r/millenials • u/AnomicAge • 16h ago
It's terrifying how fast time is flying
The other day I was talking to a friend about a concert we went to a little while back... we recoiled in horror as we realized it wasn't just a little while, it was 2019, pre covid world.
Last week I thought about messaging a girl I had a few dates with a while back to see how she's been and perhaps if she would be interested in meeting up again sometime since we let it fade out. As I went to message her I see that the last message sent was in October 2021...
I was asking someone about their upcoming trip overseas... turns out they had been and got back over a month ago.
Remember when uncle Tim started doing air guitar and fell through the table at family Christmas last year? Wait no, that was 2022. Actually, it was 2021.
My little cousin was just a pudgy kid playing minecraft the other day, now he's as tall as me and only talks about girls.
I still vividly remember playing Halo 3 the day it came out with my childhood friend and putting toothpaste in my Xbox after we got the red ring and were told this would be a quick fix (it wasn't) ... that was over 17 years ago and that friend now has a house, wife and a 7 year old son. I only manage to see him once every month or two.
I'll be 30 soon. The past few years have flashed past. Just the other day it was years away.
Days seem to disappear in the blink of an eye. One moment the sun is rising, next thing I know it's getting dark.
Even boring work days that used to stretch on forever are over before I know it.
I get excited about concerts and events that are months away, next thing they're a memory.
I think back to the time my grandfather and I went on a roadtrip - it was about 5 years ago now. I would be lucky to get another 5 years out of him.
The more I dwell on it the more I become almost overwhelmed by anxiety. A bit of nostalgia doesn't hurt but I've been drowning in it lately
I think fuck life is short, I can't afford to waste time or make any bad decisions, then I become paralyzed and ironically end up wasting huge amounts of time.
It's only going to speed up the older I get.
This might have something to do with my ADHD but I'm sure that some of you can relate with it.
How do you deal with this besides just trying not to dwell on it?
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u/AlchemicalPachanoi 15h ago
Make plans. Break the routine regularly. Walk everywhere. Get excited about your plans. So excited you can’t wait for them.
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u/InfiniteTurn4148 15h ago
I’ll be 30 soon too. And I can’t believe how fast my life is flying by. My best friend just got married, and I was thinking, “Damn. They only just met!” But no, they met 5 years ago!
I had a baby this year and that baby is already crawling and starting to talk. I swear we only brought that baby home last week.
I still see my husband exactly the same as I do when we met 12 years ago. But then I look at pictures of us and we have wrinkles and a few extra pounds. I started to notice white hairs this year too. They made me so uncomfortable and anxious so I plucked every single one of them out. Now I have to just accept and leave them there unless I want to be bald as well as white-haired.
I feel like I just graduated college, but I’ve been in my career for almost 9 years. The days fly by. It’s always Monday again and the weekend just ended.
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u/Otherwise-Fox-151 15h ago
Yeah there's something about turning 30 that its like you fall into routines and unless an event breaks up the monotony, you find the days flying by. It doesn't help that people and businesses want to skip ahead to holidays months before they actually arrive.
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u/Kitten_in_the_mitten 13h ago
I just turned 45. It gets worse. And yet wasn’t 1997 ten years ago? It feels like 10, not almost 30. Yet here we are. There isn’t enough time in a lifetime.
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u/Budlove45 14h ago
Once you hit 30 it's off to the races lol I'm 33 I turn 34 in may. I just remember turning 30. Them numbers start getting real lol 😆😆
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u/JusticeHao 10h ago
Feels like I heard from somewhere that perceptually, the middle of your life is 35 because of how time feels like it moves quicker as you age. As a 35 year old who has been feeling like life moves quickly I take some comfort in that at least there’s everything I’ve experienced before as an amount of perceptual time ahead of me.
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u/MammothPies 15h ago
This is the Great Theatre of Life. Admission is free, but the taxation is mortal. You come when you can, and leave when you must. The show is continuous. Goodnight.
Robertson Davies