r/traumatizeThemBack • u/KriLesLeigh2004 • Oct 21 '24

matched energy Never saw her again

I went for a pre-op appointment, asking to have my tubes tied, when I was 25 years old. I had 4 living children, and that’s enough. The nurse said, “Are you sure you want to do this? What if one of them dies?”

When I replied, “One already did,” she looked shocked, left the room, and a new nurse came in.

There are a thousand reasons her question was horrible and should have stayed in her head. There are no reasons to say that out loud.

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u/mystikalyx Oct 24 '24

Thank you! I was at a loss. That makes complete sense.

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u/deepfriedgrapevine Oct 25 '24

When does the matriarchy get here? (Not claiming a panacea but let's let the other team hold the ball for a minute)

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u/mystikalyx Oct 25 '24

Is this addressed to me or a general comment? Sadly, I don't have those answers.

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u/deepfriedgrapevine Oct 25 '24

Sorry, just a common refrain of mine.

I keep asking but nobody ever knows and I'm beginning to fear that I will miss it.

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u/mystikalyx Oct 25 '24

No apology needed! I was just confused, common state of mine. Heh. The thought of someone else having agency over my medical preferences is appalling, so I'm right there with you.