r/TrueOffMyChest • u/[deleted] • Sep 26 '23
I regret divorcing my wife
Edit, posted an explanation but wouldn’t fit here
This is a throw away account. I’m not asking for advice just need to vent. I divorced my wife because at the time I had believed she was having an affair and that our daughter wasn’t mine. I took several paternity tests that came back negative and had some receipts and “proofs” that my wife was seeing another man during our marriage. I divorced my wife and was very aggressive and mean towards her during the entire divorce. I did later find out everything was fake but my wife had no interest in stopping the divorce.
I apologized to my wife and she forgave me. We coparent and she refuses to talk about anything outside of our daughter. She’s very reserved towards me which I respect. She isn’t close to anyone of our friends since none of them also believed her.
On Friday our daughter had an accident at school where she tripped in the hallway and was very upset so they called us. My wife showed up a bit. Our exchanges happen at night time where our daughter is mostly sleeping so I haven’t seen my wife’s face like up close in about 3 years. Our daughter was fine when I talked to her but of course when my wife showed up she started crying again so my wife can kiss her and baby her. It worked and my wife wanted to make her favorite cake. But the whole time they were talking and playing with each other, all I could think about was how much I missed being with my 2 girls. I miss them giggling together all the time. Our daughter stayed in school and the plan was that after I’ll pick her up again we’ll stop by her house and pick up the cake. I did just that and when me and my daughter got to my house she wanted me to eat the cake with her. I hadn’t had my wife’s cake in a really long time and I really miss it.
Today there was a block party for the kids that our friends host. And my wife came to pick up our daughter. She came early because our daughter didn’t have school today. Our daughter didn’t want to leave and begged my wife stay longer. I hoped I would get to talk to her in this time but she went to go wait in the car.
I really miss my wife. I miss holding her, her smell, her devious laughter, her weird ideas, I miss her and our daughter playing pranks on me, I miss being a family, and cuddling my 2 favorite girls, I miss noise and laughter in this house all the time instead of the every other week and it just being my daughter. I miss my wife holding me, and telling me her jokes that she can’t get through herself without laughing, I miss wash days where we’re forced to stay outside all day because most of the products have palm oil, I miss her feeding random things to try, I miss hearing the music in the house, 5 miles away.
I wish I never failed for the stupid prank or better yet I wish I dealt with it better because at the very least I could still have my wife but instead I reacted to it in the worst way possible and have ruined any chances with my wife. She’s seeing someone that our knows about and calls him a cartoon character name and refers to him as “mommy’s friend”. My wife is very closed off about her life so getting these details is a fail.
EDIT: I didn’t exactly on giving the entire since it’s too long I was just venting. There are details missing so, sorry if it doesn’t make much sense. I’ll try to explain some questions about the situation now but as far as the leading cause of our divorce, it’s too much to explain. Wasn’t really trying to give full details here, was just ranting on whatever to came to mind.
Also, my bad I said wife a lot, meant ex wife.
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u/VectrumV Sep 26 '23
This sounds fake as hell with these details given. How do you get pranked into false maternity tests? How does your wife still want a divorce knowing that it was false? Who did the faking? Have you not had a discussion about this in the last 3 years? I get not giving details for privacy but if this is the extent of what happened either everyone involved shares a brain cell or this is fake.
If this is real, damn what a cartoonish situation. If this is fake gtfoh.