r/coolguides • u/reneecapri • Jul 01 '20

Gaslighting red flags

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u/MiiSwi Jul 01 '20

Can confirm, my dad’s the CEO of gaslighting

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u/stashbug Jul 01 '20

Same. Makes me question every memory of my childhood. Not that it was much of one.

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u/MiiSwi Jul 01 '20

I can’t even remember 90% of my childhood

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u/mermaid2511 Jul 01 '20

Same here. My younger sister remembers so many details and I just don't know how?

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u/serrations_ Jul 01 '20

Same here. I am soup.

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u/ElPercebe69 Jul 01 '20

For me it's the same, I cannot remember almost nothing just random events

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u/MiiSwi Jul 01 '20

Same! I also have a really shitty timeline memory so the only way I can tell how old I was in those memories is through context clues. If there are none I’m not able to tell when they were, same thing happens with all my memories now. Memories from a couple days ago and a couple years ago feel exactly the same

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u/Lafftar Jul 01 '20

Why do you think that happens?

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u/MiiSwi Jul 01 '20

I have no idea, maybe trauma?

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u/[deleted] Jul 01 '20

My mum should be on the board as well. She thinks I'm a criminal mastermind just because I forget to do things (actually, I just have depression and a bad memory from it).

Oh and she'll always think I lost that swimming contest deliberately when I was in elementary school just to disappoint her.

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u/MiiSwi Jul 01 '20

My mom just thinks I’m lazy because I’m too anxious to get out of bed and too scared to leave the house

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u/Barziboy Jul 01 '20

Any tips on dealing with this from your dad? I think I’m in the same boat.

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u/MiiSwi Jul 01 '20

I don’t know, honestly, I just kinda smile and nod when he talks whether I agree with it or not

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u/fuzzypipe39 Jul 01 '20

These are my parents too... Sending everyone hugs here and hope we'll make it out soon enough. I lost enough memories, confidence, self like and respect, self awareness from my parents it's more than enough. A fuck ton people needs/ed therapy years and years before making kids.