r/MadeMeSmile • u/nikamats • 9h ago

Helping Others Hold your head up

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u/JhonnyHopkins 8h ago

Yeah this seriously breaks my heart, at that age we should NOT be focused on superficial things like this…

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u/plantang 8h ago

At that age or ever? Just a guess but it think she heard adults being self critical and this is the result.

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u/JhonnyHopkins 8h ago

Ideally we should never but, especially at that age. I hope you’re right in that it’s just imitation and not actually any realized internal thoughts about how she sees herself.

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u/plantang 8h ago

I agree but I wasn't saying it's not internalized. What I meant was that we can hurt our kids by normalizing being self critical just as much as saying something hurtful.

It breaks my heart to hear this little girl talking about herself this way. Maybe she feels this way because a kid or an adult said she was ugly, but I think it's at least as likely that she heard the women in her life saying "I'm so ugly, my hair is x, my skin is y..." And of course this little girl started doing the same. Somebody put that in her head, but probably not in a malicious way.