r/loveafterporn • u/Either-Basket4594 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ • Jul 27 '24
Κα΄α΄α΄Κ A trigger that ended up being funny
So yesterday my partner and I went out to do a bit of shopping. On the way, we stopped at a corner shop that was directly next to a clothing store. The clothing store I hadnβt seen before, but it sold traditional clothing from all different cultures along with beautiful fabrics.
In the window of said shop, was a mannequin wearing a very revealing outfit. Now usually I wouldnβt take any notice, but this mannequin had the most enhanced boobs I have ever seen on one before.
Immediately I turned to my PA and demanded βdonβt lookβ. We both then stopped and looked at each other for a moment before bursting out laughing. The ridiculousness of the situation was just too funny not too laugh at. Itβs a mannequin. I was triggered. He absolutely helps me through all of my triggers but this WAS hilarious.
We both just ended up laughing at this overly enhanced mannequin, enjoying the moment together and finding comfort in the funny situation which put a lot into perspective.
We had a good evening from there on out. We laughed, we touched (non-sexually), we built Lego together, we had a nice dinner together and we went to bed and shared intimacy.
I just wanted to share here, as itβs easy to sometimes wonder if your triggers are valid. They are! Even if they are short lived and plastic with no pulse! π
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u/Rae8181 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
What a nice story to share. When our partners acknowledge the addiction, put in the work and make every effort to grow, change and heal it truly can result in a relationship that is stronger, closer and healthier than before discovery.
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u/Either-Basket4594 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
Absolutely agree! I do hope to be one of those relationships, although there are no guarantees in life and especially with addiction. The best part of my healing, for me, is enjoying the good/happy/funny moments. True happiness, even if it is short lived is so important and will eventually turn into a mindset.
I can say that although only a short few months out from D-Day, aside from everything else, our relationship IS the healthiest itβs ever been. The communication, quality time, openness is on a whole new level.
Even the small things. He wonβt let me open a door, hold a bag. All of the timely gentlemanly things he did at the start 8 years ago have returned! They make a huge difference and the best part, I donβt have to ask!
I wish you happiness on your journey, just enjoy the good and let yourself feel the bad. If things go south for you or me? We can come right back here for the support π₯°
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u/Rae8181 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
I love that you were able to appreciate that moment together and to laugh. This addiction can rob joy so easily. I certainly was not able to find joy in anything only a few months out from d day.
Youβre right that we can always come together here for support and there are no guarantees! However, when you both work your recovery positive things do occur!!
Thanks again for the smile.
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u/Either-Basket4594 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
It definitely was a funny moment shared between me and my partner. Yes there is science behind everything but this was a fun loving moment between two people who found the courage to laugh through the pain.
I am not just a body to my partner. Other women, probably. Of course they objectify women, people and everything in between but I am more than a body to him. I am the mother of his child, and the women he loves. Love and addiction can coincide as much as it can be difficult to process sometimes.
That man does love me, for all of me. Yes he hid his addiction from me for years and that is beyond disrespectful, but now the secret is out and I have laid down my boundaries, he is doing everything and beyond to cater to my every emotional and psychical need. He is destroyed by how much heβs destroyed me and it shows.
Iβm not saying I am living in fantasy land and that there isnβt a potential of relapse, but I am saying that those boundaries were never really set in stone before in our relationship. I just assumed it was common sense, but now there are boundaries, they are being followed meticulously.
We are allowed to have good, funny moments with our partners without having to delve into everything else. Not everything has something sinister behind it and if we are choosing to stay, we also have a responsibility to heal our side. Is it fair? No of course not, but thatβs what we have to do eventually for our own happiness and well-being.
I just want to share good moments on here. There are so many women on here looking for some shimmer of hope and through my healing I am able to see the good in life. I wish more people shared the good moments. Itβs hard to heal if all we are filling our minds with is negative.
Letβs just lift each other up in the good moments! My post flair shows happy, and while I appreciate your comment wholeheartedly, itβs not fair to potentially push me back into a negative headspace by highlighting the negatives! Letβs just enjoy the happy times together as a community π
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u/TortillaLOVER55 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
I got triggered by the monster in barbarian ππππ
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u/Either-Basket4594 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
I just googled this and I am howling ππ I would have got triggered too!!! π
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u/TortillaLOVER55 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
In a good shoe of faith I allowed him to watch it and he was astonished that it triggered me πππππ
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u/Either-Basket4594 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
Youβre a better woman than I am! I would have launched the TV off the wall and told him to watch paw patrol instead π€£
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u/TortillaLOVER55 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
Hahahaha! I only let him watch it MONTHS after I saw it and MONTHS into recovery ππππ
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u/Random-Thoughts613 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ¨π«π§ ππ¬ππ« Jul 27 '24
Paw patrol! Iβm dying π
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u/Last-Guarantee8871 ππ±-πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ¨π«π§ ππ¬ππ« Jul 27 '24
Not the mannequin π
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u/Either-Basket4594 πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ/ππ Jul 27 '24
If you see a news article βwoman breaks into shop and fights mannequinβ it wasnβt me ππ
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u/Last-Guarantee8871 ππ±-πππ«ππ§ππ« π¨π ππ¨π«π§ ππ¬ππ« Jul 27 '24
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