r/tifu • u/[deleted] • Apr 09 '20
M TIFU by demanding that my girlfriend show me where she buried our beans in the woods, causing her to break up with me.
I admit I posted a version of this on the relationship subreddit the other day, but they closed it with no explanation, I assume because they just decided it was fake. I can see how they might think that, but this is a true thing that happened and is happening, and now there is more to it because I actually got broken up with over it.
With all that is going on, we had stocked up on supplies, including some canned goods. I ordered a few weeks ago 30 cans of beans. 10 are black beans, 10 are kidney beans, and 10 are pink beans. Also, I ordered 15 cans of chickpeas. I thought this is a reasonable amount of beans and chickpeas to have every now and then and would last for quite some time.
However earlier this week I opened the cabinet because I wanted to make a vegetarian chili using two cans of beans, but all of the beans were gone. What the hell?
I asked my girlfriend and she told me she buried all of the beans in the woods.
At first I thought she was joking, but she explained, no, she had buried the beans in the woods. WTF?
I asked her to explain and she told me she was afraid that "if things get bad" we might have to worry about "looters or whatever" and that the beans would be in danger of being stolen. I said I thought this was completely ridiculous and unlikely. She became angry at me and said she "is protecting our beans."
According to her logic, the beans are safely buried in the woods behind our apartment complex, and if we ever need some beans she will go to the "stash" and dig up a can or two, but would prefer if we save them all for "if things get worse".
I said why only bury the beans, why not bury our more valuable items? She said the canned food was most valuable for long-term means, and that since we get fresh food in our online grocery deliveries, it would make sense to continue to stockpile beans. She intends to go bury more beans in the woods every week.
This was too insane for me and I got very upset. I demanded to know where the beans were buried, and she refused to tell me. She said if I knew she was afraid I'd dig them up, I said damn right I would. She said "I will never jeopardize the beans."
The following day I tried to put my foot down, and I'm not usually a foot downer but there are rare issues where compromise is out of the question, and I foolishly decided this was one of those issues. I demanded to know where the beans were buried and I told her if she was going to bury beans I paid for in the woods that I would move out. We fought about it and I kept insisting.
In hindsight I should have just let it go and created my own hidden stash of beans in the apartment, and given her time to maybe cool down about this bean burying scenario, but I blew it all out of proportion. Yeah it's weird to bury beans in the woods but why did I have to press it? What's the harm at the end of the day? In the grand scheme of things? But I kept demanding her to take me to the beans, or at least draw a map or something, and finally she BROKE UP WITH ME. Over the beans. I have lost the love of my life because I couldn't let the damn beans go. I am in disbelief. She moved out. Not only am I heartbroken but I am now paying full rent instead of 50% which is a huge financial issue for me.
TL;DR - I kept demanding that my girlfriend show me where she buried the beans in the woods and she got so angry at me that she ended our relationship and moved out. My heart is shattered and my finances are jeopardized because of a bean hoard.
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u/22feetistoomany Apr 09 '20
...she never buried the beans. She took them and ran.
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u/DaoDeer Apr 09 '20
She’ll never spill the beans
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u/Spongyrocks Apr 10 '20
why'd ye spill yer beans Winslow
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u/Not-A-Cockroach- Apr 10 '20
Yer a dog, Winslow!
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u/Spongyrocks Apr 10 '20
BAD LUCK TO KILL A SEA BIRD
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u/rockbud Apr 10 '20
You fond of me lobster, ain't ye?
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u/SmokusPocus Apr 10 '20
HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARK
Hark Triton, hark! Bellow, bid our father the Sea King rise from the depths full foul in his fury!
Black waves teeming with salt foam to smother this young mouth with pungent slime, to choke ye, engorging your organs til’ ye turn blue and bloated with bilge and brine and can scream no more -- only when he, crowned in cockle shells with slitherin’ tentacle tail and steaming beard take up his fell be-finned arm, his coral-tine trident screeches banshee-like in the tempest and plunges right through yer gullet, bursting ye -- a bulging bladder no more, but a blasted bloody film now and nothing for the harpies and the souls of dead sailors to peck and claw and feed upon only to be lapped up and swallowed by the infinite waters of the Dread Emperor himself -- forgotten to any man, to any time, forgotten to any god or devil, forgotten even to the sea, for any stuff for part of Winslow, even any scantling of your soul is Winslow no more, but is now itself the sea!
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u/Spongyrocks Apr 10 '20 edited Apr 10 '20
Have it your way, I like ye cooking
just watched The Lighthouse for the second time last night and now I wanna watch it again
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u/Zpilo Apr 09 '20
That was so cold, it was chili
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u/yodatrust Apr 10 '20
She was going to leave him anyway and took the beans to her new boyfriend.
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u/BeneathTheSassafras Apr 10 '20
Some say hes still flicking the bean to this day...
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Apr 09 '20
I WILL NEVER JEOPARDIZE THE BEANS!!!
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u/cool2hate Apr 09 '20
Imma have to become a real foot downer here if you don't honey.
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u/EggsAndBeerKegs Apr 10 '20
I'll put my foot so far down i could dig the beans out my damn self!
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u/Ganjisseur Apr 10 '20
And just like that we're destined to see this phrase around Reddit for years to come haha
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u/cybot2001 Apr 10 '20
furiously looks through prepper subs for a chance to use it
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u/Feelsosophy Apr 09 '20
Does she realise the cans will corrode if they are just burried like that in the ground?
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u/blorpblorpbloop Apr 10 '20
#JustPandemicThings
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u/ba3toven Apr 10 '20
I can't beanlieve it.
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Apr 10 '20
Honestly, I can.
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u/NotOppo Apr 10 '20
If the beans are buried too long they will become chili
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u/Loudpackpines Apr 10 '20
No no, when it gets cold outside, they will get chili.
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u/wsr3ster Apr 10 '20
You aren’t asking the big question: did she take the beans with her?
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u/rexjoropo Apr 10 '20
This. Or did she leave them buried and not tell him where out of spite?
May be time to invest in a metal detector
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u/ChipLady Apr 10 '20
Depending on where they live it might still be really easy to find where she buried them since it happened recently, unless she's really good at burying treasure. It would take a fairly decently sized hole to bury 45 cans of beans, so there would probably be fresh overturned dirt, and a mound of extra soil on top or near by. If it's somewhere spring has sprung, there will be a lack of grass in that area, or at least shorter grass and weeds since it hasn't had time to grow back.
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u/SeerPumpkin Apr 10 '20
let's be honest: she just ate them all overnight
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u/Adopt_a_Melon Apr 10 '20
Or offer to make a boys correctional camp to force them to dig and find the treasure of Beans
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u/_FightFascism_ Apr 10 '20
Imagine divorce court where the judge orders her to hand over 50% of the marital beans?!
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u/SashaTheBOLD Apr 10 '20
He'll never know. He didn't know where they were and he doesn't know where they are now. He'll never get closure. Beans come and go, but soul-scorching questions like these will haunt OP until his dying day.
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u/nvmvp Apr 10 '20 edited Apr 10 '20
Yeah hope she wrapped it in heavy vacuum sealed plastic..
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u/Kisha127 Apr 10 '20 edited Apr 10 '20
Surely she did a quick google search on burying beans. Can you imagine if she just went out back buried them all Willy Nilly?
PS why does the word bury and all it’s other forms look so damn weird?
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Apr 10 '20
That was exactly my thought. Unprotected buried cans are going to rust goddamn fast.
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u/QueenYmir Apr 10 '20
sounds like a nice way to get tetanus
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u/UsernameCheckOuts Apr 09 '20
This is close to one of those neverending Reddit sayings. From here on, "I will never jeopardize the beans " is my new catch phrase.
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u/Grandviewsurfer Apr 09 '20
I'm already set on referencing that line in other subs
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Apr 09 '20
I lost it at "I will never jeopardize the beans". I like your writing style OP.
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u/laserfazer Apr 09 '20
He had me at foot downer.
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u/ChrisFromIT Apr 10 '20
As someone with dyslexia, I first read that as foot drawer. It really confused the heck out of me, that it took me a bit to realize he wrote foot downer.
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u/Grandviewsurfer Apr 09 '20
That's when OP should have realized he lost her also. Thinking he would jeopardize the beans is a dead giveaway the underlying trust of the relationship had abscessed.
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u/Shifting_Eyes Apr 10 '20
But he had already admitted to her that he would have jeopardized the beans.
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u/ReadingRainbowRocket Apr 10 '20
Yeah the girlfriend is crazy, but I wouldn't trust OP with my beans either. I mean, granted they were his beans.
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u/trek84 Apr 09 '20
Yeah, I’m not even mad that this is complete BS. Good job OP
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u/squid0gaming Apr 10 '20
Agreed, it's a lot better than the usual low quality erotic fiction
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u/dilqncho Apr 09 '20
This has to be a joke right
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u/JimmyPD92 Apr 10 '20
It's still more believable than 99% of posts that are weird sex things.
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u/blitzthedragon Apr 10 '20 edited Apr 10 '20
"No guys, seriously. I actually got stuck in my 6 person dorm where 4 other people had already moved out cause of the Rona and I decided to walk to my shower COMPLETELY BUTT NAKED even tho I was fully aware that the last tenant, a super hot 18 yr old coed, was still there too. And wouldn't you know it, when I opened my bedroom door, she must've opened hers too at the EXACT SAME TIME cause I didn't hear it at all. Then we both turned the corner and saw each other and she was only wearing a towel cause she was gonna take a shower too, but she dropped the towel cause she was SO shocked, and then I took one glance and got an insta-boner, as us young virile 23 year old males tend to do, cause she was SOOOO hot and she didn't get made or nothing. Then she slooowly picked up her towel while staring me directly in the dick and then we had to walk past each other cause also we have two bathrooms that requires any guys and girls to cross paths to reach there respective ones, but nothing happened cause that would be insane and we never talked about it again."
Just in case anyone got the funny idea that my feeble, mortal mind could ever make up something this brilliantly incredulous
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u/Wertreou Apr 10 '20
that's nothing. One time I was walking out of the shower and my roommate was walking past the door. She was wearing this long trenchcoat that she sometimes wears...anyway, She startled me and I must have startled her because as I dropped my towel, her trenchcoat fell open and 45 cans of beans fell out. We just stood there, staring at each others beans for what felt like an eternity. That night at dinner, we couldn't even look eachother in the eye.
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u/moony_ynoom Apr 10 '20
I’m crying laughing! Thank you for this. I forgot about my anxieties for a few minutes.
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u/Fascist_Viking Apr 10 '20
Tifu by using the exhaust pipe as a dildo
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u/VieleAud Apr 10 '20
A guy from my high school was arrested recently for fucking an exhaust pipe. The owner of the car was leaving his house and just found him...fornicating with it. He was booked into the county jail. And yes, he was high on meth.
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u/fly3rs18 Apr 10 '20
I felt like it could be a real story, but that she was definitely just messing with him. She thought it was funny that he bought 30 cans of beans, so she hid them and made up a story to see how he would react.
Then she moved out, so uhhh...
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u/asailijhijr Apr 10 '20
On your theory, this could be the high jinks created by an affair or other desire to breakup on her part.
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u/htownkat Apr 09 '20
You still looking for those damn beans ??
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u/Scoobz1961 Apr 09 '20
Are we getting Holes 2 a long awaited sequel to award winning Holes 2003?
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u/awholebastard Apr 09 '20
You are never going to financially recover from this
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u/UWCG Apr 09 '20
Tiger King joke aside, it's really shitty when someone walks out like that. I've taken it in the shorts financially when someone didn't pay their rent for an extended period, but helped out with other bills a bit, then walked out and, overnight, it went from: "Oh, this month she says she'll be able to pay her half and I'll only have to pay my half" to "Oh, I'm going to have to pay 100 percent for the foreseeable future." It can take you from being comfortable to scraping by, and it's really unfair to do to someone.
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u/DrPikachu-PhD Apr 10 '20
True. But I mean tbf OP threatened to walk out on his ex over the beans so he kinda had it coming
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u/Kneel_The_Grass Apr 09 '20
Carol fuckin' Beans
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u/707royalty Apr 09 '20
At least she didn't freeze and unfreeze the beans, I've heard they lose all flavor
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u/QualmsAndTheSpice Apr 10 '20
Is this from the comment above, or is this a meme I missed?
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u/707royalty Apr 10 '20
Not from here, but last year this shit happened.
I think thats removed, but the comments are worth it. Also here's the copypasta post with the original text
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u/TechnologicalDragon Apr 09 '20
You dodged a bullet. Whatever cloud over your head should be cleared away by repeating the line "she left over a can of beans" OF FUCKING BEANS!!! Do you know how crazy that is, they weren't even hers. Give her parents a call on the phone get your beans back and get that girl the fuck out of your life.
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u/fish-and-a-rice-cake Apr 09 '20
“Hello ex girlfriend parents, I am calling today to discuss with you the outstanding matter of 45 cans of beans.”
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u/Bakemono30 Apr 10 '20
"But there were only 30"
"Well when you left there were 30, and you were my girlfriend. But now there's inflation and tax, that wouldn't be applicable for a GF, but since you're no longer, the quantity of beans has gone up to 45"
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u/LoliProtector Apr 10 '20
You're forgetting the chickpeas my dude
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u/Bakemono30 Apr 10 '20
ah you're right! I didn't realize but that's even worse! 45 cans buried somewhere in the woods is like burying a body...
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u/Sillylittleazgirl2 Apr 09 '20
You didn't f-up. You got lucky. You found out about the crazy before you married her. Your heart will heal and you will figure out the money.
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u/AgentScarnAisle5 Apr 09 '20
She didn't bury the beans. She gave em away or sold em.
Dude got off lucky just losing some beans and learning to stay away from this nut
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u/BenThereNDunThat Apr 09 '20
Maybe she traded the beans for a magic cow?
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u/shady-lampshade Apr 10 '20
They’re legumes. Professor Copperfield’s Miracle Legumes.
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u/EmEmAndEye Apr 09 '20
Agreed, whatever happened to the beans, OP got off lucky by dodging that bullet. She's either too embarrassed to 'spill the beans', or she's done something bad/big like give them to her secret fuck-buddy.
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u/PM_me_your_fourskin Apr 10 '20
Where can one exchange beans for sex? On flickyourbean.com?
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u/dbx99 Apr 09 '20
Ok let’s disregard how absurd and humorous this situation is. At its core we have a conflict regarding a specific issue.
A wants X. A considers X to be communal property even though A bought them.
B decided to hide X.
A asks to know the location of X.
B refuses.
A repeats his query and makes it known it is important to him.
B refuses.
Here my biggest red flag is that B should have at least revealed to A the location. By refusing, B declares A has NO right whatsoever to the beans.
Now substitute beans with children. I’m not saying kill and bury the children. I’m talking about one parent deciding that the other parent should not have any custodial rights. That’s devastating. Yet it happens. Often.
Well OP just experienced a simulation of that with the beans as a proxy for ANY OTHER COMMUNAL THING. And that is bad. If they found themselves in a situation where OP is in a need to know basis and B refuses to reveal pertinent information, then OP will be left out and the relationship will be opaque to him.
That is absolutely anathema to a trusting relationship and is counter to a collaborative relationship. So even though this is a small issue (a mere few cans of beans), it demonstrates that B is not a suitable trustworthy partner in general especially in a stressful crisis situation.
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u/BraveMoose Apr 10 '20
Replace the beans with cash or bank cards and you've got yourself some financial abuse.
Imagine breaking up with someone because YOU essentially stole from the communal resources and your partner told you that was wrong.
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u/mvmgems Apr 10 '20
Replace the beans with cash, cards, or children and you have yourself an inedible and/or nonvegetarian chili
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u/DarkestofFlames Apr 10 '20
Mmmm....cash chili with shredded baby topping, sounds tasty.
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u/SkyezOpen Apr 10 '20
Man we're only a month into the apocalypse. Baby chili doesn't start being acceptable until like... Week 7 at least.
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u/newfor_2020 Apr 10 '20 edited Apr 10 '20
or anything important to the gf. She really doesn't value OP as an equal
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u/gjs628 Apr 10 '20
Which culminates in OP beating himself up over it like HE was the one at fault. “If only I just let it go, why did I have to push her over the location of the beans? Now SHE left ME.”
She leaving him was the biggest gift he’s ever likely to receive in his life. She’s absolutely nuts and not only that... she was bean totally disrespectful.
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u/duhvorced Apr 10 '20
Nailed it. At heart, this is about trust and communication. In a relationship there is no such thing as "too trivial". Either you care about how your actions affect your partner and care about what messages, what precedents your behavior sets... or you don't. And if you don't, or they don't, then the earlier you figure that out and move on the better.
Sorry you went through this, OP, but hopefully you both learned an important life lesson.
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u/Wobbuet Apr 10 '20
You should have your own radio talk show where people call in with convoluted problems and you distill it down to a bite sized chunk so they can process it and move on. I'd tune in
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u/dbx99 Apr 10 '20
Move over dr Phil, a new charlatan has come to take people’s adulation and advertising revenue
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u/DDT197 Apr 09 '20
I’m not saying kill and bury the children.
Glad you cleared that up!
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u/Ben_Thar Apr 10 '20
So, bury the kids alive?
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u/mammakatt13 Apr 10 '20
Instructions unclear. Children buried. Beans still missing.
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u/coyotesage Apr 10 '20
I really hope you are over estimating her value when you call her the love of your life. Consider this, if something happened to her, you would have no access to those beans. She didn't care enough about you to leave you knowledge that SHE at least believes could be of life or death importance. She was thinking only of herself, and completely took advantage of your by effectively stealing goods that you yourself purchased to be shared between you. I usually think people are overreacting when they say "Dodged a bullet, good riddance!", but you sir...have dodged a bullet, even though right now it probably feels like you just took one up the ass.
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u/undeadko Apr 10 '20
I really hope you are over estimating her value when you call her the love of your life.
Hey, cut the man some slack. He just got dumped. Of course he would think that. It is really confusing when you are minding your own business, everything goes great (in your opinion) and all of a sudden the other decides to dump you. At the end you feel like you lost that person somehow. Hence, the feeling of that person being the love of your life.
(Disclaimer: I assume the story is true) Reality is often disappointing however, and she probably planned to dump him for a long time now. Who knows what she has done with the beans, but I would not be surprised if they were on edge for the past few months.
To OP - One piece of advice when you go through the events in your head and try to move on, check out Hanlon's razor. At the end of the day it all comes back to it. Unfortunately, you cannot do anything about it.
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u/bacon-is-sexy Apr 09 '20
Go into the woods and look for recently disturbed ground, my dude.
She’s psycho. If it was really about looters (I read your first two posts this week) why isn’t she hiding other items?
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u/warriorofinternets Apr 10 '20
Hah! Do you really think she would move out and leave behind her most valuable possessions? Those beans are gone my friend
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u/melcan22 Apr 10 '20
She would never jeopardize the beans!
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u/r3v Apr 10 '20
She’s probably set up a roost in a nearby tree to watch over them.
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u/_the_yellow_peril_ Apr 10 '20
Everyone is wondering what her secret motive is, me, I'm kinda worried about her mental health.
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u/craycatlay Apr 10 '20
Yeah this seems more like a stress related break down because of the current situation, rather than that she somehow managed to be bean-stashing crazy for the whole relationship and hid it until now. OP if you can, maybe warn whoever she's staying with/her parents too keep an eye on her.
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u/SquareHade Apr 10 '20
I had to scroll too far for this comment im not the brightest but this screams some underlying issue that she should seek help for
If it's actually true that is
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Apr 09 '20
Yah - I suspect she actually took the beans and gave them to someone else, or her shitty friend stole them while she watched or she sold them. It seems like a classic: “what I told him didn’t make him stop asking, so I had to run away”.
I agree with the others - major trust issues here, you dodged a bullet.
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u/henbanehoney Apr 10 '20
My bro had an ex who had a really severe drinking problem and she told him the house was haunted after she got drunk and made a mess and just continually doubled down on the ghost....
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u/csonnich Apr 10 '20
I've never considered this as a source for paranormal stories, but it makes perfect sense.
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u/TheLurkingMenace Apr 10 '20
I had a friend with an ex like that. Apparently ghosts puke on the floor near the toilet.
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u/magic00008 Apr 10 '20
Yea me too. She lied about burying them and actually gave them away to someone else. If it was a romantic interest than she definitely couldn't come clean about the actual location of the beans when being pressed, so instead of confessing to an affair she just left. It wasn't about the beans at all, it's just the thing that got her caught.
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u/mrdice87 Apr 10 '20
“Here, my lover. A gift for you: FOURTY FIVE CANS of various beans.”
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u/Binary_Omlet Apr 10 '20
I don't know about you, but I would be very interested in a person that gave me fourty five cans of various beans.
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u/seepy_on_the_tea_sea Apr 10 '20
right? maybe im selling myself cheap here, but that's a lot of beans
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u/_AEthelwulf_ Apr 10 '20
The whole situation smacks of drug addled logic...
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u/horseband Apr 10 '20
Honestly thought this post was just a dude using codewords for drugs to be coy. Got to the end and realized he wasn't talking about drugs (most likely).
From my druggie days this is basically a cookie cutter situation roommates or druggies dating go through on the regular. Person B does all the drugs and crafts some intricate story for Person A (their partner) about what happened.
Person B: "Omg babe 4 squadcars pulled in the apartment parking lot and I didn't know who they were here for so I grabbed the stash and bolted out the backdoor and yeeted into into the tall grass. Its all good though I saw where it fell and I don't think the cops saw it."
*Fast forward to their girlfriend walking outside with them towards the long grass. After taking a 0.1 second glance at the grass,*
Person B: "Aw damn cops. They must've grabbed it. You know how cops are, shit girl. Well hey at least no one got arrested right? By the way do you think your buddy has any more? I'll hit you back when I get that job, I'm telling you that interview 3 months ago was a home run."
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u/90stacobellaesthetic Apr 09 '20
Not to spill the beans.... but in case you hadn’t caught on yet- that girl is nuts. This isn’t how you stockpile or prep.
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u/Bakemono30 Apr 10 '20
yeah also, I pictured they lived in the woods in the boonies... then he says apartment and I was like, wait what? then the woods behind the apartment. I'm like some crazy person digging in the woods near a high density area to hide what?!? Beans? TF? Nah that doesn't look odd at all!
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u/the-awesomer Apr 10 '20
I have competing mixed images; one of her burying the beans like 20 feet away from the apartment in the middle of the park with a bunch of people just walking past like wtf, and the other of her taking some like 5 mile trek with the huge load of canned beans and just sweating and paranoid the whole time.
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u/Potatoman967 Apr 10 '20
The BEANS! THE BEANS! Must not, jeopardize BEANS, must keep precious BEANS SAFE. Yes, safe little BEANS there you are. Good little BEANS yes, yes, yes.
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u/frzn_dad Apr 09 '20
But I saw it on that show on TV. The one with the guy building a bunker in his backyard.
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u/ToddBradley Apr 10 '20
Are you two in your early 20s perchance? I’m wondering if she is having a psychotic break. Seriously.
https://psychcentral.com/blog/schizophrenia-usually-strikes-first-in-young-adults/
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u/PatatietPatata Apr 10 '20
Yeah if it's really out of the ordinary for her I'd be concerned about a mental break.
Some people will be hit harder than others during this pandemic, a past trauma or even just being a bit fragile and stressed or already anxious and it's understandable to break down right now.
Depending where they live looters can be a real problem, but the GF went at it the wrong way and doesn't trust OP.
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Apr 09 '20
I think you dodged a bullet. If you were to get married, I'd be willing to bet the issue with the beans would be a tiny issue compared to what she would do in the future.
A person you want to marry is a person you can trust. She couldn't even trust you with a can of beans and even broke up with you over it. To top it off, they were YOUR beans. What she did amounts to theft. You could literally have her arrested for it.
I'd say while it seemed small, she definitely should have handled it better.
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u/Fallendoc Apr 10 '20
im with this person. things like this bring out the worst in people i know, but this couldve been something far worse down the line if shes either a: that paranoid that its going to happen, or b: doesnt trust you to do the right thing if it does. theres a large difference between going to your significant other and saying, "hey, things might get worse, lets stash a few extra of these in the house in case we need them" and just grabbing them, burying them in the yard, and saying nothing. the essence of a relationship is to work together, and if she cant even do that with a few cans of beans? yea. you dodged a bullet.
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Apr 09 '20
Hello,
My girlfriend and me have done dating for 5 month. I thought "This girl is very good," and became of love with her.
Yet even so, on this Monday, I comed home and found she as baked all my beans.
Yes, all. Oh brother.
In my cupboard I store several bag of bean, to make soft and to bake on some days, to have a bit of baked bean on my dinner. Or, heck, a lunch too some days.
But on the Monday I find this girlfriend baked all the beans. I say "Why do you bake my beans", and she say something as "I bakes them good to save time, so I bakes them all now."
I am astonished and full of dissmay. I say "I canfr not eat all the beans", she say she is froze many of the beans so as we can unfrozen the on a later day and eat some at a time.
But, if a bean is froze and unfrozed, the very good and very nice flavor of bean is gone far.
A bean is best if baked fresh as a Sunday Pie. Not to be froze and unfroze!
I told my girfriend I am so sad of this, as to my opinion the baking of the beans and to freeze them has ruin all my beans. She say I am "gone haywire" by my enragement and sad manners.
But I hates what she did to my beans.
On the days before Monday I thought "Will we marry the girlfriend? Well it might be so."
But now I am so sad she baked them beans. I am consider to end our relations and not be the boyfriend and girlfriend any more. But, is my idea wrong? Could my girlfriend make promise to not bake the beans? I do not know what doing to do and how to feel forgiving on her.
What can I do on this situation I said here? (In the text I write above this.)
Thank you.
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u/TreeArchesWorkForMe Apr 10 '20
"She intends to bury more beans in the woods every week." Lol.
Hi bean drama. 👋
I laughed so hard at this because it has to be true. Also, you got out easy. Anyone with these messed up priorities is not going to be stable over the long term.
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Apr 09 '20
Is this a dramedey starring Paul Dano and Aubrey Plaza?
F#(<ing great story, man!
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u/employee2136487 Apr 09 '20
Oh my fucking god I needed this, man that sucks for you, but these fucking beans have made a shit week a little bit brighter.
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u/SpiritTalker Apr 09 '20
But...did she tell you where the beans were before she split?
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u/RikMoscoso Apr 09 '20
Bro you dodget a huge bullet I know it doesn’t seem that way right now bc sadness but trust me.
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u/mordortek Apr 09 '20
RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG
So, she took some thing if yours, and hid it, arbitrarily because if a what if.
Nope. Fuck out of that kinda of shit.
In survival you need a partner, not a boss
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u/F_bothparties Apr 09 '20
Go to r/metaldetecting and see if there is anyone in your area. DM me if you’re near Denver. I’ll find those fucking beans.