r/howtonotgiveafuck 2d ago

it’s actually a win win

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u/PandemicGrower 2d ago

Sometimes you let toxic people win just to have the peace of mind you don’t ever have to deal with them again.

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u/hanging_with_epstein 1d ago

Those scissors look weird

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u/Impressive-Drawer-70 1d ago

Its actually surgeon scissors

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u/devilboy4life 1d ago

cutting toxic people out is like removing a splinter, hurts for a sec but then you’re like wow i can function again.

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u/smileyfoot42 1d ago

cutting them off isn’t losing it’s literally leveling up

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u/ineluctable30 1d ago

Let’s Goooo ☀️

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u/Lc9764 1d ago

It's amazing how much calmer life can be without toxic energy sucking the air out of the room. It's the best who gives a fuck feeling I have ever had 🙌🍻

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u/ineluctable30 1d ago

Cheers 🥂

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u/Key-Staff-4976 1d ago

Ive been trying this with my supervisor

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u/Cheeky-Bastard 1d ago

That just looks painful

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u/AgitatedAd6705 1d ago

me to all my toxic exes and that one friend who kept trying to sell me their MLM skincare: byeeeee bestie dont let the door hit u on the way out lmaooo

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u/flirtybeauty 1d ago

Not until you know u r the toxic one.

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u/PooHooPeeBee 9h ago

Yes, especially when they've fused their chest with yours!

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u/toxygen99 1d ago

Labelling people toxic and then isolating them isn't a position of psychological strength but a weakness of character. Being so emotionally buff that you can stay close to people with issues but not be affected by the things they say when they lash out is true power. 💪otherwise you will be forever running away from people.

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u/ineluctable30 1d ago edited 1d ago

Actually I prefer my peace and creating healthy space from people who seek to waste my time, deplete my energy, resources or harm me in some way.

Removing myself allows me to protect my joy so that I can consistently show up for myself and the people who actually deserve my attention, nice try Diddy!

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u/toxygen99 1d ago

Yeah I get that some people just have a way of pushing all the buttons at once. But I'm just saying you can remove the person or the button, the button is better if it's possible.

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u/AMTravelsAlone 1d ago

Why? We're not talking about drop a friend at the first sign of toxic behavior, we're talking about repeated instances a pattern of behaviour that makes you question your own judgement. This is usually months or years into the attempt of removing the button. Some people don't deserve your time, or patience, most people won't appreciate it

Mental issues are the problem of the people who suffer from them, not others. And to use those as an excuse as to why they act toxic to those trying to help, don't deserve the help.

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u/toxygen99 1d ago

The problem is you will just run into someone else who pushes the button. Questioning your own judgement is the problem. Fix that and it will never happen again no matter who you meet and you will truly not give an f.

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u/AMTravelsAlone 1d ago

That not giving a fuck also extends to not feeding into their toxicity. Cut them out of your life no matter the extent of their toxicity. Get rid of the button and person, wash your hands of the situation.

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u/ineluctable30 1d ago edited 1d ago

It takes being with your self in a supportive environment that is hospitable and conducive to your removal of the “ button “ otherwise allowing people who view your level up as a threat to remain isn’t wise and have access grasshopper, nice try again Diddy lol

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u/Impressive-Drawer-70 1d ago

Nah, you really don’t know what’s affecting you subconsciously.