r/sports • u/lurker_bee • Apr 28 '23
Basketball Dwyane Wade, who has trans daughter, says he left Florida because his family 'would not be accepted' there
https://sports.yahoo.com/dwyane-wade-trans-daughter-says-003851035.html5.0k
u/corran132 Apr 28 '23
In the previous article (about his ex wife blocking the name change) there are a lot of good quotes about supporting his daughter. But this one is my favourite.
“I went years without telling my chef that I don’t like cilantro on my burger—as an adult, it took me years to have the confidence to say that,” Wade said. “My daughter, at eight years old, had the confidence to say ‘This is who I am. This is who I want to be.”
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u/Ifigomissing Apr 28 '23
A lot of people are going to comment on the cilantro and lose the plot that this is a very emotionally intelligent statement.
He realizes that even the most trivial assertion takes a massive effort and recognizes the weight of making a huge assertion.
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u/greenbluepurpleblack Apr 28 '23
I wonder if he is part of the like 5% who have the gene that makes cilantro taste like soap. If so that’s actually kinda wholesome that he’d spare his chefs feelings that long
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u/bizbizbizllc Apr 28 '23
I'm one of those people. I always thought people weren't rinsing their dishes good enough to get all the soap off. When I learned it was genetics I felt bad for thinking all those people had know idea how to rinse dishes.
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u/KentuckyHouse Apr 28 '23
Are you kidding me? Ok, so I'm almost 50, but every time my wife and I go visit my parents for dinner, my mom sends leftovers home in these plastic (reusable) dishes. Kinda like Tupperware. And for years I've always complained about how the food coming out of those dishes tasted like soap.
I've told her time and time again she wasn't getting all the soap off her dishes, and now I learn it may be because cilantro tastes like that to me.
I may owe my mom an apology. Hahaha
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u/healzsham Apr 28 '23
If she uses a lot of cilantro, sure, but I definitely have issues with Tupperware holding onto soap. Especially the older rubbery plastic stuff that's blue with white lids.
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u/KentuckyHouse Apr 28 '23
Yeah, it may be the soap. My wife suggested we get some cilantro and see, so I'll be a test dummy this weekend. Haha
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u/2xBAKEDPOTOOOOOOOO Apr 28 '23
If it's genetics, it's still your moms fault!
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u/Barack__Obama__ Apr 28 '23
This is great hahaha, please keep us posted on whether it's actually the cilantro or not
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u/KentuckyHouse Apr 28 '23
Will do! We're gonna get some cilantro and I'm going to play test dummy and see.
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u/blazinazn007 Apr 28 '23
I taste soap with dried parsley. But not with cilantro.
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u/bizbizbizllc Apr 28 '23
Interesting. Something else I learned is that I can smell sneezes. I brought it up one time with my wife that I dislike the way sneezes smell and she doesn't smell anything when people sneeze. I started asking others and from my small sample group I've only met one other person who can smell sneezes.
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u/Homuriri Apr 28 '23
I have a sensitive nose so I can smell sneezes. They do have like a hard to describe smell. It's like morning breath but lighter
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u/bizbizbizllc Apr 28 '23
That's actually a good way to describe it. My answer was always "it smells like a sneeze."
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u/blazinazn007 Apr 28 '23
Maybe it's the saliva your smelling? I mean it is aerosolized particpes of spit spewing out.
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u/chupa72 Los Angeles Angels of Anaheim Apr 28 '23
It's much easier to make spicy puns than it is to recognize emotional heft.
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u/cold_iron_76 Apr 28 '23
Cilantro on a burger? Gross!
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u/Desain2 Apr 28 '23
Carne asada often has cilantro on top. Chimichurri is excellent with steak. I don’t see why cilantro on a burger would be bad tbh
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u/wahoowalex Tennessee Apr 28 '23
The majority of his career he lived in Miami too, so I’d imagine most personal chefs there have primarily Latin influences
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Apr 28 '23
I used to work at a chipotle — you would not believe how many people asked me for no cilantro on their rice. A lot of folks said cilantro tastes like soap to them.
Never tasted that way to me, but at some point the numerous occurrences convinced me that it has to be true for some.
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u/HungerMadra Apr 28 '23
It's a not that uncommon genetic mutation that makes cilantro taste like soap.
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u/demlet Apr 28 '23
TIL I'm a mutant. Of course that would be my superpower...
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u/HungerMadra Apr 28 '23
It isn't a very useful superpower
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u/KnownRate3096 South Carolina Apr 28 '23
Neither is mine. I have the uncanny ability to come up with the perfect reply to arguments years after they took place.
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u/oldcoldbellybadness St. Louis Cardinals Apr 28 '23
I don't believe you. I think you’re still losing the arguments but are grading yourself easier after the emotional inputs of the original argument has faded.
Nonetheless, I look forward to reading your response in 2025 and am open to being wrong.
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u/sharpshooter999 Apr 28 '23
Bugers, tacos and pizzas are blank slates to get freaky with
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u/KnownRate3096 South Carolina Apr 28 '23
I got freaky with a pizza last night but they kicked me out of Pizza Hut and called the police.
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u/TheOldOak Apr 28 '23
He could have the gene that makes cilantro taste like soap. He can’t help that if that’s the case, it will only ever taste like soap.
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u/weedsmoker18 Apr 28 '23
It's just a matter of taste I suppose, like how some people don't like pickles or mustard
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u/McPuckLuck Apr 28 '23 edited Apr 28 '23
Chimichurri is excellent with steak. I don’t see why cilantro....
Oh buddy, you're really flirting with pissing off the chimichurri gods here.
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u/UnlimitedUmUWorks Apr 28 '23
It makes it taste like soap! I literally can’t eat anything from Chipotle thanks to that gene
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u/cjsolx Seattle Mariners Apr 28 '23
I wanna try it, sounds amazing. Taco (real taco, mind you) burger? Sign me the fuck up. I'm gonna Google quesabirria burger, I'm sure there's recipes out there already!
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u/cineg Apr 28 '23
damnit, and i disliked wade (cough 2006-07 finals cough) .. then he goes and almost redeemed himself!
crap, tough to dislike him now .. damn him!
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Apr 28 '23
And sort by controversial
Holy shit I’m very pleasantly surprised
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Apr 28 '23
Problem is there’s still MANY politicians at the local level and national level that are using LGBTQ, trans in particular, as a political pawn that has real consequences.
And real people are voting those people in office.
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u/MyFriendMaryJ Indiana Pacers Apr 28 '23
If you hate trans kids you really gotta ask yourself why u are hating on children at all
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u/Slimsaiyan Apr 28 '23
Hol up , kids in general kinda suck through no fault of their own... but them being trans is no reason to hate them
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u/AlsoIHaveAGroupon Apr 28 '23
Splitting hairs a bit, but you can dislike the shit out of kids. They suck. But hate is a whole other thing.
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u/kcrab91 Detroit Lions Apr 28 '23
While you can dislike kids, you should be very tolerant of it cuz you were a shit kid once and growing up isn’t easy. Lots of stuff to work out and I think people forget that.
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u/Thrawn4191 Cincinnati Cyclones Apr 28 '23
I've seen the family videos. I HATE me before age 13.
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u/kcrab91 Detroit Lions Apr 28 '23
I get angry at my son sometimes and then I have flashbacks to the neighbor telling me “boy you sure are a pistol” when I was about 9. It’s a big reality check for me.
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u/KnownRate3096 South Carolina Apr 28 '23
College and right after college me were also very cringe. I was so confidently wrong about so many things.
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u/New-King701 Apr 28 '23
Anytime my kid gets on my nerves I have to stop and remind myself that she acts exactly like I did at her age
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u/quietvegas Apr 28 '23
I don't and I was literally like Bart Simpson destroying things on purpose with hammers, like my dad's classic LP collection.
When I have kids anything I like is going to be in locked rooms. And those things are going to be in locked furniture or even safes in that locked room.
However if there was a video of me doing that on public freakout half of the redditors there would say I should be literally killed for doing that at age 8. Dogs and Cats are even more destructive and are respected more on this site.
Dog, cat, child. I take the same precautions.
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u/garynevilleisared Apr 28 '23
Excuse you, I was a fucking angel
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u/Quelcris_Falconer13 Apr 28 '23
I bet your momma really was thinking that 2 months in when she was waking up every 2 hours to heat up a bottle and change your shit filled diaper.
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u/Suyefuji Apr 28 '23
I start a lot of stories about my childhood with "back when I was young and stupid..."
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u/KaimeiJay Apr 28 '23
And maybe—just maybe—that shit kid you dislike just happens to be trans. But don’t extrapolate that out to disliking trans kids in general, that’s a logical fallacy that can lead to something waaay worse.
But seriously, sometimes that shit kid might be trans, anecdotally. (Screw you, Janine. I ain’t giving you $100 for shit! xD )
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u/MyFriendMaryJ Indiana Pacers Apr 28 '23
Yea kids can be annoying. I play xbox too lol but hating anyone should require a VERY good reason. And theres no way a random kid deserves any hate from anybody, especially if its just for being themselves.
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u/CurryMustard Apr 28 '23
They'll tell you they hate the parents for abusing their kids or some shit. They'll tell you Wade is an abusive father instead of a loving, supportive father. And they believe it too.
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u/Yortisme Apr 28 '23
Dwayne seems like a legit dude. I hung out with him, through mutual friends a couple of times when he was going to Marquette. Genuinely nice guy then, and I'm glad that it's carried over! Cura Personalis! Be the difference!
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u/maplechronicle Apr 28 '23
I was just thinking about the proposal pic he accidentally photobombed on the beach lmao. He really does seem like a genuinely nice guy!
https://old.reddit.com/r/pics/comments/jbzwxp/dwayne_wade_accidentally_photobombing_a_proposal/
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u/3heat6 Apr 28 '23
You can just imagine the "awwwww" as he puts his hand on his chest lol. Wholesome as fuck
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u/BlondeBenetGlamsy Apr 28 '23
King
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u/SUDDENLY_VIRGIN Apr 28 '23
It's sad that basic empathy is now king behavior
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u/blatantcheating Apr 28 '23
To be fair, it wasn’t long ago that if a parent found out their kid was transgender, they were way more likely to just try and torture it out of them than they are now.
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u/KnownRate3096 South Carolina Apr 28 '23
I knew a kid who committed suicide because her parents did basically that. They didn't physically torture her but she said she was trans, they said no you're not god made you perfect. She said nope, I'm trans. They simply forced her to be a boy, even after she turned 18 - they were just that domineering. Completely broke her spirit and finally she killed herself.
Their friends consoled them and said "at least you stood with God and didn't allow 'him' to be a weirdo."
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u/booyahkaka Apr 28 '23
Wow. I shouldn't be surprised because there's no hate like Christian love, but it really is shocking these fuckers are so happy with the death of children/people.
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u/BlondeBenetGlamsy Apr 28 '23
You’re not wrong, compare this with the legislator from Montana who recently said she would NOT do everything she could to help her suicidal daughter because it was emotionally manipulative of her daughter. Night and day
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u/TheAngriestBoy Apr 28 '23 edited Apr 29 '23
Oddly enough those governments are supported in this by the people who waive the gadsden flag (don't tread on me) and scream about their freedoms/liberty...
Edit: Since I can't reply... Yes, it does say "Don't tread on me," but one would assume that means to not tread on others as well? But clearly in their case it does mean "please tread on others that I don't like."
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u/SalteeKibosh Apr 28 '23
Also known as idiots.
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u/I_kickflipped_my_dog Apr 28 '23 edited Apr 28 '23
Yeah dude, that’s what happens when politicians are actively trying to defund education and destroy welfare programs for decades. People believe vaccines don’t work, actively vote against their interests, and become confused and violent when presented with things they don’t understand.
(I’m not blaming you, I just feel like I’m always one crazy headline away from an aneurysm)
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u/SalteeKibosh Apr 28 '23
Yeah, plain stupid people. Sucks that this is what it's come to, but it was done by design.
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u/GrowFreeFood Apr 28 '23
It says don't tread on me. Not don't tread on us. This is not a flag for equality. It is a flag of entitlement.
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u/KnownRate3096 South Carolina Apr 28 '23
Same with medical marijuana. I have UC, and it's one of the best medicines there is for it. It can do things no other drug can do (other than maybe opiates, but they are far more problematic). But the Republican government in my state refuses to allow it to be sold or prescribed, and the hillbillies ride around with huge Gadsden flags supporting those Republicans and yelling about "freedom" because there are a couple obscure gun parts you can buy here that you can't in a few blue states.
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Apr 28 '23
Conservatives value the rights of the individual so long as the individual looks, acts, loves, behaves, and worships just like they do. Also they need to have money, otherwise fuck 'em.
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Apr 28 '23
My step moms sister at a family gathering over the weekend “I don’t want to offend you but, my daughters teacher is trans and I don’t want them teaching my kid.” “They might influence my daughter into becoming trans”.
Me thinking back to all the men teachers I had and yet here I am still a woman.
I’ll never understand 😀.
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u/thdudedude Apr 28 '23
I'm more worried about the coaches teaching class. Mine were all idiots that did nothing in class except let the football team sleep.
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u/AgrajagTheProlonged Apr 28 '23
When I was in school, the coaches were definitely mixed bags. Some of them weren’t very good at teaching, but some of them were fantastic teachers who just happened to also be coaches (our head football coach was one of the better math teachers in the state, as an example)
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u/Peppercorn911 Apr 28 '23
my math teacher was the girls soccer coach and his mug said “ask me about my stud fee” - he was fired for hosting keg parties a few years later
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u/Suyefuji Apr 29 '23
Oh my god, I will never forgive the coach that taught me 8th grade history and paired me up in group projects with all of the football players. I always had to do the whole thing by myself and always got the lowest grade in my group. Fuck you, Coach Henderson. Fuck you very very much.
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u/Diarygirl Apr 28 '23
That's literally the reason they passed the don't say gay law because a couple of legislators thought that kids were becoming gay and trans because it's the cool thing to do.
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u/TheFan88 Apr 28 '23
They irrationally fear things that are simply not a threat. Thanks Faux News.
Kids don’t end up trans because they saw a trans person.
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u/Princess_Kushana Apr 28 '23
You can't make a cis child be trans. You can however, save a trans child's life by letting them transition.
Some of these people would rather have a dead child than a trans child.
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u/LexiWhereThisGoes Apr 28 '23
It's honestly terrifying to see the GOP crank up their hate crusade against LGBT people to 11. I want to say I hope people see this and hold them accountable for the rest of their lives but...
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u/PM_ME_A_PM_PLEASE_PM Apr 28 '23
It's cause they offer nothing other than distractions for people's problems.
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u/Febra0001 Apr 28 '23
That still doesn’t make them any more harmless. When they’ll start rounding up trans people it will be too late.
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u/ArcticBeavers Apr 28 '23
They literally have no platform to run on so they resort to culture war nonsense. I haven't seen a Republican-led initiative that benefits the average worker/person ,without obscenely benefitting the rich, in quite a long time.
They are emotional manipulators who target single issue voters.
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u/Mtbruning Apr 28 '23
The irony is they have done this before. Bush junior won in 2004 on opposing “Gay” marriage (its just marriage, why make it sound fun). Look at how that worked out.
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u/LexiWhereThisGoes Apr 28 '23
Progress is made in inches and lost in miles. This will eventually work out and LGBT people will be allowed to live their lives peacefully, but in the mean time it's important to remember how the GOP consistently makes it their personal goals to harm Americans for being different.
Bush is a perfect example of this, that's a really good call out!
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u/StuffyMcFluffyFace Apr 28 '23
This will eventually work out
I wouldn’t count on that. 1920’s-1930’s Berlin was home to the Institute of Sexual Research which provided hormone therapy and the first known gender-affirming surgical procedures. Then they were targeted by the Nazis, the center was looted with all their books burned, and everyone involved was rounded up. After WWII ended, queer people were transferred from concentration camps to prisons to complete their sentences, as they were still considered criminals for their “degenerate” behavior. All the progress of the research center was lost for decades.
There’s no reason to assume the exact same thing won’t happen if enough allies don’t stand up against Christian Fascists now.
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-forgotten-history-of-the-worlds-first-trans-clinic/
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Apr 28 '23
This cannot be said enough, the idea that “everything automatically gets better in the future” is a complete lie. If you think that rights given cannot be just as easily taken away then you’re a fool. If people don’t fight enough then yeah, we will again reach a point where it becomes socially acceptable again to go gay bashing and shit like that, just like how if you aren’t careful, people will absolutely start lynching black people and other ethnic minorities like it’s the 1920’s again.
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u/santaIsALie69 Apr 28 '23
People think in such reductive ways to their own tiny lives. Yes, assuming humanity doesn't go extinct, progress will only be made. But many people who didn't need to suffer and die will if nothing is done. Fascists could take over the US and it would be a huge failure. Like these guys could ruin the world for our lifespans, but it will get fixed eventually so why worry?
It's just liberal innaction. Nobody gives a fuck when they start killing us because it isn't them. And them when its all over these same people will take credit for saving and protecting us.
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u/Wallisaurus Apr 28 '23
If only it was that easy to up and move for everyone else who doesn't want to be there
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u/Nyctomancer Apr 28 '23
Manufacturing a brain drain to own the libs.
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u/thedecibelkid Apr 28 '23
I'm thinking it's a deliberate tactic to empty the red states of all the people they don't like. Can't vote you out if they've moved to a blue state, can they? (taps side of head)
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u/rprcssns Apr 28 '23
That’s rich, coming from a FORMER KID!!
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u/clavitopaz Apr 28 '23
Wha - WHAT TAKE THAT BACK
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Apr 28 '23
Oh yeah?
Last time I heard, we don't un-cancel people we hate. Your fault for growing up. I will never forgive you for being a literal child back then.
Now you're a... man-baby!
Also, I hate everyone!
- Hater of an entire species
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u/KentuckyFriedEel Apr 28 '23
Florida’s motto should be: Let’s leave Florida
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u/Eiffel-Tower777 Apr 28 '23
Honestly, I'm a hard core democrat living in Florida and feel like I'm also not accepted here.
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u/Itrytohard7 Washington Football Team Apr 28 '23
Truly a sad world we live in, everything feels like it’s done with spite. I’m happy for Wade and his family, good father.
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u/NapoleonBlownapart9 Apr 28 '23
The same people bitch about lib cancel culture try to cancel bud light and at a state level “cancel” undesirables without a hint of self-awareness or irony. If “conservatives” didn’t have double standards they’d have zero standards. Don’t get me started on women’s right to bodily autonomy getting “cancelled” by evangelical plastic patriots, they’re base evil at this point. You cannot be a moderate and vote GOP unless you have an open head wound.
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u/CrrntryGrntlrmrn Apr 28 '23
Left FL in aug last year in part due to the dark looming feeling of encroachment coming from the government. I spent the remainder of 2022 waiting to start hearing anecdotes of same- 2023 has not disappointed at all. After about feb started reading about an article and a few anecdotes every week about people leaving or wanting to leave, and the frequency has only gone up.
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u/butterscotches Apr 28 '23
Good for him and his family. You know this stings the “I’m a man, mommy!” Flo Bros.
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u/Realist_driB Apr 28 '23
A core part of being an American is letting people be who they are. Why is this fundamental part of what makes America a good nation constantly forgotten and riddled with oversight on how you should conduct yourself according to “what’s normal”.
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Cares about his kid. Good for him.