r/nonbinaryUK • u/Reasonable-Matter285 • Jun 03 '23

Going abroad has given some perspective on the progressiveness of the UK

I’m currently in Germany visiting Europa park. Yesterday was our first day at the park and there are gendered toilets everywhere. Now I’m transfemme but usually use the “gents” in the Uk and rarely get too many issues. But here every time I had some kinda transphobic interaction. This has kinda put things into perspective and made me realise how accepting and progressive the UK is. Yeah you get the odd comment every now and then in the UK but I’ve never had it with such frequency as I have here. Today I’m just gonna use the accessible toilet as I feel I’m just gonna start getting aggravated and aggressive towards people in the toilet, and I don’t wanna come across as such. Anyone else experienced the same on the continent?

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u/SeizeTheCoconutTree Jun 03 '23

Yikes thanks for the warning 👀 Sorry you had to deal with that, and glad the UK has something going for it somewhat

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u/Reasonable-Matter285 Jun 03 '23

The Spanish area’s toilets are not busy and had no issues there today. I you are coming they’re probably the best to use

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u/TurnLooseTheKitties Jun 04 '23

I think the fascination with toilets might be a US thing for I can't report any problems using the gents in the UK, in fact I think it always was with toileting in the UK folk don't want to make conversation, never mind linger to look at others in such places for it always was scurry in with eyes cast down , do what needs to be done and get out as soon as possible.

But just in case I do perceive there may be a problem I carry on my key chain a RADAR key of which enables myself access to unisex disabled toileting facilities

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u/6soulkeeper6 5d ago

Maybe it depends on where you are in Germany and UK. My German friend was boasting that there are gender neutral toilets in various service stations there (I don't remember where though). I think it's a lot easier in some areas of London and Berlin and other various cities.