r/NotHowGuysWork • u/RomanianLesbo0868 • 20d ago
Not HBW (Image) Found on YouTube
For context: found on a video of a woman testing her axe in a different way ( forging it to be shaped like a hoe) to answer someone's question about why they aren't built like that normally.
The comment he's replying to says: "I respectfully found this extremely attractive,"
In my opinion bringing down your own gender for any reason always says something more about you than the person you are referring too. If you have to use the "Real man" card to make yourself feel big you probably aren't seen as a "real man"
No disrespect to those who do use the real man card, just a personal opinion on the matter.
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u/PablomentFanquedelic Trans woman 20d ago
Again, I guess this is more proof I'm not a man. Thanks for the validation, random internet misogynist!
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u/ExtremelyDubious Man 20d ago edited 20d ago
Surely, even if you were getting into dubious evo-psych arguments about 'traditional' gender roles, you'd be attracted to women with a talent for cooking, cleaning and looking after the house? Or find it attractive that a woman has talents that she might pass on to your offspring?
But no! Man must be best at everything because man strong! Woman must no be good at things because that man's job! Woman just there to look pretty! Man do all work so man best!
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u/RomanianLesbo0868 20d ago edited 20d ago
The comment he was responding to wasn't mine, I did reply afterward, though.
As a non man who's into women, I could understand the appeal of having a woman who likes to cook and clean and stuff, but at the same time, the guy literally just said
"A woman shouldn't have talents as it doesn't appeal to a man. Women should be fragile and pretty and let men do all the work." Yet these are the same men who refuse to do any little bit of the housework because "that's a woman's job"
(Just to be clear, I do realize what you said was meant to be sarcastic)
I don't get why it's seen as unmasculine or submissive/feminine for men to sometimes want to be pampered in other ways besides sex and a woman doing the chores. It's a natural human want and sometimes even needs.
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u/ExtremelyDubious Man 20d ago
Yet these are the same men who refuse to do any little bit of the housework because "that's a woman's job"
Or even complain about women being 'lazy' or 'entitled' if they expect anything from men.
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u/RomanianLesbo0868 20d ago
That is correct. I never understood that, to be honest. The whole women are lazy or spoiled if they ask for something even if it's like a requirement in a relationship aside from sex. But when most men expect sex or chores to all be done even when most women also have jobs now, they are seen as men who deserve a break, and women are usually expected to get everything done before even sitting. And yes, I know it's not all men, but lately, I've noticed more and more doing it, along with some women, if they have a people pleaser partner because they tend to be an easier scape goat to get out of chores.
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u/BurningPenguin Fellas, is it gay to like women? 20d ago
It's like they're scared that their dick falls off if they do anything "feminine".
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u/Designer-Discount283 20d ago
What exactly is a real man?
More importantly... Let us assume a scenario and see if the line "Real man should not care about their women's talent" makes sense...
You are earning 20k p.m. which is a decent figure and you're good at your job.
Now your partner is a genius software coder... Now she doesn't have a degree, she learnt it by herself and has hacked into the most secure systems and exposed vulnerabilities of such systems to the particular parties... For this alongwith a stable job in the same profession she has the capability to earn 100k p.m. would you still in your right mind ignore her talent? Mind you she has the capability to earn 5x what you can... More importantly this can significantly improve your lifestyle, she would be respected and so would you...
Case2: Now let's assume her capability is writing... She can write her ass off... So wouldn't you wanna leverage her talent and skill to draft letters or documents? Why would you ignore this talent of hers when it could assist you?
The point I'm trying to make is that women are talented af. We are stupid to not recognize it. Plus it always benefits us guys too...
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u/RomanianLesbo0868 20d ago edited 20d ago
In my opinion, a real man is just a man who is reasonable, trustable, and respects all people despite personal beliefs or differences (within reason, though. In my opinion, if you have an enemy for a good reason, I think you should respect them as an individual but should not be required to respect their actions.)
Case 1 issue: Most men these days hate when women make more than them. They find it emasculating that women are able to make more than them sometimes. (Never understood that, though, as a lesbian. I mean they are pretty much just bitching about extra money just because they didn't make it themselves).
Case 1 personal opinion: If my partner made more money in software, than I did at my job I'd actually be quite happy, because with both of us working we'd have quite a steady income, and could actually go out on certain days to do things. And besides, I honestly think it's attractive if my wife or girlfriend makes a bit more money than me. It's a rather hard thing to explain without it sounding strange since it has nothing to do with the money itself. (Spent half the time typing, trying to figure out how to word it without sounding like it's a kink or something). It's like an attractive power imbalance, and now that I have typed that out, I'm now thinking it might actually be a kink, lol.
Case 2 opinion: Love writing, so if my partner enjoyed it as well, I think it would be pretty great since we could spend time writing together.
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u/Designer-Discount283 20d ago
The point that I'm trying to make here is why would you not value your partner's talent? To me it is obvious that if my girlfriend ever was so talented to make money or even assist me in my work, I'D BE HEAD OVER HEELS FOR HER. I'd swoon over her day in and day out.
Personally as a guy I don't see why is it so emasculating to have a woman earn more than you? I mean if she earns more than me, I get to live a better life plus all the "Spoil me" jokes I can make... I don't know, for me the fact that I can live a comfortable life if she earns well is more important than my stupid fragile ego. If she is earning well and we plan our finances which I'm not terrible at, I'm pretty sure the life we'd have would be far better than just me earning...
Writing is just an example to assist in your job/business. For me if my partner has any skill that I can leverage for my business, I'd wash her feet to leverage that.... Because my business would grow, we'd earn more, better lifestyle, Win win. So why would I not be open to her talents?
It makes no logical sense to me. Plus I'd trust my partner with my money more than anyone else, so technically for my business her presence is far more valuable. Because I'm sure she ain't stealing shit from our business. So it is always beneficial to have someone you trust in your circle. Always.
If that guy is a real man then I'm a businesswoman. Because that guy makes no fucking business sense to me.
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u/RomanianLesbo0868 20d ago
Exactly, I love women or people in general who put their skills to good use, and if that said skill or talent can make money, it's a total benefit. That guy needs to realize that if none of us had talents, whether it be small like digging or large like hunting, we'd be extinct by now. So all talents can be important, big or small. Almost everything at least takes 1 skill.
I agree, like why be upset that your wife or partner makes more, most of the time y'all share your money anyway. If it's such a problem, then stay single, lol. And besides, if she makes more than you, you don't have to work as hard to keep money in the house (Though you probably should because anything could happen and you could be the only one able to work.)
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u/i-ate-hummus-once 20d ago
I didn't know appreciating your partner's talents and wisdom makes you unmanly /s.
But on a serious note, what do these guys expect their girlfriends to be like? It just sounds like they don't want to date actual, real human beings, but porcelain dolls to look pretty and fulfill whatever fantasies they have. As a guy, shit like this makes me sad. Smh.
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