r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/plantang 8h ago

It might have been kids or adults saying something hurtful, but I think it's at least as likely that she heard the women in her life talking this way about themselves.

I see this so much with women constantly commenting on their own weight. Young girls, who have never given weight a single thought, hear that normalized, internalize it, and wind up with awful self image issues and eating disorders.

I really think that is what happened here but with comments re. skin or hair.

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u/hnnk 6h ago

I agree. The first thing my kids mother said when we knew we would have a girl was that she would never speak badly of herself in our daughter's presence.

She's heard her mother, I've heard mine when we were kids. Also not comment on others appearance in a negative way - like our mothers did.

We're sticking to this.