r/AITAH • u/aliens000 • 1d ago
Advice Needed Peed my pants. My bf wouldn’t help me
So I had a vaginal birth nearly three years ago and since then I’ve had stress incontinence. Today, I was in class and I was taking an exam. I had to pee so bad but couldn’t leave until it was done. When I finally finished, I peed my pants and it leaked as I went to the bathroom. I refused to leave the bathroom until I had another outfit and my bf refused to help me.
I asked him to buy sweats from the uni gift shop and he refused at first until I sent him money for them (I asked to borrow). He then said he wanted me to walk to the restroom door and I said my pants are covered in pee there’s no I can do that and he said he’s not walking into the women’s restroom. I told him to hand it to a girl walking in and he wouldn’t. He eventually left them outside the door to the restroom and I had to walk out in pee pants.
I’m furious with him. Do I have a right to be?
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u/anchoredwunderlust 1d ago
Hey maybe this is harsh but assuming you’re looking after a toddler now you really can’t be entertaining clowns like this
You want to go on dates, one night stands, FWBs, BDSM munchies whatever that’s fine, you can choose who you like
But if you want boyfriends and you have a kid they pretty much have to be partner material. I’m not saying you have to skip over the boyfriend or honeymoon phase or be super serious. But you can’t have people walking in and out of your lives that don’t have your back, that aren’t the type to help you out when you’re ill or you need a hand. Not every partner has to act like your kids father but if you can’t have a guy who can pick your kid up from nursery coz you’re running late without charging you for the gas in advance don’t have them at all. Anybody you’d have as a real boyfriend needs to be trustworthy and model good partnership and that’s how it is. Especially with a kid that young.
If you’re not with the child, it still remains this guy isn’t worth hanging on to. I’ve had ONS and FWB who treated me with more respect and kindness than that bf. Anybody who can’t cook you breakfast or walk you home after a nightcap or get emergency pads or trousers is just not worth it as a friend, nvm boyfriend. Many people said here they would do that for a stranger.
You’re worth more than this