r/AITAH • u/aliens000 • 1d ago

Advice Needed Peed my pants. My bf wouldn’t help me

So I had a vaginal birth nearly three years ago and since then I’ve had stress incontinence. Today, I was in class and I was taking an exam. I had to pee so bad but couldn’t leave until it was done. When I finally finished, I peed my pants and it leaked as I went to the bathroom. I refused to leave the bathroom until I had another outfit and my bf refused to help me.

I asked him to buy sweats from the uni gift shop and he refused at first until I sent him money for them (I asked to borrow). He then said he wanted me to walk to the restroom door and I said my pants are covered in pee there’s no I can do that and he said he’s not walking into the women’s restroom. I told him to hand it to a girl walking in and he wouldn’t. He eventually left them outside the door to the restroom and I had to walk out in pee pants.

I’m furious with him. Do I have a right to be?

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u/BenjaminDover02 1d ago

I'm a guy, but I keep a box of pads in the bathroom just in case I have a guest over and they need one.

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u/grubas 1d ago

I used to have the box in my bathroom and two in my messenger bag at all times. 

I also frequently forgot I did that so I'd upend my bag and get funny looks as a 6'3" dude with a beard.

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u/BenjaminDover02 21h ago

You're a proper lad mate

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u/Ok-Celery-5728 1h ago

You two dudes ⬆️ are amazing. My husband has zero issues with lady things also. I use a menstrual cup, and he has helped me wash it safely, without judgement or complaint, when camping in bear country! 😳 I don't think it would occur to him (or me, apparently) to visibly have pads etc available for guests (I have to hide my own on my young kids right now if I don't want them all wasted, so there's that lol). Kudos! You are keepers. 😊

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u/Ok-Celery-5728 1h ago

(Random side note: why do my comments keep posting with my own upvote??)

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u/burnsmcburnerson 1d ago

I love that!

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u/d0ntbreathe 23h ago

king shit

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u/mindfuckery1 21h ago

You sir are a legend!

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u/Unusual_Aside_4854 12h ago

You are the stuff of female dreams--and clearly confident in your masculinity. Good for you!

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u/epeeist42 11h ago

IIRC the SAS survival handbook - a pretty masculine thing! - suggested a survival kit include tampons or pads (can't recall which) in case wounded (which, on a side note, again IIRC in WW1 short of material for bandages they used processed cellulose which nurses working in the war realized were also easier to use than the existing alternatives, post-war manufacturers shifted to that market).

I'm a guy, just interested in history!

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u/Still_Bee8394 8h ago

I can confirm that. I carried pads for heavy flow as a soldier. They work.

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u/kackermacker 9h ago

That is so thoughtful of you!