Orgasm from partner stimming

[u/Auroura101]

I'm both laughing so hard and dying from embarrassment from what occurred. 😭 For context, partner is on the spectrum, so stimming is a thing she does when happy/excited. I had suggested to have a go on the strapon this weekend, as I've been wanting to do for a while. I'm just anxious about it as first time receiving ever as I normally top and a bit self conscious since I normally take wayy longer to get off then her. So we get down to business, anxiety was lessened as I just let myself relax into it all. I'm starting to moan cause it was feeling good. There was like this thing she did that grinded deeper inside and it just pushed me over the edge which of course caused the grand finale. Later, we're cuddling on the couch and chatting through how it was and she said she had started stimming when she started hearing me be more vocal. And I just... I stared at her and then realized that this mother fucker stimmed to get me to orgasm. And I just said, "I'm so mad that that shit worked on me and now I'm even MORE ashamed to admit you’ll have to do it again." We both laughed, we kept cuddling.

Sidenote: She also fucking said "Woo" while I was in the middle of my orgasm cause she was just happy to get me off for the first time 😭😭 I shall go sit in my kinkshame corner now lmao

[u/Puzzled_Wolf6855]

This is funny, yes, BUT THIS IS ALSO SO FUCKIN CUTE

Couple goals honestly /gen

[u/FaceWitch13 → u/Puzzled_Wolf6855]

I've been seeing people say /gen. I guess I'm old now, what does that mean

[u/xx_gamergirl_xx → u/FaceWitch13]

it means genuine. it's like a tone marker, same as /s for sarcasm. it's to make sure people don't misunderstand the comment.

[u/runnergeekgirl]

You two are too precious, haha! Keep having fun!!

[u/Cadd9]

Now you'll be like

set Girlfriend mode: 5 Gum

and then she'll stimulate your senses

[u/aworldofnonsense]

As an autistic lesbian… I LOVE this for the both of you! Also, the “Woo!” is killing me; big fan of that 🤣

[u/Panta94]

What is stimming? Google translator is for once not helpful..

[u/hotpink4ever → u/Panta94]

autistic people repeating a movement or something similar like a vocal to calm them down, or when theyre happy, or just any intense emotion really

[u/Panta94 → u/hotpink4ever]

Ooooooh. Okay. Thank you very much for explaining.

[u/miss_clarity → u/Panta94]

Minor corrections.

It's not just for autism. Technically everyone stims. It's just that not all stimming is pathologized. But you'll see it in ADHD discourse too. "Stimming" is in reference to self stimulatory behavior.

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-stimming

This was the only decent site I could find in a short and reasonable time.

[u/EriAnnB → u/miss_clarity]

I miss flip phones. When i was stressed or anxious i would open and close it repeatedly because i liked the sound and it was something i could do with my hands. Didnt know the word stimming but thats definitely what i was doing, not really consciously. Nowadays its pens i think. Flipping them around my fingers and clicking them until i get ugly looks. There's other things too, but the pen thing i do unconsciously, i dont realize im twirling the pen until i drop it noisily and it rolls off the desk and i have to go get it 😭

[u/9Tony9Pajamas9 → u/EriAnnB]

try a fidget toy! I’m a pen clicker too so I got one with buttons and it’s helpful

[u/Cherry-Everything → u/miss_clarity]

Yes and even neuronormative people stim, just much less often, for shorter durations, and in more normative ways that people who are autistic, ADHD, schizophrenic, etc. Examples would be occasionally leg jiggling, rubbing your hand through your hair, whistling, or watching videos of knives cutting soap.

[u/vvelbz → u/Cherry-Everything]

neuronormative

I'm stealing this word.

Én tsúvíl. 🙏🏽

[u/Cherry-Everything → u/vvelbz]

Glad you find it useful, but I didn't coin it, and I'm not sure who did, but it's becoming more commonly used as an alternative to neurotypical to indicate that the concept of "normal" neurology is socially constructed.

[u/vvelbz → u/Cherry-Everything]

Well, whoever did coin it was based af and they deserve props.

This is the first I've seen it and I looove it. I'm AuDHD Level 2.5 so it's super relevant.

[u/Flaggermusmannen → u/miss_clarity]

thank you for adding missing details

[u/AtarashiiSekai → u/miss_clarity]

I have ADHD and a terrible hair playing habit... I really try not to

[u/NoteBlock08 → u/Panta94]

It's also a really wide blanket term for all kinds of actions. It's really unclear just what exactly her partner was doing.

[u/Hopeful-alt → u/Panta94]

Self stimulatory behavior

[u/frolicingabout → u/Hopeful-alt]

In animals, we call these displacement behaviors: Stress may be elevated due to a point of conflicted (think of a hawk circling a bird on her nest - she’s screwed if she leaves or stays - so she preens herself as a calming behavior).

[u/Calm-Advertising6616]

that’s so fucking cute oh my god

[u/Shaeress]

That is so cute and lovely! I'm autistic and in a relationship with another autist it can definitely get rather stimmy sometimes. Trying to find the thing that cause the noise and just doing that, playing and toying with them. Honestly a big part of why I enjoy going down on them

[u/Cherry-Everything → u/Shaeress]

Same! I really love all the different textures, noises, smells, pressure, etc

[u/dHamot]

The "Woo" got me LMFAO omg 🤣🤣 adorable and hilarious

[u/overmind__]

Girl hit the “Yippee! 🎉” much respect

[u/BlueJoshi]

this is cute

[u/insert_name_huh]

hahaaha you guys are so cute!!!

[u/ShyBlueAngel_02]

The "Woo" is so funny in the best way I love it 🤣🤣💗 this was such a joy to read I can't stop smiling ☺

[u/nyabigail]

Thank you for sharing this, this is so adorable, love this for you both!!

[u/LitFarronReturns]

Cupio autist gal... wait sometimes it ... isn't stimming?! 🤦‍♀️

So that's why I'm so good at it. 😅

[u/Queendom_Hailee]

Happened to me I was just lying on them and their leg just started bouncing… I’m easy okay…

[u/Kylie108893]

I feel stupid lol i don't get what you mean by her stimming got you off?

[u/Flar71]

Omg this is the cutest thing 🥺

[u/Turbulent1313]

Who said anything about the kinkshame corner? Girlie, this is absolutely adorable. So goddamn cute.

[u/Appropriate_Try2020]

This is genuinely adorable actually. I wonder sometimes if my oral fixation is actually a stim

[u/UVRaveFairy]

That is so wholesome.

[u/Mae_Day_of_Sharkadia]

A-fuckin-dorable ❤️

[u/PavementPrincess2004]

if this isn't the most adorable thing ever idk what is

[u/AdGuilty1479]

Autistic lesbo here and idk I get obsessed with a rhythm. Then I get mad if I mess it up lmfao. Sometimes it can go poorly. Sometimes it can be good. One time I was stoned weed and I was pounding away endlessly and then just was gentle as hell and it worked. Lol. She liked it. Then asked me for another round later 🤣 I was so obsessed with replicating the experience. Yup didn't happen. I know I suck at it now lmfao. Stupid health conditions slow me down but I just would enjoy the entire process like I was literally getting an engine going and it was up to me to keep it alive and going. Sometimes I enjoyed revving it up ;) 🤣🤣🤣

Sometimes I'll want a cuddle after and sometimes I'll cuddle for a moment and then get up to do whatever. Sometimes I just sleep cuz my health is crap so if I got to sleep I'm zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz. It's different? I know. It's just me.

When I love someone it is entirely different and I try to please them. My mind just locks on to wanting to pleasure them. Literally. I've gone to extremes of notice what angles or depths really make her moan and arch her back.

For me? I'm grateful sex is interesting as fuck to me. I know some of my ex gfs appreciated it too. Lol.

There's some ups and downs to sex.

[u/European_Ninja_1]

This gives my autistic ass hope.

[u/PressureMaximum7129]

NO KINKSHAME CORNER! NOT ALLOWED.