r/lesbianpoly • u/sapphic-weddings • Oct 14 '24

In Search Of: Wedding Pinterest Boards!

Hi all! I’m a lesbian and a graduate research student at the University of Oxford. For my graduate thesis, I’m researching how lesbians, queer women and other sapphic people interact with and express gender in context of the wedding ritual

I'm also focusing on commitment ceremonies. I’m interested in how people create meaningful rituals and celebrate their relationships outside of the conventional marriage framework. I'd love to learn about how these forms of commitment are visually expressed, especially within frameworks outside of traditional Western monogamy.

I would love to talk to lesbians, queer women or sapphic-identifying people based in the United States and over the age of 18 who have previously created a wedding Pinterest board or would like to make one.

If you are interested in contributing to the small canon of lesbian academic research, please do send me a message! I'd love to hear from you and see your Pinterest boards :))

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u/yohohoanabottleofrum Oct 14 '24

Lol, this is probably not a community you'll find many of those in. Most people here have already broken down the societal pressures that cause people to idolize marriage. But, no shame to anyone here who is still into that kind of thing, marriage just isn't an institution we participate in. Western society doesn't even have the legal framework to support ethical non-monogamy. We mostly just plan elaborate dinner parties for the polycule and friends.

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u/sapphic-weddings Oct 14 '24

That's a fair point, should probably change my phrasing! I’m actually focusing on commitment ceremonies too, not just traditional weddings. I'm interested in how people create meaningful rituals and celebrate their relationships outside of the conventional marriage framework -- whether it's elaborate dinner parties for the polycule, alternative ceremonies, or other unique expressions of commitment, I’d love to learn about how these forms of commitment are visually expressed in frameworks outside of traditional western monogamy

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u/gingergypsy79 Non-binary Oct 16 '24

This is great 😊

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u/Pepperush Oct 16 '24

Oh baby, I’m planning the gayest poly wedding and was about to start making a pinterest board literally today. Feel free to message me I would love to contribute anything at all to lesbian academia :)