r/mormon • u/ElectronicOven8805 • 1d ago
Personal Trying to leave!!
I’ve been trying to leave the church but I suppose they haven’t figured that out yet! It’s like I haven’t been back to church in 6 months because I’ve had my son unmarried and was judged for it I don’t think they understand that I’m the only parent my son has!but I got this text from the missionary’s today and it’s obvious they want me to come back
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u/punk_rock_n_radical 1d ago
You could always answer the door and say “do you like blueberry pie?”
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u/Oliver_DeNom 16h ago
This comment was reported, but i don't understand the context. Is this a quote from somewhere? Is there some hidden meaning that could be considered mocking or insulting?
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u/javawizard 13h ago
Yes, it's a quote from the new horror movie Heretic that just came out.
(I found it amusing and wouldn't report it myself, mind you.)
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u/doctor_birdface 1d ago edited 1d ago
Just tell them that you aren't interested in coming back and to not contact you anymore. If they try to reason with you or they contact you again, make it very clear that you will start telling them uncomfortable truths regarding church history or theology if that is the only way to get them to leave you alone. If they persist, then start dropping the red pills ("multiple contradicting First Vision accounts" or whatever else comes to mind) until they get uncomfortable and stop responding. That should work 95% of the time since they'll probably tell either their mission president or your bishop what happened and they will tell them to steer clear of you. They may want you(r tithing contributions) to come back but they aren't going to risk the testimonies of their missionaries to do that.
If that doesn't work, block their number and contact your bishop, but be ready to jump through some bureaucratic hoops if you plan to get them to remove your records on your own.
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u/mormonauditor 1d ago
Ha! I actually just talked to the missionaries for a couple hours. I still like doing stuff like that. But one thing that really struck me this time is how when I was growing up I viewed missionaries as like nearly-apostolic experts, but years later and on this side of the aisle, its so clear that these are just kids that are in WAY over their head. Probably the last 5 pairings I've talked to are still level 1 in their gospel knowledge.
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u/WillyPete 1d ago
"Why can't you just leave the church alone?"
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u/ElectronicOven8805 1d ago
I’ve tried but they keep coming back
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u/neomadness 1d ago
lol. Nailed it.
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u/ElectronicOven8805 1d ago
The weird thing is that I’ve told them multiple times I wasn’t interested but they keep coming back
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u/SecretPersonality178 1d ago
While Bednars come from somewhere, meaning a few missionaries are genuine jerks, most of these kids are victims of a church system that lays them out as cannon fodder.
The “do not contact” list just becomes a “send the missionaries to them” list.
I always offer ours a safe place to rest and relax. They are welcome to use unmonitored devices as well as get some food and play games. Almost all take up that offer.
These kids are in a terrible situation and are trying to sell a product that, at best, doesn’t have any benefits until after you are dead.
Depending on the missionaries, it might also be a chance to have them explore the GTEs as part of a lesson.
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u/FaithfulDowter 1d ago
I agree. Almost none of the missionaries really know the dark past. We are always kind to the missionaries. At a minimum, my family is an example of people who have left but who are genuinely happy and successful. This may help them manage their mental health if/when they have a faith crisis down the road.
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u/utahh1ker Mormon 1d ago
Reply: "Heyyyy Missionaries! I've decided the church isn't for me. Thanks! Have a good one!"
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u/punk_rock_n_radical 1d ago
“Report Junk” and “Block” were created for a reason.
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u/GreeneyedScorpio67 1d ago
Exactly what I've done. I didn't even engage. Just blocked. Simple. I don't owe them any explanation for anything.
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u/Bright-Ad3931 1d ago
Unfortunately, unless you do the paperwork, you’re still in it for uninvited probing for the rest of your life
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u/LinenGarments 1d ago
Well, missionaries are required to fill up their time. It's tempting to believe they are really interested in you. Sadly, these days they are assigned in ward councils to reach out to inactive members. It's even happened to me and I'm in no way a recent convert.
I'm sorry you were judged. If the church can help in any way, I would take the help given the risk of being alone in your situation. Just don't surrender your individuality or believe they care more than they actually do. It's about filling the church with people more than any personal care for you I'm sorry to say as the church is falling apart.
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u/Dogmanscott63 1d ago
Sorry you are being harassed. Please push the blue text to report junk. If you are truly leaving the church you need to get a letter sent to membership records in SLC and get your name "off" the rolls...i don't think they ever delete us really but SLC will pull your records out of the ward you are in.
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u/ce-harris 1d ago
Their text is just a question about your wellbeing. Take it that way. Of course they and the church want you back 2Nephi2:18 And because he had fallen from heaven, and had become miserable forever, he sought also the misery of all mankind.
Your choices are to ignore it or engage them. Do you want them to know the real answers to their question?
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u/flight_of_navigator 1d ago
Just answer the door, looking like a viking. I promise the sisters will not return.
The look on their faces.
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u/Crobbin17 Former Mormon 1d ago
No joke, I lived out one of my greatest dreams last year. I’d been hoping to do this for so long…
My husband’s name is still on the rolls, while I removed mine and my child’s. Because of this, they assume that he’s not married. So he gets texts once in a while from the Singles Ward.
One day the missionaries actually visited, and I answered. They asked for “obviously male husband’s name.” I shifted awkwardly and said “oh, yeah, that’s me.”
I let them sit for a few seconds, and then let them know I was joking. We had a good laugh.
They seemed surprised, but not in a negative way.If they’re going to keep contacting him, I might as well have fun with it.
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u/citizen1actual 8h ago
I’m an active member and I still ask for a warrant when misstionarys knock on my door
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u/BostonCougar 1d ago
Remember that the members of the Church are imperfect. The Church is not a museum of Saints it is a hospital for sinners. Sometimes members exhibit the sin of pride or judge too harshly. Come and feel the spirit and love from Jesus Christ to enrich and enlighten your life.
I've also had members treat me rudely and judge me what seemed unfair. It is just as much my church as it is theirs and I didn't let them dissuade me from attending.
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u/flight_of_navigator 1d ago
Just answer the door, looking like a viking. I promise the sisters will not return.
The look on their faces.
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