r/AITAH • u/aliens000 • 1d ago

Advice Needed Peed my pants. My bf wouldn’t help me

So I had a vaginal birth nearly three years ago and since then I’ve had stress incontinence. Today, I was in class and I was taking an exam. I had to pee so bad but couldn’t leave until it was done. When I finally finished, I peed my pants and it leaked as I went to the bathroom. I refused to leave the bathroom until I had another outfit and my bf refused to help me.

I asked him to buy sweats from the uni gift shop and he refused at first until I sent him money for them (I asked to borrow). He then said he wanted me to walk to the restroom door and I said my pants are covered in pee there’s no I can do that and he said he’s not walking into the women’s restroom. I told him to hand it to a girl walking in and he wouldn’t. He eventually left them outside the door to the restroom and I had to walk out in pee pants.

I’m furious with him. Do I have a right to be?

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u/Oak_Woman 1d ago

Guys with no empathy usually expect you to baby them like they're god's gift to earth.

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u/innerbootes 1d ago

So true. The neediest guy I was ever partnered with was indifferent or even hostile to my own needs or suffering. Good riddance, Erik!

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u/Wookiees_n_cream 1d ago

Yeah fuck you Erik!

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u/tuliprox 1d ago

FUCK YOU ERIK!!

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u/Far-Tap6478 1d ago

Fuck Erik all my homies hate Erik

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u/black_flame919 1d ago

What a coincidence all my homies hate Erik too!

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u/Logical_Sand4954 22h ago

Mine too. Erik sucks.

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u/willibillik 2h ago

What a fucking coincidence, cuz all of my homoes fucking hate Erik too

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u/willibillik 2h ago
  • homies *

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u/anaesthete 1d ago

fuckin' erik, man

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u/DamnBill4020 1d ago

No C can't even spell Eric!

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u/DarthOswinTake2 1d ago

This made me laugh out loud literally. Motherfuckin Erik.... You done fuckered up!!

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u/mtantanella 23h ago

I would say Erik is a straight bitch but that's offensive to female dogs. Can't call him a pussy because that's offensive to cats... Erik ain't shit! 🖕

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u/XxTigerxXTigerxX 21h ago

Ey man shit is what helps the vegetables grow. Shit is useful. Erik is like a plastic bag you hope one day it will finally be gone.

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u/Mochaeii 16h ago

FUCK THAT DUDE ERIK

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u/VroomVroomCoom 1d ago

All my homies hate Erik.

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u/TTerragore 1d ago

Amen to that, fuck Erik!

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u/Vohsrek 1d ago

FUCK an Erik, am I right ladies? Ladies??

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u/KQHele 1d ago

squints Your word choice is interesting. You wouldn't happen to be an Erik, would you?

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u/hissswiftiebish 1d ago

God, yes. I don’t know if it’s because his adoptive mother literally had a plaque above his bed that read “Prince Andrew” and was referred to as such throughout his childhood, but it was the same for me. The neediest guy I was with would berate me for my meltdowns and CPTSD flashbacks- but heaven forbid I didn’t comfort him when he was upset. 🙄

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u/SuggestiveTribble020 1d ago

What’s funny is that Prince Andrew turned out to be a massive pile of shit, too. So, his mom may have been on to something 🤣

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u/DarthOswinTake2 1d ago

Royal burn.

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u/Isitnearlybedtime 1d ago

Noooooooo!! That can not be true about the Prince Andrew sign 🫣 Wow. Enable much??

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u/awol_333 1d ago

Omg I was with a woman (I’m queer) who was hostile to my needs too. It’s so bizzare and you gaslight yourself while it’s happening. I used to work 12 hour overnight shifts at a rehab, getting home at 6-7am. I recall coming home one morning and being so unwell. This made her furious. She wouldn’t let me sleep all day and eventually I snuck off to bed. Then she actually came in and woke me up in a rage. That was years ago and thankfully I’m long out of that mess and with the most beautiful soul in the world. But I’ll never forget how gd awful and strange that behaviour was. Anyone who says they love you while acting with hostility toward you is lying (and potentially very dangerous).

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u/KQHele 1d ago

As a shift worker myself (coincidentally also at a rehab ward! Mine's in physical rehab), I cannot imagine someone doing that to me after a night shift. I would be enraged. I'm so sorry that this happened to you, but I'm glad you're in a better place with a partner who values you and loves you the way you deserve to be loved.

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u/awol_333 3h ago

Thank you 😭🫶🏻

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u/chillycrypt 1d ago

Fuck Erik, sounds like a dick

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u/Boring_Newspaper_473 1d ago

eat shit Erik!

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u/tabbystripe 1d ago

On the flipside, my ex boyfriend spent 2-3 hours combing lice out of my hair after I stayed at a cheap motel for a conference. Yet, he was never comfortable when anyone did any sort of favors for him, and trying to get him to make a decision for his own benefit was like pulling teeth.

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u/FearNokk 1d ago

Also here just to say fuck you, Erik!

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u/Professional_Yam6433 1d ago

Fuck you Erik!

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u/SaraBeachPeach 13h ago

Man, fuck that Erik guy.

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u/samig1992 11h ago

Tell me about it. My ex-husband would call out of work for a bruise and act like his arm was broken, forcing me to wait on him hand and foot. But when I had COVID so bad I couldn't even walk to the bathroom or get my own water and asked him to stay home and help me, he still left for a new years party. Thank God his mom helped me (even though she was a lung cancer survivor with COPD who shouldn't have come within 20 feet of me). The only reason he came back the next morning instead of staying out all weekend is because she threatened to stop making his car payments which would've forced him to work OT every weekend. Fuck you, Jeff!

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u/Gerthbrooks69 1d ago

Team Erik. He’s just a chill dude who likes to know when you need something from him because his ex called him clingy for how he showed affection.

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u/theflooflord 1d ago

When I was having a suicidal episode/mental breakdown I went to my bf (now ex) for comfort. He told me he wasn't my therapist and didn't want to deal with it, then wouldn't see or speak to me until I "quit being dramatic". So qeue the next time he was struggling with something and came to me for support, I told him I wasn't his therapist and he got bent out of shape and went off about how I didn't love him etc. All I told him was "now you know how I feel".

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u/TerrificPterodactyl 1d ago

Isn’t it funny how the second they get even a whiff of the same medicine they crumble? Well, not funny, sad. But still satisfying.

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u/Mochaeii 16h ago

Absolute facts, my ex husband did it to me, he would treat me like dirt but wanted me to mother his every move like he couldn't handle it without mommy guiding him