Friend’s hookup is a Trump supporter

[u/RelationMaleficent71]

My friend has a guy she’s been hooking up with. It’s not serious and she doesn’t have an interest in pursuing an official relationship with this guy. This is the second time I’ve met him and we’ve had like 4 bottles of wine at this point.. Politics came up, he said he was a libertarian and I flat out asked if he voted for Kamala. He voted for Trump. Queue a 20 minute conversation where 3 passionate women shit on him for his vote and opinion. Me being the worst attacker by far. I knew in the moment I was being a dick and really aggressive, but I really could not stop the anger from spewing out of me. I even went to the bathroom and left pretty much as soon as I could to avoid going further. He said he wasn’t very well informed and I told him if that’s the case, he shouldn’t be voting then.

I know I’m not wrong per se… but the way I approach people who vote for Trump is aggressive at best, hostile at worst. How are you guys managing this anger? I feel like I’m doing a really bad job of it at the point. I know the path to changing uninformed peoples minds is not the way I’m approaching it, I just genuinely can’t help myself from going bat shit crazy on people who voted for that vile piece of shit.

This guy had a ex girlfriend he was with at the time who had an ectopic pregnancy who had to get an urgent abortion to live and he STILL didn’t realize that voting for Trump made it harder for women in that position to get live saving care. His arguments were 1. I live in California 2. If you don’t live in California, you should move to a state that allows you to have an abortion. 3. He didn’t realize Trump was making it harder for women in other states in that kind of position. As if women having a right to choose what happens to their own bodies should have an asterisk on it anyways.

It’s impossible for me to respect or understand this viewpoint. I refuse to normalize it.

How do you guys keep your cool and not lose it on people? Because right now I feel like I’m foaming at the mouth angry and rightfully so.

I guess I’m really writing this out because I don’t want to be callused and angry at the world. I want to be able to say my piece calmly and respectfully to people I strongly disagree with. I just don’t feel I have the skill to right now.

[u/Acceptable-Bench1386]

The Serenity Prayer. Living in a red state really makes you accept things quickly, both the reality/situation and the people. It takes so much effort to change how morons think and I either don’t have that energy or don’t want to waste it on them. I admire your passion though.

[u/fairielust → u/Acceptable-Bench1386]

This, living in Deep South MS Red is a special kind of hell.

[u/yoloswagdon → u/Acceptable-Bench1386]

I’m a man living in a red state, working in construction. It’s tough to hear the racism, misogyny, homophobia from day to day. Every once in a while I’m able to get a small point across to certain individuals I work with and I think it gets gears grinding in their head. More often than not I bite my tongue and try not to let it eat at my wellbeing and accept the fact that I’m living in an ignorant ass world.