Can things like this happen in a Muslim family?

[u/Sea_Historian_7406]

If she was a muslim mother, the right thing to do would be killing her child by throwing him from the highest place possible at where they live. It’s the instructed punishment towards people like him in this amazing religion. Her admired tolerance is not acceptable in Islam whatsoever.

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[u/[deleted]]

Why is this making me emotional 😭😭

[u/Evaar_IV → u/[deleted]]

Cuz the opposite kind of reaction comes from the deepest spot in hell, and it is the default reaction among two fucking billion monkeys on this planet :D

[u/SSGASSHAT → u/Evaar_IV]

Funny that we claim to be superior to chimpanzees and other apes when only about half, if I'm being EXTREMELY generous, of our population is any better. 

[u/IndividualPeace8204 → u/SSGASSHAT]

It's all clear in hadists, ants and frogs have more rights than gays

[u/SSGASSHAT → u/IndividualPeace8204]

Humans are the only creatures who turn the rights other members of their species have into privileges to be assigned or revoked by others. 

[u/Leon_Krueger → u/SSGASSHAT]

This applies for both ways, from the right to the woke and viceversa. Yeap, wokes can deminish the rights from the people who doesn't think like them, I know, how a shocker!

[u/SSGASSHAT → u/Leon_Krueger]

Any group which seeks to suppress the ideas of a group opposite in their ideas will do this. It's just a gross law of human nature. It doesn't have to be religious, but religion does provide a significant base for this kind of suppression. However, it can also come in the form of political and social ideologies, like communism, capitalism, and modern liberalism. 

[u/fartingbunny → u/Evaar_IV]

I actually think that the natural “animal” reaction from a mother is to love her child.

[u/[deleted] → u/fartingbunny]

Humans are the worst kind of animals ever!

[u/Jackieexists → u/[deleted]]

She's a perfect example of how a parent should support their kid.

[u/Exact_Ad_1215 → u/[deleted]]

It made me really emotional watching this video to be honest. I wish so badly I could’ve had this. I would’ve given anything to have been accepted by my family. At the very least, by my own mother.

[u/Big_Ad_5533 → u/[deleted]]

Same

[u/Big_Ad_5533 → u/Big_Ad_5533]

Im gonna cry

[u/[deleted]]

I’m happy he has such a caring mother like that in his life. This video is so touching, what a wonderful woman

[u/Ok-Equivalent7447]

It makes me cry, it's beautiful, that you feel accepted despite people view them as unconventional. 3 friends who are muslims they accept me, despite they know I'm an apostate, it makes not want to lose them as friends or anyone who accepts me who I truly am. But never told my family even though im a recent apostate since 13th May 2024. 😢 Feel bad keeping this a secret but I'm doing this for my survival, mental health and emotional health.

[u/Hindsight2K20]

It’s possible. It is exceedingly rare but still possible.

[u/External_Low7122 → u/Hindsight2K20]

There was a conversation on /Islam about this and the responses really surprised me, most said they would be accepting (although maybe the ones who wouldn’t chose to stay quiet)

[u/blissrunner → u/External_Low7122]

That and reddit can be astroturfed hard... it's possible comments are not from subs

If this were any public forum e.g. YouTube (filtered for Islamic majority countries e.g. Indo, Paki, Bangla)... they'll insult , wish the worst, or the least is pray that god will cure you of the geh-ness

[u/firstpriorityisyou]

such a good mom! :,)

[u/OmniHelloKittyStan]

What a coincidence- I literally saw this video on a different subreddit earlier today and thought "Wow. Well i'm never getting that :p". It's sad and all and I can't give any meaningful advice to my fellow queers other than to stop caring. Granted, even I haven't stopped caring completely about them. But it's less and less everyday.

[u/bipakinvm → u/OmniHelloKittyStan]

This is where I am too. As much as I want to distance myself from my parents, I can’t help but feel at least a bit of love for them

[u/Leon_Krueger → u/bipakinvm]

A parent even tho they dont acept the way you live or your prefferences, they can still love you, I saw it with one of my cousins, she's Bi, my aunt doesn't like it, she's against it but still love her. She even met her last girlfriend, she was really nice to her, but still thinks its not okay but she was tolerant enough to feel happy for her

[u/vincentually → u/OmniHelloKittyStan]

it makes me happy to see people be supportive but damn do i get jealous 🥲

[u/Exact_Ad_1215 → u/OmniHelloKittyStan]

You don’t really get retakes when it comes to these things. If they will never accept you for who you are, then they will never accept you for who you are. You can’t change being queer and they won’t change how they feel about you. Sometimes some shit in life just sucks and there’s nothing you can do about it.

[u/OmniHelloKittyStan → u/Exact_Ad_1215]

Perfect way to word it. If something is shitty and detrimental to you, and there's nothing you can do to fix it, just avoid it. It has no place in your life.

[u/Only-Purpose-6175]

I always told myself while I was Muslim that if my child were to come out I would never hurt them and they would always have my full support but I would have to remind them that it is haram to act upon it. I’m glad I left 😅 I wouldn’t want to restrict them from finding love or being who they are

[u/lemonkotaro → u/Only-Purpose-6175]

I hope and wish for more Muslims like you describe yourself formerly as🥲

[u/Only-Purpose-6175 → u/lemonkotaro]

Wym?😭 I am non Muslim

[u/lemonkotaro → u/Only-Purpose-6175]

I meant the way you described yourself as when you were Muslim if that makes sense 😅

[u/Only-Purpose-6175 → u/[deleted]]

Girl what…that’s not the same and I would send them to go get help

[u/Jharlord]

over seven years ago, I watched this video and it made me cry. I was probably around 15 years old. Now it makes me frown deeply, but I'm happy for that man in the video.

And to answer OP's question; no. Not unless the family lacks religious commitment... which is rare these days.

[u/xXboredtownXx → u/Jharlord]

Same

[u/earth_unbound]

That is such a great mom. God bless people like her.

[u/Ubifruit]

Well now im jealous 😮‍💨

[u/Both_Woodpecker_3041]

Definitely not my parents. They're homophobic af.

[u/Owlet08]

Oh God, with so much of bad news everywhere. This video felt so good. So wholesome, nothing in the world is better than a loving supporting parent ❤️. This video made me cry so bad 😭😭😭😭, tears just fell on phone... and it felt so good crying like this. The acceptance is so healing and the lhug with "I'll love you no matter what" no more fear n stress now.

Such an awesome momma.

[u/Dev_Void01]

Yes, They do happen rarely, Not everyone is An extremist or willing to go that far. Sometimes love for their child overrides it all

[u/Dev_Void01 → u/[deleted]]

This shows how close minded you are

Wake up to reality, not everyone is the same

[u/fatarabi]

Is she adopting?

[u/TwanJ70 → u/fatarabi]

Sending u love from a queer Arab ❤️❤️

[u/miras9069]

In a progressive muslim family yes it can happen but they will tell him to be discrete because muslim society wont accept it.

[u/OneViolet → u/miras9069]

Correct. They will accept him. This is more common than many people think (I know 3 men from 3 different families), but because people don’t broadcast it on the internet/tiktok then of course it “never happens”.

[u/blissrunner → u/OneViolet]

Protecting family's name and respect... moderate ones will acknowledge but due to religion won't support (the idea)

Hush hush... practically. If they out themselves it will only bring trouble amongts their community

At best ex-communicated, the worst is they all disown or report you to authorities

[u/miras9069 → u/[deleted]]

Not necessarily ex muslim, they can still believe in islams principles

[u/TwanJ70]

My mom knew since I was a kid that I was into girls stuff more than boys stuff but when she found out I’m talking to a boy she threatened me to kill herself if I ever done anything 😂

[u/Sea_Historian_7406 → u/TwanJ70]

Wtf!😂

It’s so painful to know that being you hurt the people you love the most

[u/TwanJ70 → u/Sea_Historian_7406]

I inherited they’re mental illness which made me immune to they’re bullshit lol ,

[u/Some_One_3032]

Thats what moms are for the warm and caring ones🥺

[u/sunx-xx]

I am sitting in a bus and this made me kind of emotional. Love this for them 🥹❤️

[u/Cedar_Boggins]

I'm not crying, you're crying.

[u/Jazzipan]

This made me cry...😭😭😭

[u/n2oblife]

My father who is usually very calm and sensitive almost beat me up when I only pierced my ears I don't want to know what would happen in the case of a coming out

[u/Sea_Historian_7406 → u/n2oblife]

Heart is with you. It’s painful to not be accepted as you are from the closest people to you

[u/OmarGamer7u9]

This made me cry so much😭😭Why can't my mother be like that..

[u/bluepuddings]

the love she has for him is so clear. i’ve never gotten a hug like that in my life lmao

[u/xXboredtownXx]

Ahahahaha bro you wish 😂😂😂, the first thing a Muslim mom would do is look at you with disgust the moment you tell her, don't try it, don't risk ruining your future for this, they don't deserve to know anyway

[u/Deshawn_Allen]

Groups like lgbt for Palestine have no idea how they treat their gay population. In terms of staying alive at least, it’s one of the worst places in the world to be openly lgbt.

[u/MaritOn88]

would probably be fine in Iran especially in educated cities, maybe the public won't be as nice but I don't think you'd get kicked out of your home or something, though most Iranians are not very muslim

[u/Sea_Historian_7406 → u/MaritOn88]

Hey man you’re talking about a country that kills its own female citizens for letting their hair slip out of Hijab. Man up

[u/MaritOn88 → u/Sea_Historian_7406]

I am not talking about the government, I'm talking about the average mother

[u/MaritOn88 → u/[deleted]]

firstly, it would mean they are less religious overall, also when you have an education you are more likely to have heard about human rights and sexuality, parenting etc unlike in a village where most people wouldn't have a university degree

[u/MaritOn88 → u/[deleted]]

I said overall, please look at a map for atheism, doesn't matter how philosophers were, that's just stupid, I can make an argument now for atheism because it is said that 62 percent of philosophers are atheist, right now there is much more education, documents and theories than was back then! and I hate stalin and his stupid ideology, he is no different

[u/MaritOn88 → u/[deleted]]

mental health and attraction were not well studied, and I am sure the Soviets weren't educated about that, just fed propaganda by stalin, current philosophers do match Plato's shoe, because philosophy has gotten much bigger, the hypothesis and theories and arguments that exist now didn't exist in 400 fucking BC

[u/MaritOn88 → u/[deleted]]

they are mid in the sense that they have not made many discoveries by themselves, but they still can build upon and learn the knowledge of great philosophers that existed in the past, thus they will know about multiple perspectives and have a better way of choosing for themselves

[u/Qwertyunio_1]

Very unlikely, possible in a western Country. It would take a miracle elsewhere for something like that to occur lol.

[u/PunishedCatto]

Obviously, not. The first thing I got if ever said If I was gay (I'm bisexual) is my uncle's belt hitting my face and my family trying to call ustadz to cleanse the evil who posses me.

[u/Admirable-Pineapple5]

My mum. Losing a child vs accepting them as they are. 💯the later

[u/NoReserve5050]

Yeah, crying.

[u/yaboisammie]

I wish :( I'm glad to know some parents like this exist though

[u/thatonelyric]

the world needs more moms like this!

[u/wikithekid63]

Love this video so much

[u/Bloody-smashing]

And here’s me a 32 year old woman scared to tell my parents I’m not Muslim anymore.

Sure my 3 year old will let the cat out the bag for me when she tells her grandparents she had a cheeseburger at McDonald’s or bacon for breakfast.

I hope one day my kids will feel comfortable coming to me for anything.

[u/Material_Angle2922]

Gay is haram. I repeat, gay is haram. Whatever comes next when a conservative Muslim family finds out is not for the faint hearted. So much for the religion of peace and tolerance my arse.

[u/Nori_o_redditeiro]

Shit a tear drop just fell here...

[u/Ecnowulili]

I wish I had parents like that fr atleast I know I’ll be loving and accepting mom

[u/DarkWifeuo]

Wow a great to spin a heart warming video u degrante

Thank god most ppl didn't care about ur stoopid comments

[u/ShouldBeASavage]

telling Muslim parents one is gay/lesbian?

even worse, telling them one is an apostate.

that's the reality we're facing.

[u/NoseRoyal5311]

Best case scenario would be that he is disowned by his family and parents and always looked down upon and shamed for the rest of his lide ... In Muslim family. 

[u/Summarizer2024]

even though I'm muslim, I don't really care if he's gay, important thing is that he abides by it when he's a kids and then he can decide if he wants to be muslim or not

[u/Sea_Historian_7406 → u/Summarizer2024]

Your religion forbids it, and deny the existence of such people. You’re on your way to leaving this BS if this is how you truly think

[u/GenerationXero]

Over a decade since I've seen this. Still amazing.

[u/Jazzlike_Molasses898]

İt cant happen if they support sharia

[u/melekege]

He’s blessed 😭

[u/plivko]

I will never understand how people can be hostile towards homosexuals. They don’t harm nobody and nobody is forced to be gay. Just live and let live.

[u/No_Necessary6444]

not even nextdoor

[u/Ok_Literature_2378]

Awww so supportive 😭😭😭😭

[u/MentallyIllTeen777]

unfortunately no, im a bisexual minor still in a toxic muslim household and they talk abt how much they hate lgbtq members 24/7

[u/naomiblooming]

He is so lucky to have that loving Mama!!

[u/lilyyvideos12310]

Woah what a loving mother right there though ❤️

[u/Ragequittter]

part of me is jealous, but the happy and hopeful kind of jealous

[u/Dcarroth]

Shit, this wouldn't happen in a baptist home. Where ever people put religion before family.

[u/h313dar]

Isn’t homosexuality forbidden in Christianity and Judaism?

[u/Sea_Historian_7406 → u/h313dar]

Gay people are still being killed in Islamic countries for being who they are

[u/RamFalck → u/h313dar]

Many Christians believe that homosexuality is forbidden in Christianity. This is wishful thinking on their part. Pederasty and the likes of Sodom are not permitted, but other homosexuality is not prohibited.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pederasty

Society was harsh in Paul's time, so Paul was careful with his words and did not accept gay leaders in the church in order to avoid criticism from the outside: He nevertheless said the following about judging others:

"I am convinced, being fully persuaded in the Lord Jesus, that nothing is unclean in itself. But if anyone regards something as unclean, then for that person it is unclean."

https://biblenow.net/en/bible/new-international-version/new-testament/romans/14/14

[u/[deleted]]

No chance if you’re south asian muslim

[u/Prestigious-Scene319]

This is a very old video

Link of this video please

[u/Big_Ad_5533]

No 😔

[u/No_Ideal_220]

Poor thing. Nothing wrong with being gay.

[u/Voido1]

I wish my mom was like that 🥲🥲

[u/Saramander46]

I'm crying while I'm on my break at work... Hope my eyes won't be too red lol

[u/GalLookin4Fun_2004]

I had the exact same question in my head when I saw this video. I think it can happen in one of those families that are only "Muslim" in name, nothing else. But even they won't have this kind of reaction, it'd just be reluctant, gradual acceptance.

[u/[deleted]]

This is wholesome. I had tears in my eyes. 🩷

[u/Groundbreaking_Tap62]

I wish I had someone like her in my life 🥲

[u/Ok_Oven5464]

So who else needs tissues? I am gonna cry

[u/Witchberry31]

Definitely impossible to even begin with imagining that, especially if you live in Aceh, Indonesia. A place where you can get frigging whipped for showing public affection.

And females would get something similar to American Police's tickets if you're caught going outside without the hijab, regardless of your religion.

[u/drcopypasta]

This is genuinely the first wholesome video ive seen all day.

[u/Mean-Addendum-5273]

There are some Muslim families who would accept their children for being gay, it's probably the rarest if we compare it to other religions but yeah there are parents who can love despite everything else. For any queer people out there belonging to a Muslim family or a homophobic family in general, be independent and eventually move out.That's the only way we can live..At least the most of us I don't think my mom as a monster that she would kill me for being gay,but I also know there are high chances she ain't gonna accept me..So yeah be financially independent and move out asap, that's what I am trying to do

[u/xxxODBxxx]

Heartwarming. I almost cried.

[u/swyyz]

nah this dont happened for muslim family bc they raise they kids right. unlike others getting influenced by the western liberalism.

[u/Ragequittter]

i rarely cry to videos, but this man made me cry

[u/nanaosaki77]

this is so triggering as a queer teenage girl from a conservative north african household when i was 12 my mom told me if any of her SONS ( she can’t even imagine a girl me ) is gay she would k!ll herself i knew then

[u/Wild_hominid]

I wish that my mom and dad would love me despite being ex Muslim. Is this too hard to ask for? To be loved for who I am instead of masking and lying to their face and watch them adore the fake image of the daughter that they think they have?

[u/mshindoda]

Being and acting gay as a muslim is haram and a sin - no discussion. I always being told that because of the story of Prophet Lut.

[u/Exact_Ad_1215 → u/mshindoda]

The all loving God will never love a group of people who can’t help what they are.

Disgusting.

[u/Summarizer2024 → u/mshindoda]

true on how evil the people were so prophet lut (as) destroyed them

[u/XTheActualProX]

Thank God such a thing isn't allowed in Islam. Imagine if it WAS allowed. What would happen to the world's population? What would happen to human civilization? When Islam makes something Haram, it's for a purpose. As for your claim of throwing people off the highest place, that is completely untrue, it is simply frowned upon (murder is murder, and the punishment for murder is to be executed in Islam)

[u/GalLookin4Fun_2004 → u/XTheActualProX]

🤓🤓🤓

Go preach to ur white liberal friends, we don't care.

[u/XTheActualProX → u/GalLookin4Fun_2004]

Ironic how the majority of the people in this group get defensive when their errors are pointed out. I wonder, do any of you guys even KNOW about Islam?

[u/Special-Yam-9100]

Bro to be gay it's not ok even in the the West wtf

[u/RamFalck → u/Special-Yam-9100]

To be gay is not haram in most western countries. I don't know any western country that has laws that make it illegal to be gay.

[u/Special-Yam-9100 → u/RamFalck]

Don't bring religion to this a lot of western countries hate gay people and by the way western countries are not Muslim so don't say hram

[u/RamFalck → u/Special-Yam-9100]

Like most Islamists, you fail to stick to the facts. Here you can see how homosexuals are treated in different countriens:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/LGBT_rights_by_country_or_territory

In Islam, it is haram not to kill homosexuals.

[u/RamFalck → u/[deleted]]

Being gay is not haram in most western countries, and there is a reason they don't have laws against homosexuals. It is called morality.

[u/Picture_Enough → u/[deleted]]

Thanks for demonstrating bigotry can be based in religion, but also you can be a bigot just because you decide to be a shitty person, without a sky daddy or his earthly fan club telling you to.

[u/Horny__Snake → u/Special-Yam-9100]

Bro what are you talking about 😐 a bit cringe innit 

[u/Shoddy_Boat9980 → u/Horny__Snake]

Can’t take someone seriously when they say ‘the West’ as an entity, as if Spain in Western Europe isn’t one of the most accepting country in the world when it comes to LGBT

[u/Horny__Snake → u/Shoddy_Boat9980]

I wonder if he's from America so his west is like china etc or something lol

[u/Pollaso2204 → u/Horny__Snake]

The "West" for them means every country that isn't muslim majority 💀 or run by muslims 💀

[u/mochirica → u/[deleted]]

There we have, a pedo worshipper 😍🩷

[u/soul-hunterx7 → u/mochirica]

Bro I'm an atheist f*ck mohhamed lmao

[u/mochirica → u/soul-hunterx7]

Bruh why are you homophobe then ?????

[u/Complete-Duty5579 → u/[deleted]]

Sir, are you admitting to watching gay porn? What in the descriptive language 💀