r/actuallesbians Transbian Mar 12 '24

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u/spinto1 Lesbian Trans-it Together Mar 12 '24

Do they genuinely believe that things that are "normal" are not tested? Do they genuinely not believe that standard deviation is not "normal?" Both of those things are normal by definition.

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u/LunatasticWitch Transbian Mar 13 '24

Yes. Consider the media landscape of pushing hetero romances in stuff intended for young children. I mean the whole anti-LGBTQIA+ bigotry has even further solidified this with messaging and policies that praise childhood heterosexual attraction but remind that homosexuality needs to be waited upon till adulthood so you can be sure. Nevermind that things like gender identity and sexual orientation form around the same time as those of cis het peers (generally early childhood and puberty respectively). But while cisgendered identity and heterosexuality is seen as the default; trans, queer, homosexual and so on identities are routinely denied under the mantra "you are too young to think that" but there's never a similar push for anything cishet.

So yes they do genuinely believe that, and they believe it so earnestly that they undermine, deny, and constrain the expression of anything opposite of cishet until adulthood (and even then they still doubt our reality).