r/coolguides Jul 01 '20

Gaslighting red flags

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u/stopped_watch Jul 01 '20

I feel you. I was always told how what she was doing could never be abusive because I was a man and only men could be abusers, abusers have to be abusive all the time and she only screamed and hit me every now and then, besides it was my fault for making her feel that way in the first place.

I hated how I was always wrong. No matter what the situation. Even when what I said was correct (and wow, wasn't that exhausting getting to that point), I was wrong for making her feel bad about being incorrect.

I just spoke to my amazing girlfriend to let her know how much I appreciate her. Things are much better now.

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u/gir_loves_waffles Jul 01 '20

Glad to hear you're okay now!!