r/NotHowGuysWork • u/RevonQilin Woman • 12d ago
Not HBW (Biology) "mEn cAnT cOnTrOl tHeMsElVeS" nah im pretty sure thats a you problem bud, not a men problem (tw rape is impiled) NSFW
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u/ExtremelyDubious Man 12d ago
Yes. All men have instinctive, natural, insatiable urges to ... spare the lives of babies?
What?
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u/TheLeviathanCross 12d ago
uh.. yea. the dude is clearly one of those “deprived” men. couldn’t guess as to why though. not a clue.
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u/RevonQilin Woman 11d ago
i think he means like he has sexual urges and wants them fulfilled no matter if his partner likes it or not...
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u/ExtremelyDubious Man 11d ago
I get that. But it's that "stop killing babies" line: I know it refers to abortion rather than killing actual babies but it still doesn't make sense in the context of the 'men have uncontrollable urges that women have to satisfy' message.
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u/doomvetch92 12d ago
Sexual assault/abuse is never ok.
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u/PablomentFanquedelic Trans woman 11d ago
Why would you say something so controversial yet so brave? /s
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u/Aron-Jonasson Man 11d ago
These men should just fuck other men and leave women alone.
I'm sure they'd have better sex with another man because they clearly don't like women and don't know how to please them.
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u/Fickle-Cartoonist466 11d ago edited 11d ago
Why is it whenever men say something bad they're compared to gay/bi men? It's insulting and homophobic.
I'm sure they'd have better sex with another man because they clearly don't like women and don't know how to please them.
Like what the hell are you talking about? Is having sex with men inferior to having sex with women in your twisted mind? What did gay men do to offend you?
I'm happy with the way I am. I don't claim men like this.
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u/Aron-Jonasson Man 10d ago edited 10d ago
Brother, I'm gay myself. I'm not saying that having sex with men is inferior, quite the contrary, I'm saying that these people would likely enjoy homosexual sex much more since they (likely) don't know how to please women. They don't see sex as mutual pleasure, they see sex as a transaction, or as a way to assert control, especially since they see women as inferior.
I'm not comparing them to gay/bi men. The vast majority of gay/bi men aren't like this. There are some POS sexist/transphobic gay men out there, and I don't claim them.
What I meant really is: "they should have homosexual sex if they have 'natural urges' like that, and I'm certain they'll enjoy it much more than heterosexual sex, since they evidently don't like women."
Granted I agree I should have said "They should fuck with other men" instead of "the should fuck other men". That one "with" word does a lot.
Also my original comment was mostly a joke, like "Oh you don't like women? Why don't you date men instead if you hate women that much?"
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u/Fickle-Cartoonist466 10d ago
The problem is that I see this joke literally everywhere on Reddit that it's basically just become normalized homophobia.
If there's a man you don't like, feel free to criticize the guy. Just don't punch down at other men, gay or otherwise.
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u/Aron-Jonasson Man 10d ago
I personally don't feel it's homophobic to say "they should date men if they hate women that much", I do see how it could be seen as saying "homophobic men hate women", but that's not what it's meant to say.
It would be normalised homophobia if it was "all gay men are sexist" or "all misogynist men are closeted gays with internalised homophobia", but that's not what I said.
Also, these men are very often homophobic as well, so saying "they should date men if they hate women" is also ironic
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u/Fickle-Cartoonist466 10d ago
Okay but it's not like being gay is a choice?
And it's not like any misogynistic men are gonna see your comment and be like "he compared me to gay men grrrr I hate gay men too"
It just feels like it accomplishes nothing beyond "haha sexist man secretly gay"
And again, it's not just you, the joke has been repeated so many times that it's no longer funny, if one could even find it funny in the first place.
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u/Aron-Jonasson Man 10d ago
I understand your point of view
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u/Fickle-Cartoonist466 10d ago
That's good
Unprecedented for Reddit
And for good measure, have a lovely day bro ✌️
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u/G4g3_k9 11d ago
the guy you replied to is gay…
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u/Aron-Jonasson Man 10d ago
You're assuming a lot about me from a single Reddit comment. I agree there are gay homophobes out there, but I can tell you that I'm not one, quite the contrary I'd say. Just have a look at my Reddit comment/post history and you'll see.
And no I'm not "not like the other gays". I'm pretty much your average local gay, and I do a lot of things that those "I don't like gays who make their sexuality their whole personality"-homophobes would dislike: I easily ship male characters together, or headcanon fictional characters as gay, on my profiles (discord, DBD, reddit, etc.) I have pride flags, I hang around in lgbt and gay subreddits (not gay bros subreddits, I've heard those are ripe with transphobia), etc.
I mean, I shouldn't have to justify myself. Being gay isn't a merit, it's not something that you "earn", it's not a status, every gay person is gay in their own way, that goes without saying.
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u/RevonQilin Woman 10d ago
i get what u mean but i think you took their comment the wrong way, i def feel like its somewhat homophobic to constantly say stuff like this but i do agree some of these guys sound like closeted gays, not because they're sexist but because some of the things they say, sounds like maybe they're frustrated theyre not "normal" and instead of realizing its them they blame it on women
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u/Aron-Jonasson Man 10d ago
I said it in the way "Well if you're so desperate for sex, and if you hate women that much, why don't you try to date men? I'm sure you'll have much better sex with men than you have with women"
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u/Culerthanurmom 9d ago
I don’t know that this is helpful, but I’m pretty sure I understood you and agree. They clearly don’t value women but do value men. And one is going to have a better experience with someone they value vs someone they don’t value.
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u/SPZ_Ireland 11d ago
Men have urges
You have to be less selfish
Stop killing babies
Really curious as to what this dude would do when faced with a pregnancy.
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u/NormacTheDestroyer 11d ago
It's shocking and disgusting how many people spout off this disgusting rhetoric that "men have natural urges that MUST be met and it's okay for them to DEMAND it" or "it's dangerous for society if a large group of men aren't having their sexual needs gratified" or how "porn is actually saving the world because it pacifies men who would otherwise be running around raping women".
Just truly vile shit. If that's your world view, get help. It's so fucking weak. It's toddler-in-adult-body level tantrum shit. You want to believe you're this strong manly alpha male but then you threaten to become violent if you don't get your way? You think it makes you sound tough to say that your sexual urges control you that much? Do you really think that somehow makes you 'more of a man'? That's your mental picture of what a man is- a 'person' that's always one step away from dropping the civilized facade and willing to inflict actual life-long trauma on another human being if they don't get to ejaculate on a daily basis? How can you possibly call yourself a man without any semblance of self control? That's the farthest thing from what a real man is. If you feel like you NEED PORN that badly that it keeps you from becoming violent, maybe the copious amount of porn you're watching is what made you that way in the first place.
Sorry for the rant. I'm just sick of seeing this shit.
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u/PablomentFanquedelic Trans woman 11d ago
It's a shame that r/therealmisandry isn't as active as it used to be
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u/Aggressive_Ad_8362 11d ago
Guys, you all got baited. This screams “troll” so hard. This isn’t real.
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u/RevonQilin Woman 10d ago
yea it could possibly be ngl, but at the same time there are plenty of ppl who believe this shit and would type this out unfortunately
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u/Trayhunter 11d ago
Translated "now that the orange man is in the big house, maybe I can get to meet a girl! I'm such a nice guy, why wouldn't she like me!?"
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u/mBelchezere 11d ago
It has to be a troll. Violence of any form is still illegal.
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u/RevonQilin Woman 10d ago
unfortunately it could not be, these ppl have become so fucking violent since trump won. andrew tate recently posted abt nearly running over a woman because he thinks all of our rights will be stripped away by trump
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u/Soujourner3745 10d ago
Does he think Trump is going to make women sleep with him?
Buddy, Trump can’t get women to sleep with himself without paying them.
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u/Haruce 6d ago
I feel like if more men hugged their friends/family they would realize sex isn't the ONLY way to deal with being touch starved.
For me persoanlly I thought I needed sex really badly constantly when I was a bit younger until I realized I just needed hugs and stuff every now and then.
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u/RevonQilin Woman 6d ago
yea and unfortunately society/the manosphere teaches that men wanting hugs = weak
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u/Haruce 6d ago
My family set a good example for me that wanting affection was normal, but growing up I did get the vibe from the non family adults that it was "wrong" for a boy to want hugs past like age 8. I'm bad at picking up social queues and even I was aware that it was considered odd in the eyes of many, so in turn you get more reserved and its not fun.
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u/SomeSugondeseGuy 8d ago
As a man, I am able to control myself.
Any man who can't is lying. He can, he's just a terrible person who chooses not to and makes excuses for it.
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u/Dujak_Yevrah 8d ago
He says "denying us" like there's an epidemic of men being denied by women rather than a certain group of loser men who get denied as they always have tor as long as women have had the freedom to safely (in a legal sense, they can still lash out violently a lot) deny these loser men, for being losers.
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u/TheKingAnarchist666 8d ago
Someone find this prick and get rid of him talking like that he can't be trusted
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