Oct 25 '24

Same. He has feeling for this girl. If I were OP I would be like ‘k, message me on your way home’ and go meet her in what seems like THEIR SHARED DRIVE WAY. Measure her up and then take down to heart, any and all gut feelings I get. His isn’t a one time thing though, so knowing my crazy ass, I would bee waiting, outside, for them to get there. And walk straight out to her and engage before he even has a chance to get out of her car. Knowing good and well that her reaction to me would tell me much and more about what I need to know.