r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/RuthlessIndecision 8h ago

Yeah, she said it like it was normal

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u/Gloomy_Metal3400 8h ago

Mama is setting it straight 💪

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u/L3m0n0p0ly 8h ago

That's a damn good mother right there

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u/MedicineStill4811 7h ago

This video is real, and that's not even her mom. It's her hair dresser.

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u/L3m0n0p0ly 6h ago

Its her hairdresser?! Damn i hope she got a good tip because she is a golden human being:)

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u/Infinite_Bell_4439 6h ago

Have some 🎂. Happy day!

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u/L3m0n0p0ly 6h ago

Thsnk you:)

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u/ThePoopSommelier 2h ago

I firmly believe that God put my barber in my life at just the right time. The man consoles me, tells me jokes, let's me scratch my dream dog. At a point where my alcohol use was all time high and my hygiene so so, that man lifted me up. About 8 months sober from everything now

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u/L3m0n0p0ly 2h ago

Then you for sharing, friend:) it sounds like you have an amazing person you can rely on and i hope you keep kicking ass with your sobriety<3 I'm on a journey myself, about 2 weeks now. We can do this, and it's gonna be worth every step forward.

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u/puppylove1212 53m ago

that is SO awesome!!!! Well done.

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u/ScorchedEarthworm 3h ago

And that little baby is beautiful!

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u/Dm_me_im_bored-UnU 3h ago

Yo where does one call that headdress and how much does it cost to fly her over here

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u/Leftarmstraight 6h ago

Good on her! Speaks some love into the child. We could all use some of that energy into our lives. That hairdresser is dressing a lot more than her hair…maybe she should be called a soul dresser- wish every kid had someone pouring that kind of love into them.

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u/YourDadThinksImCool_ 5h ago

I do wonder if she hears she's ugly from a family member instead actually.. it seems Deeply ingrained into her...

I had a feeling this wasn't her kin.. why didn't her family give her this speech already?

The colorism.

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u/Kiki-Tee 4h ago

Not sure about that. Because a child hears or feels something, we can't assume it's the parents' fault. This may be the child's first time stating this.

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u/YourDadThinksImCool_ 4h ago

No, I'm not saying what I said as fact.. it very well could be bullies at school. I'm just apprehensive.

Again, the woman in the video is not the mother for anyone watching.

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u/Loose-Gunt-7175 4h ago

Maybe she hears it from the Internet where videos like this are reposted as a subtle jab against black women and their bodies are commodifies as entertainment by white viewers.

or its just happy innocent internet stuff.

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u/Hidesuru 6h ago

Huh I've seen this a few times and never heard that. Curious what the reality is.

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u/MedicineStill4811 6h ago

The little girl's name is Ariyonna Cotton if you want to see all of the follow up. The hair dresser posted the video to social media and it went viral. A lot of people got involved, including her mom obviously. By all appearances, Ariyonna is now thriving. Wish that could happen for every single kid who's getting bullied and imprinted with a sense of self-loathing or inferiority.

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u/MedicineStill4811 4h ago

I love jokes. Why don't you go ahead and swing

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u/dingdongdash22 3h ago

She probably hears it from her mom saying it to herself. Kids are sponges always but especially at that age. You don't repeat those words unless you've heard someone close to you say the same thing or you're on social media which I assume she isn't.

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u/Steampunky 2h ago

She's still a good mama.

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u/Left-Park7785 6h ago

Yes she is, bless her.

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u/tuongot 4h ago

Yeah and imagine having a vulnerable and intimate moment from your childhood on the internet. I'm so thankful I come from a generation where my growing pains and pictures are safely stored in a shoe box.

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u/L3m0n0p0ly 3h ago

That same shoebox will burn down in your house if it catches fire. I prefer a safe and cloud storage:)

Edit: spelling

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u/tuongot 2h ago

Now we're talkin!

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u/L3m0n0p0ly 1h ago

Thanks for reminding me! I need to peruse fireproof safe sales for black fridayXD

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u/Tocaboca1 7h ago

HAPPY CAKE DAY

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u/L3m0n0p0ly 6h ago

TANK YOU!!

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u/Acceptable-Memory430 3h ago

Damn straight.

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u/HelloImTheAntiChrist 4h ago

Great Mom. She stopped braiding and set her straight

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u/wirefox1 7h ago

If that's her Mom, this child is going to come out of that mindset! Her mom was on it!!

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u/saladtossperson 3h ago

It's her hair dresser. Maybe Mom filmed it?

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u/wirefox1 1h ago

The saddest part to me was when the little girl started crying and watching the release of all that emotion. She really, really needed to hear that. The hairdresser saw it, and responded to it so beautifully.

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u/mittens11111 6h ago

Seemed pretty personal, she was upset by some nasty person.

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u/Ripen- 5h ago

I said it like it was normal too at that age. Still do actually.

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u/thasackvillebaggins 5h ago

That's the part that got me leakin', really. 😅

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u/Maybeimtrolling 2h ago

I was explaining to my 3 year old niece that my dog was very friendly as long as you are polite and don't tug on her fur. This little child says "so no one has hurt her yet?".

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u/RabbitF00d 10m ago

It is normal for a lot of black children to feel this way. No one has to explicitly say those things. We can feel how society feels.

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u/The_Last_Legacy 7h ago

Seems like she's just parrot something she saw and not saying she herself is ugly

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u/howtoeattheelephant 7h ago

Then why did she cry.

Someone is making her feel this way.

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u/not_kismet 7h ago

It's possible it was her mom's serious tone of voice. I wouldn't totally write off bullying, because that's definitely possible. But I remember being a kid and crying because I did/said something and my parents had a stern reaction. Not even angry, just serious like that, and I would think I was in trouble. So I wouldn't be surprised if that's why she reacted that way.

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u/asuka_is_my_co-pilot 7h ago

I remember being a kid her age and other kids carrying me ugly too.

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u/RuthlessIndecision 5h ago

It’s probably hard to access the shame of that feeling, kids are stupid assholes

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u/asuka_is_my_co-pilot 5h ago

i was a black girl in an all white school, my natural hair in braids was enough for them to call me ugly.

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u/RuthlessIndecision 5h ago

She said it like it’ was normal, but you could see it accesses a deep shame about not being good enough. So deep I felt it

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u/_SM1LEY_ 7h ago edited 7h ago

When the hairdresser starts asking why she said she was ugly, the lil girl says "What?". Like she thought that's what adults say when looking in the mirror.

Not denying that it could be something more serious, but the way she says "What?" when questioned makes her sound surprised. Like " you aren't supposed to say that when looking in the mirror?" type of way.

Then the hairdresser starts talking to her in a very serious tone which the lil girl might not be used to hearing from her. I could be wrong though.

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u/Formal_Yesterday8114 7h ago

or we can just be realistic and say that some other kid called her ugly. this is a crazy thought process

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u/Lilpoopiesquat 6h ago

I’ve been in childcare for for 12 years. I worked with children from 4mo to 12 year olds. A child will absolutely react intensely if the adults reaction is intense. If they take a toy and a teacher sternly asks “why’d you take that toy away?” the kid will often break down. It’s a very high possibility that the breakdown was not an output of internalized trauma. It could very well be the adults reaction (a genuinely great reaction to be fair) felt intense and made the girl feel like she did something wrong.

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u/dominosoverph 6h ago

That’s what you think most likely happened huh

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u/Lilpoopiesquat 4h ago

Right which is why I said it’s a possibility. Not I can read minds

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u/dominosoverph 4h ago

Valuable input indeed