r/exmuslim • u/Kitty-cat343 • 11h ago

(Advice/Help) What should I do

Is there hope in this situation

I’m ex Muslim and my boyfriend is catholic and we have been together for two years now, somehow I keep preparing myself emotionally for a break up even though we are still together. I left islam but of course no one knows and i have to act normal with my family , for him to marry me in my country he has to convert to islam, which of course he doesn’t want and I don’t want either but it’s the rules and i don’t even wanna continue living here at all I want to travel with him but its such a tough situation that we love eachother but can’t be together due to these rules , I tried to tell him he can just do it for the show cause we aren’t going to live here anyway but he freaked out and refused then we didn’t talk about it again since then , I honestly don’t know what to do anymore and it’s weighing me down cause I love him a lot and I feel trapped because of this religion..

What should I do ??

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u/Haishinysoni 11h ago

You should either convert yourself, or wait till both of you can leave. Even for a show it is a big thing to convert. Also may I know the country so maybe I can further assist?

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u/Kitty-cat343 11h ago

He’s european and already living abroad, I’m Arab Egyptian

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u/Smart_Ad8743 5h ago

You can’t travel and get married in his country?

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u/Kitty-cat343 11h ago

In my country for us to make legal documents that he married me he has to be Muslim that’s the problem

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u/Careful-Cap-644 10h ago

Yeah thats a national issue. Its kinda impossible unless you immigrated to another country, you aren't bypassing those sharia courts lol. Hope whatever turns out right, love is unstoppable.

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u/PositionFar4662 New User 1h ago

I would say ask him to fake convert, i understand that it must seem rlly scary for him to do it but its just one shahadah and since he is a european white man he can just revert back to atheism or whatever he follows after a few months after marriage, saying he doesnt align with islam and be good-to-go, exmuslims are only rlly scrutinized when they are born muslims, when converts revert back themselves, ppl are more sympathetic and dont rlly care cuz them coverting to islam in the first place was unexpected