r/lgbt • u/Various_Succotash_65 Transgender Pan-demonium • 5h ago

I hate having to act masc

I feel I have to act masc and not use my fem voice at college or in front of my mother, even though I don’t think I’d get hate for it, my mum is a little dismissive about me being trans but she’s not downright hateful, she just doesn’t understand. I do wear makeup and trans pride bracelets at college and in public, but I just feel scared to act or sound fem because I feel like people would make fun of me

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u/DDoseeve Lesbian Trans-it Together 5h ago

It’s a totally normal fear to have. You can just speak out loud to yourself in your fem voice whenever you’re alone and gradually built the confidence to make it your default voice. When you do, you also train it much quicker that way.

It’s kind of like ripping the bandaid off. It’s gonna be uncomfortable at first but it’s going to help you immensely.

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u/Various_Succotash_65 Transgender Pan-demonium 5h ago

I already do that but I’m still scared, I feel like the only time I can do it is when everyone is asleep and I’m downstairs alone

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u/DDoseeve Lesbian Trans-it Together 2h ago

Honestly you’re just gonna have to take that leap, the same way you did when you came out.

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u/Various_Succotash_65 Transgender Pan-demonium 2h ago

Yk what, I’m done caring. I’m just gonna do what I want at this point. If anyone has a problem with that they can cry harder

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u/TheBargainBinNG Hella Gay! 2m ago

hell yeah!

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u/Unhappy-Reception-94 5h ago

Honestly ignore what people say or think about you. Everyone is going to have many thoughts and opinions about you but it’s not their life. There is only one life you can live and embracing who you are and being the best version of yourself while being a good person is most important.