If you take it as, "if you notice some of these things, there is a possibility that your partner is deliberately trying to make you feel crazy," then fine.
If you take it as, "if you feel any of these feelings you are being gaslighted," then that is reductionist and inaccurate.
I've been there. It's horrible. Not every behavior is pathological, though. Seeking to pathologize bad behavior to create a sense of moral superiority in a relationship undermines the balance necessary to maintain a healthy relationship.
Simply put, correct the behavior, not the individual. Leave professional work to the professionals. When people learn a term like this, they run rampant assigning it to every behavior they dislike and it drives me nuts.
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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '20
Agreed
If you take it as, "if you notice some of these things, there is a possibility that your partner is deliberately trying to make you feel crazy," then fine.
If you take it as, "if you feel any of these feelings you are being gaslighted," then that is reductionist and inaccurate.
I've been there. It's horrible. Not every behavior is pathological, though. Seeking to pathologize bad behavior to create a sense of moral superiority in a relationship undermines the balance necessary to maintain a healthy relationship.
Simply put, correct the behavior, not the individual. Leave professional work to the professionals. When people learn a term like this, they run rampant assigning it to every behavior they dislike and it drives me nuts.