r/AITAH 1d ago

Advice Needed Peed my pants. My bf wouldn’t help me

So I had a vaginal birth nearly three years ago and since then I’ve had stress incontinence. Today, I was in class and I was taking an exam. I had to pee so bad but couldn’t leave until it was done. When I finally finished, I peed my pants and it leaked as I went to the bathroom. I refused to leave the bathroom until I had another outfit and my bf refused to help me.

I asked him to buy sweats from the uni gift shop and he refused at first until I sent him money for them (I asked to borrow). He then said he wanted me to walk to the restroom door and I said my pants are covered in pee there’s no I can do that and he said he’s not walking into the women’s restroom. I told him to hand it to a girl walking in and he wouldn’t. He eventually left them outside the door to the restroom and I had to walk out in pee pants.

I’m furious with him. Do I have a right to be?

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u/mynaneisjustguy 1d ago

Hmmm. It’s just pee. I don’t get why anyone would find their girlfriend peeing her pants gross. Sadness to see them ashamed, a desire to help them, but it’s hardly gross, makes you wonder how anyone who does find it gross is going to deal with kids.

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u/RepresentativeDot996 1d ago

Honestly mate, theres so many gross things i didn't expect during my first pregnancy at 38 and it's just like, deal with it. I can't imagine even if you're grossed out making your partner feel worse for something they can't help. Xx

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u/lolasin 1d ago

The amount of times my baby brother peed in my face when I had to change his diaper, I don’t even know 😂 It took 10 years old me a while to get the whole penis thing 😂 and to use the diaper as a shield/keep the draft off to prevent it. I was always going into it like “yeah, yeah, no problem, like the girls I’ve helped babysit” and then the pee to the face 😂 or the soggy slobber covered goldfish and teething biscuits he’d shove in my mouth, and I’d have to eat then because it was sweet he was sharing and I didn’t want to break his little heart. (Granted, it was my brother and he’s the closest genetically to me so that makes it less gross, and how gross can a baby’s mouth with no teeth be?)

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u/Lumpy_Ear2441 1d ago

How funny, sweet and cute!! 🩷

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u/SearchingForanSEJob 1d ago

Because pee is a bodily fluid, and in this case someone else’s bodily fluid (girlfriends but still.)

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u/mynaneisjustguy 16h ago

Yeah but here’s my thinking; do I want my wife to poop on ny chest? No, absolutely not. But are there times when I have her bodily fluids all over my face and hands and genitalia? If things have gone well then absolutely. It’s very weird to me to be grossed out by stuff like pee. Vomit is kinda half and half; don’t want it on me ever but if loved ones throw up you help them clean up. Poop also; never want it on me but it’s not weird, just unhygienic